Relationship - Taking a Break

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i second that! nothing makes me feel better than going to the mall and buying a hot pair of shoes...something that makes other guys stare at my legs when we are out together ...i have a cousin, not married a whole year yet and every week they are divorcing, or so they say. giving each other space certainly helps that, if you are always up underneath each other you dont have time to miss each other. take a break, a girls weekend away or see a game with the guys, just make sure you come back lol!

Nothing wrong with doing fun things and hanging out with your friends. I agree 100% about not sitting up under your significant other all the time, but that all depends on where ya'll are hanging out, and how much ya'll are hanging out.

Also, I disagree with you when you say you would buy a pair of shoes so other men will look at your legs. Now if you said you bought some shoes to look good for yourself or your significant other then that's cool, but unless you're single, you shouldn't be trying to turn other men on. Not cool. Well, I wouldn't like it if my girl or wife was doing that mess. Whatever floats your boat though.

If my girl or wife said she was going to hang out with her friends, I would be cool with it as long as it was somewhere decent. To me a club or a strip club is not. There's no way I would be with a woman that hangs out at night clubs, and strip clubs (I'm not saying you, but some married men/women do). Hey, if that's the type of crowd she likes to hang around, that's fine by me, we just won't be together, that's all. They say birds of a feather flock together, so for me it's good to see what kinds of friends she's close to.

Btw: Hanging out with friends weekly while married I'm not down with either. Your spouse should be your best friend. Kickin' it weekly with girlfriends is too much. I'd have to let a woman like that go.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

If my girl or wife said she was going to hang out with her friends, I would be cool with it as long as it was somewhere decent. To me a club or a strip club is not. There's no way I would be with a woman that hangs out at night clubs, and strip clubs (I'm not saying you, but some married men/women do). Hey, if that's the type of crowd she likes to hang around, that's fine by me, we just won't be together, that's all. They say birds of a feather flock together, so for me it's good to see what kinds of friends she's close to.

Btw: Hanging out with friends weekly while married I'm not down with either. Your spouse should be your best friend. Kickin' it weekly with girlfriends is too much. I'd have to let a woman like that go.

i agree. people neglect to remember why they went to the clubs BEFORE they were in a relationship. that shouldnt be going on in an exclusive situation. my man and i will go together on occasion. sometimes we just want to go bump & grind on a dance floor with a few drinks in us. and at the end of the night, i can take him home!

my fiance sees his best friend maybe once a week or so. there is no constant hanging out, not that i dont love his friends, because i really do like every one of them, but he isnt gonna run around and chill while im stuck in the house pregnant . damn that! i think another thing i noticed is that the older the guy gets, and the more settled his friends get (kids, jobs, wives, etc) the less time everyone else has to hang out. they are all content sometimes just renting a movie and watching it at the other persons house, for a change of environment.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i agree. people neglect to remember why they went to the clubs BEFORE they were in a relationship. that shouldnt be going on in an exclusive situation. my man and i will go together on occasion. sometimes we just want to go bump & grind on a dance floor with a few drinks in us. and at the end of the night, i can take him home!

my fiance sees his best friend maybe once a week or so. there is no constant hanging out, not that i dont love his friends, because i really do like every one of them, but he isnt gonna run around and chill while im stuck in the house pregnant . damn that! i think another thing i noticed is that the older the guy gets, and the more settled his friends get (kids, jobs, wives, etc) the less time everyone else has to hang out. they are all content sometimes just renting a movie and watching it at the other persons house, for a change of environment.

Something must be wrong with me then. I just don't hang out at clubs nor do I drink, never have and I never will. Almost everyone I know drinks and either has clubbed or still clubs. I do think it's great that you two go to the clubs together. I mean if you are going to go, go together. I don't understand why couples can't do things together. What's wrong with doing things together? I know if I were married and my wife told me I want to divorce for a few hours to hang with my girls. I would tell her I want a divorce FOR REAL. I'm not down with that mess at all.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Something must be wrong with me then. I just don't hang out at clubs nor do I drink, never have and I never will. Almost everyone I know drinks and either has clubbed or still clubs. I do think it's great that you two go to the clubs together. I mean if you are going to go, go together. I don't understand why couples can't do things together. What's wrong with doing things together? I know if I were married and my wife told me I want to divorce for a few hours to hang with my girls. I would tell her I want a divorce FOR REAL. I'm not down with that mess at all.

most of my friends are single, and for some reason everytime we all manage to have babysitters/nights off they want to go clubbing. the closest to that i want to go to without my man is a restaurant with a live band or something. and thats cool with them. it has a semi-club atmosphere but with a more "grown-folk" attitude...

lets face it. you have to spend time with other people. it doesnt have to be at an inappropriate place! its not whether or not i trust him, i just dont trust those gold diggin hoochies that will completely ignore the wedding band on his finger. hell, if he gets hit on at Walmart or the gas station, i cant help that lol! i can voice my opinion about anything else!

[Buttonz]

I was at a wedding Sunday night of a couple that dated 4-5 years ago for awhile (I think close to a year) broke up, and got back together last summer...they got engaged in April and got married Sunday night. So it works for some people!