Auburn University Rush--Fall 2007

elainebenice · #1 08-12-2007, 03:56 PM

After several very emotional and trying phone calls today....I have an update.

My sister was invited back to 3 parties today and let me be very clear this time - I KNOW this is wonderful and a spot that many women wish they were in. One of the 3 was Sorority B, which is good, but for some unexplained reason, best friend decided at the last minute she was going just drop out!!! Just when I think things have gotten easier, they make a complete 180. I know one thing, I'm as ready for this to be over as my sister is. I think my sister was ok until best friend dropped out unexpectedly and then she just really freaked out and now is just ready for this to be over.

She went to 1 party this morning and has 2 this afternoon. The last being B. According to her, she's completely made up her mind that she is NOT accepting a bid from any group. Obviously, I told her I didn't think there was any need for her to waste her time going any parties today if she had already made up her mind, but this began a partially "insane rant" on her part. LOL I really believe the heat and the stress has finally gotten to her b/c at one point she told me that the truth was, she was only going b/c she was hungry and they have pettifores!!!! I wasn't expecting that one for sure. Honestly, I think she is really just at a meltdown point now. I feel so sorry for her.

I feel like I just can win, though. When I told her earlier that it was perfectly fine if she chose not to pledge, she said she was worried about not being able to participate in some campus activities w/o a sorority behind her, i.e. sga, tiger hostesses, etc if she didn't pledge. I thought this meant she wanted to pledge, but was maybe on the fence about Sorority B. So, being the helpful (crazy/pressuring) big sister I am, I make a few calls and talk to some of my friends about B and get some good reports that I **thought** would make her decision easier or help in some way.....oh how I was soooo wrong. Apparently, this call was NOT to help, but to "pressure her" when I had just told her it was fine with me whatever her decision was and it was her's to make.

At this point, there will be NO further calls from this big sister and whatever will happen will happen. I will really be happy for her no matter what she decides. I'm just ready for this to be over.

mom - i think you really have what you truly believe are your daughter's best interests at heart, but there is no point in second guessing things that happened this past week, especially with her. she has been through enough, trust me. like i said earlier, i don't think its fair to sugarcoat things when you are already obviously confused about what has been happening and the way rush works. i could tell you a million things that would probably help to clear things up a little about the "selection" process at auburn, but this story may be one of the best - a girl was dropped by a certain sorority who's sister was was an active sister in the sorority at the time. now, if that doesn't tell you that your daughter could have done everything she was supposed to, looked great, had great conversations, and STILL been dropped by everyone, then i don't know what will. the bottom line that no one is really willing to say is - for the most part, it's all about who you know and the power that person/persons has w/in the sorority at that time. this is what makes it so hard on EVERYONE this week, the girls and family members. of course, there are exceptions to this, but i'll be the bad guy and just cut through all the bs and tell you the truth.

UGAalum94 · #2 08-12-2007, 04:51 PM

Auburn mom,

Those are some amazing results, and your daughter is in a wonderful position to join a group. I can't wait to hear the final outcome!

AnchorAlumna · #3 08-12-2007, 05:08 PM

Wow, Elaine, yeah, sounds like she is WAY overstressed. Good luck to you both, dear!

PhiMuLady150 · #4 08-12-2007, 05:14 PM

Aww it sounds like she is definitly very very stressed out. I think you are wise to back off and see what comes up tomorrow. I really think the stress, sleep deprevation and week as a whole has gotten to your sister. Keep your chin up and we will all hope for the best tomorrow!

KSUViolet06 · #5 08-12-2007, 05:28 PM

To bring the thread back around, I hope things turn out well for your daughter, AuburnMom!

PhiMuLady150 · #6 08-12-2007, 05:30 PM

I meant to add this to my previous post but what great news AuburnMom! I will keep my fingers crossed for her!

twinkle555 · #7 08-13-2007, 06:42 PM

Im so glad Kate got a bid to _________!! (Gosh i wish i knew)

WarEagle07- Will YOU reveal what happened to your daughter for us???

REE1993 · #8 08-13-2007, 06:47 PM

I read the list, and I have a guess based on one of her emails, and I believe that "Kate" was a pseudonym. I won't share how I think I know, but if I am right, she is a lucky gal!!!

PM me if you want to know my guess

AOII Angel · #9 08-13-2007, 06:58 PM

Not to worry, ladies! The thread has not been ruined!!! I just scanned the bidlist...there are three Katies..two from IL and one from PA who went KKG and DDD. Several other northern girls with various names went DZ and SK. I;m sure there are plenty more...I got bored looking! We still get to hear from mom where Kate found her home!

Denise_DPhiE · #10 08-13-2007, 06:58 PM

So there are a bunch of girls at bottom out of alpha order....snap bids???

There were two Katie's from IL so Kate could be here or about 50 other girls who are not from the deep south. Missouri and IN had a couple too.

No Jersey girls though.

Oh, and how does Kappa have 66?????? Were they under total?

augreekfan · #11 08-13-2007, 07:19 PM

The girls at the bottom were omitted in the preparation of the list per one of the members I spoke to this afternoon. As for KKG taking quota additions...the chapter is quite large. They probably used quota additions to take girls who listed Kappa first, but were still available after matching. This is the one time you can do this. The nice thing is that no one knows (except panhellenic) who was in the original group taken in quota and who might have been very blessed to be a quota addition. AU's rush is brutal. Congratulations to Kate and to her mom!!! Whew!! Can't wait to see which is the lucky group.

gogreekmom · #12 08-12-2007, 05:32 PM

I am so happy for your daughter AuburnMom!! I am hoping for the very best for her!!

oldrusheenowmom · #13 08-12-2007, 05:36 PM

Here is hoping that things work out well for Auburnmom's Kate and all young ladies at Auburn.

1908Revelations · #14 08-12-2007, 05:42 PM

AuburnMom.....feel free to post the rest of your daughters story we really want to hear it. It is not that you are rubbing it in the other peoples face, but this is the thread you started about your daughters rush!

If someone wants to post a rush story......Please start another thread or find one where it is appropriate.

Thanks

I know I am not a mod, but if someone does not get in a sorority their life is not over!!

elainebenice · #15 08-12-2007, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

AuburnMom.....feel free to post the rest of your daughters story we really want to hear it. It is not that you are rubbing it in the other peoples face, but this is the thread you started about your daughters rush!

If someone wants to post a rush story......Please start another thread or find one where it is appropriate.

Thanks

I know I am not a mod, but if someone does not get in a sorority their life is not over!!

i can only assume this was directed at me. i apologize, but i have been posting updates in this thread for several days now and have never implied in ANY way that i felt auburnmom was rubbing anything in anyone's face, especially not mine. the title of this thread is "auburn university rush - fall 2007." obviously, your interpretation of that title is somewhat different than mine b/c i thought this was the APPROPRIATE thread to post stories dealing with "auburn university rush - fall 2007." i also stated in my first post that i was not attempting to "hijack" auburnmom's thread. auburnmom - i apologize if you felt i did this or attempted to steal your thread in any way at all. this was not my intention. i wish your daughter all the best and hope everything works out well for her.

here's a "revelation" for you - i don't belive 200pt font is necessary to make a point. it only makes you look silly, especially when you tell someone to find a thread that is "appropriate" to post their stories and if they looked for one to do exactly that......they would find THIS ONE based on the title. thanks for the helpful post though.