Flip-flops

[minDyG]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Sometimes I think they're just trying to weed people out who don't know what the real scoop is.

That's part of the point of my question. How is that in any way fair? I came from a really small town and knew NOTHING about Greek Life before I went through (informal) recruitment...but had I been one of the PNMs who just read the FAQ on the website and didn't know any better, I may have gotten cut from every house! How can a campus Panhellenic rationalize letting awesome girls slip through the cracks like that just because they want to keep their website PC? Why not just put a disclaimer that says something along the lines of, "Chapters may cut girls for any number of reasons, among those may be appearance, etc."? I just don't see what harm that would do.

[SWTXBelle]

When you see this thread name, do you start singing . . (and doing the hand motions - flip flop!)

We are the Gamma Phi Betas
We'd like to tell you
We are so glad you're here.
We're sisters ever true (flip flop!)
Friendships for me and for you (flip flop!)
We'd like to take this time (flip flop)
to welcome you here!
Gam-ma Phi Beta, Gam-ma Phi Beta, Gam-ma Phi Beta girls!

[navane]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

When you see this thread name, do you start singing . . (and doing the hand motions - flip flop!)

We are the Gamma Phi Betas
We'd like to tell you
We are so glad you're here.
We're sisters ever true (flip flop!)
Friendships for me and for you (flip flop!)
We'd like to take this time (flip flop)
to welcome you here!
Gam-ma Phi Beta, Gam-ma Phi Beta, Gam-ma Phi Beta girls!

.....Kelly

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by minDyG

That's part of the point of my question. How is that in any way fair? I came from a really small town and knew NOTHING about Greek Life before I went through (informal) recruitment...but had I been one of the PNMs who just read the FAQ on the website and didn't know any better, I may have gotten cut from every house! How can a campus Panhellenic rationalize letting awesome girls slip through the cracks like that just because they want to keep their website PC? Why not just put a disclaimer that says something along the lines of, "Chapters may cut girls for any number of reasons, among those may be appearance, etc."? I just don't see what harm that would do.

1) By certain schools/chapters criteria you're not awesome unless you were born and bred to be in a sorority. So you would already know what to wear.

2) If a school put that kind of disclaimer in print the chapters would get mad that they were being put in a negative/superficial light. Even if it can be true at times.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by minDyG

That's part of the point of my question. How is that in any way fair?

It's not. It's one of the things I will never understand about some competitive recruitments. I don't get why they would say in their recruitment books that something is appropriate to wear when it's really not.

If anything, I think there should at least be a disclaimer saying something like "This is the attire suggested by Panhellenic, however many PNMs choose to wear something dressier for this round."

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by minDyG

Why not just put a disclaimer that says something along the lines of, "Chapters may cut girls for any number of reasons, among those may be appearance, etc."? I just don't see what harm that would do.

The point is that we aren't supposed to cut girls based on appearance. We're supposed to seem inclusive, even though image cuts happen. It's like the rec thing: we aren't supposed to cut girls for not having recs because we should be getting them ourselves... but it happens.

Originally Posted by minDyG

I may have gotten cut from every house!

Liar. You are way too cute for that. I would have loved you despite your flip flops and I would have found you a rec.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by 33girl

From the White House to Rush! LOL

In all seriousness, those girls at the White House were a great example of what NOT to do - wear dressy dresses with flip-flops. It looks terrible. Your shoes should go with your outfit. Like AXiDGrl said, there's nothing wrong with wearing flip-flops if it's philanthropy day and you're wearing shorts & a t-shirt - you certainly wouldn't wear heels then!

Why anyone would take a perfectly adorable sundress or other dress, then add flip flops is beyond me! It just shows a lack of style.

Of course, I keep remembering that a lot of people call them "shower shoes", so I don't like to see them in anything but the most casual clothes.

[alrphimu]

we've never cut girls based on footwear choice (not that i know of), but think about it -- a lot to most sorority houses have hardwood or tile floors, which can be slippery in flip flops...and you risk that annoying flip flopping sound...also, during recruitment last year i witnessed a PNM walking down the stair, slightly trip a bit, her flip flop broke, and she fell down half a flight of stairs. we didn't make a big deal of it, and she is one of my sisters now...but it was, i'm sure, embarassing to her...flats solve this problem...way to go flats! at my school the first day of recruitment is super casual -- PHC provided T-shirts, jean skirts -- and most girls wear flats or cute, trendy sneakers (think more of streeth sneakers, like pumas, rather than nike shox). and yeah, some where flip flops. and i feel bad for those girls when it rains.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

...We're supposed to seem inclusive, even though image cuts happen.

It has, and will always be, MUTUAL SELECTION.

We must continue to maintain that.

[SWTXBelle]

Thanks, Navane - those are some cute shirts!

[NUBlue&Blue]

So are you just talking about the spongy style flip flops, like toe goz, and rainbows and reefs?

My daughter's friend just bought an adorable pair of black flip flop style dressy sandals--they're leather, they have a small heel and look cute with a sundress. Would you consider something like this "flip flops" or "sandals"?

The only time my daughter wore flip flops with a dress was on bid night when they run for the roses. If you don't get to the front, you might not get a rose, so you don't want heels slowing you down!

[bejazd]

what is "running for the roses" ???

I hope that's not chasing after a man with a rose. I never chase a man anywhere. He either brings the roses to me (preferably white!) or he sleeps on the couch.

[knitsnpurls]

I think it really depends on the campus. At my school, everyone wears Rainbows almost year round: rain, shine, hot, or cold. My chapter is even wearing them for a couple of recuritment rounds. So, it's definitely not uncommon to see them worn here with sundresses and skirts, people even go out to bars and clubs in them. That said, for dressier rounds of recruitment, I walked from house-to-house in flipflops and then changed into heels there. Then again, there's always the option of wearing a "dressy" flipflop.

[NUBlue&Blue]

After dinner on bid day, the girls run from fraternity to fraternity singing their newly learned sorority songs to the new fraternity pledges; the pledges then sing back and give the girls roses. But...since most of the fraternity pledge classes are smaller than the sorority pledge classes, sometimes there are not enough roses to go around, so getting in the front of the pack will get you a rose at every house. They end up with HUGE bouquets of all different colors of roses.

Originally Posted by bejazd

what is "running for the roses" ???

I hope that's not chasing after a man with a rose. I never chase a man anywhere. He either brings the roses to me (preferably white!) or he sleeps on the couch.