Is it time to change who we think of as legacies?

UGAalum94 · #1 07-31-2007, 04:00 PM

The saddest thing to me would be a legacy who felt that she let her mom or sister down by being cut from the group.

It really is important not to put that pressure on the PNMs since so little of it is in their control.

adpiucf · #2 07-31-2007, 04:03 PM

And as PGD's post pointed out-- it doesn't matter who wrote your recommendation or how high up your legacy member is-- nothing is a guarantee. But also as his post pointed out-- the best place for you is maybe not the place you originally imagined it to be... and look at how great his daughter's experience turned out! She may not have ever had the chance to find out where she belonged if her "legacy" was an auto-lock.

NutBrnHair · #3 07-31-2007, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

The saddest thing to me would be a legacy who felt that she let her mom or sister down by being cut from the group.

It really is important not to put that pressure on the PNMs since so little of it is in their control.

Yeah, wait to put pressure on them after they get invited to your pref party!

UGAalum94 · #4 07-31-2007, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

Yeah, wait to put pressure on them after they get invited to your pref party!

Exactly!

DeltaBetaBaby · #5 07-31-2007, 07:41 PM

1) If a legacy doesn't make grades, do you still invite her back for round 2? It seems like two policies from HQ conflict in that situation. We never had the issue come up, but I am sure other chapters have.

2) If you got a leg intro form from a mother, and her daughter did not put her affiliation on her rush registration form, what would you think of that? Several posters said they would advise their daughter not to put it on there, but I would start to wonder why the woman didn't want to be in our chapter.

MSKKG · #6 07-31-2007, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

1) If a legacy doesn't make grades, do you still invite her back for round 2? It seems like two policies from HQ conflict in that situation. We never had the issue come up, but I am sure other chapters have.

2) If you got a leg intro form from a mother, and her daughter did not put her affiliation on her rush registration form, what would you think of that? Several posters said they would advise their daughter not to put it on there, but I would start to wonder why the woman didn't want to be in our chapter.

1) Unless there is some limit to how many PNMs may be invited back to Round 2, IMO there would be no harm in asking a legacy back, even though she didn't have the grades.

2) I wouldn't wonder that. I would think that she didn't want her legacy status to adversely affect her chances of having a fair recruitment by putting it on the common recruitment registration form that goes to all chapters. By letting her mom send the legacy form, she was happy to let her mom's chapter know of the connection but didn't want all the groups to know.

UGAalum94 · #7 07-31-2007, 08:00 PM

A girl I went through rush with was in the first situation. Her sister told her in advance that she would be invited to second round but then cut. (She was an in-house legacy, but she was below the national minimum.) That's what happened.

In the second situation, I would assume that the girl was interested in the chapter because her mom sent the notice, but that she didn't want other chapters to see her legacy status in case she got cut by your chapter. I would assume she was a savvy PNM who was being careful.

DeltaBetaBaby · #8 07-31-2007, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

In the second situation, I would assume that the girl was interested in the chapter because her mom sent the notice, but that she didn't want other chapters to see her legacy status in case she got cut by your chapter. I would assume she was a savvy PNM who was being careful.

I just don't think that the average reference chair would make the same assumption. I think that it may seem as though mom was pushing the PNM, even though the PNM wasn't really interested.

UGAalum94 · #9 07-31-2007, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I just don't think that the average reference chair would make the same assumption. I think that it may seem as though mom was pushing the PNM, even though the PNM wasn't really interested.

How could the PM correct that? Could she include a personal note to the chapter explaining how happy she is to meet the group that's been such a big part of her mom's life?

(I know that sounds cheesy, but if the stories about legacies to other chapters being released with the assumption that they will pledge the legacy chapter are true, it's a huge gamble to list it on a form other chapters will see.)