Playas till the day we die...

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by 357Nupe

I agree with you but, I have experienced times (well before I met my wife) when I thought their was clear understanding that the relationship was not going to get serious and have still had to answer the where is this relationship going question. To which I responded, the same place we agreed it was going when we started it, no where. There are some big differences between what men and women (women and men, sorry Ninjapoodle didn't mean to put the man first) mean when the agreement is this is just a physical thing.

alas, men everywhere will always have that problem...once im told, i usually take you at your word until i hear otherwise. women think they can change men and we can't. we also think you will change your minds later. you usually dont.

@NinjaPoodle, i feel u on your last point. we were both raised Christian, but have kinda stopped going to church, so i think our view as a couple still incorporated Christian values.

if you are not a Christian, they dont have to worry you one bit, and they shouldnt. there might be plenty of non-Christians who still believe in that old-fashioned family dynamic and if that is something that they agree on then its perfectly fine. i, for one, Christian or not, would never let a non-Christian man try to pull that role on me. what does he have to back it up?

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

It's interesting that the people responding to this thread have been majority christian. Is there anyone who (besides me) is not Christian that has an opinion? It just seems very one sided..or not hetrosexual? Some other viewpoint would be interesting.

I'm not a Christian, and I sort-of threw my two cents in.

Overall this thread has been very interesting...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

So I spoke to a friend of mine (a Kappa) who is close to being clergy. I told him about this thread and your comments. Since all I wanted to know was WHY, I asked him what he thought from a Christian point of view, since this is where you were coming from. He said the exact same things you did all the way down the CEO examples!! Now I understand your point however I still don’t agree with it and never will. Like I originally said, I have issues with organized religion and them telling people how and what to think. While I do believe in God, I am not a Christian and thus have a problem with the whole hierarchy thing. That’s just me. I see woman and man standing together in front of God as one unit and not God, Jesus, Man then Woman. Also, I have recently decided to search for a man instead of “letting him find me”. That’s how my previous relationships started. The ones that didn’t work.

You remind me of my sister, the only difference is she's a Christian and anti-greek. Other than you being greek, she would agree with you totally.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Nope, I'm going to find him. All of my other relationships were the result of him finding me. I need to find what I consider acceptable. But everything else, yes sort of, because there will not be a struggle for power. I don't subscribe to that.




It's hard to tap into it when guys put on a front.



You are right, I respect that.

Dayuuuuuuuum! NinjaPoodle said she's gonna find her a joker.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it. I don't believe that all women are "blind" to the fact they can't spot a hoe. It comes with the woman setting standards first and then both being open about the relationship. If all she wants is a FWB and he does too, then hand claps for then, but if they aren't on the same page then of course things like this will happen. I know from experience. With my first relationship, all kinds of bells and whistles went off, but I didn't listen. Yes, he was a dog but I was the stupid one for contining to lie down with him and get the fleas.

It doesn't matter. A woman can tell a low down joker where she stands until she's blue in the face, all he's going to do is agree, act like he's down with the same committed program, hang around until he gets the nookie, bang it a few times, find a new woman and break out as soon as he feels he has to do some work to keep the relationship alive. That lazy bastard. So it doesn't matter. Remember, all he wants to do is see how many women he can leave standing there with their panties around their ankles. Trifling, low down, no good, nookie stealing joker.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

LOL! For some reason, this made me laugh.

It may sound funny, but I really do see people like that as garbage. Seriously. I hate that FWB crap.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

It doesn't matter. A woman can tell a low down joker where she stands until she's blue in the face, all he's going to do is agree, act like he's down with the same committed program, hang around until he gets the nookie, bang it a few times, find a new woman and break out as soon as he feels he has to do some work to keep the relationship alive. That lazy bastard. So it doesn't matter. Remember, all he wants to do is see how many women he can leave standing there with their panties around their ankles. Trifling, low down, no good, nookie stealing joker.

if some of these women would keep the nookie to themselves, or at least be picky about who gets it, we could give these jokers time to "expose" themselves for who they are! lets face it tho, some of y'all are Oscar-calibur actors lol! and where some men are too lazy to put in work, maybe the problem is we need to learn how to put in a little less...?

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

It's interesting that the people responding to this thread have been majority christian. Is there anyone who (besides me) is not Christian that has an opinion? It just seems very one sided..or not hetrosexual? Some other viewpoint would be interesting.

I'm not Christian. I don't have a problem with the philosophy of a man leading, but I do feel he needs to earn that. I would have to trust him to allow him to do so.

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

It's interesting that the people responding to this thread have been majority christian. Is there anyone who (besides me) is not Christian that has an opinion? It just seems very one sided..or not hetrosexual? Some other viewpoint would be interesting.

I am a christian, however I believe a lot of things that some other christians may not agree with me about. For example, I think that same sex marriages should be allowed. See, if christians believed that they should not judge people they wouldn't go out making people's lives miserable. Just my opinion. Either hate it or agree with it, but I own it.

BTW: Some women need to hold on to their standards. There is not ONE woman who can tell me that she didn't hear the bells and whistles going off when she suspected her man was not going to do right. We all have ignored that gut feeling.

[sbx_six_eye]

As far as the original post goes, I don't think it's limited to just men...I know a few women who have the mindset of "getting what they can get" from men. It's a dangerous game to play though...karma is nothing to play with!! (I've seen it in action...lol)

As far as the biblical discussion goes...I'm not sure if people really understand the "submitting" issue. I don't know if it is a lack of teaching...or a lack of truly understanding what the concept means. I think both parties should really be honest with each other in the beginning and discuss the tough issues before walking down the aisle. (Preferable in pre-marital counseling..lol)

[marquise1911]

The issues are too thick in here. I can't breathe!!!!!

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally Posted by marquise1911

The issues are too thick in here. I can't breathe!!!!!

Man, I try not to post (for fear of persecution), but I can't help reading this stuff...this is internet CRACK!

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by KAPPAtivating

Man, I try not to post (for fear of persecution), but I can't help reading this stuff...this is internet CRACK!

I soooo agree! Especially the Christian sorority thread.

Hope you have not been beating up little kids lately!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

if some of these women would keep the nookie to themselves, or at least be picky about who gets it, we could give these jokers time to "expose" themselves for who they are! lets face it tho, some of y'all are Oscar-calibur actors lol! and where some men are too lazy to put in work, maybe the problem is we need to learn how to put in a little less...?

"Oscar-caliburs" is hitting it right on the nose. You're absolutely right. These jokers will act as long as they can, depending on the woman, and how bad he wants it from her. Most women fall right for it and give it up and then the joker only starts to call her at 2 and 3am. The classic "booty call".

There's way too much of this mess going on today, so I give up. I'll just sit back and watch these trifling jokers catch Aids and every other STD.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by sbx_six_eye

As far as the original post goes, I don't think it's limited to just men...I know a few women who have the mindset of "getting what they can get" from men. It's a dangerous game to play though...karma is nothing to play with!! (I've seen it in action...lol)

As far as the biblical discussion goes...I'm not sure if people really understand the "submitting" issue. I don't know if it is a lack of teaching...or a lack of truly understanding what the concept means. I think both parties should really be honest with each other in the beginning and discuss the tough issues before walking down the aisle. (Preferable in pre-marital counseling..lol)

C'mon now. You know in this day in age a joker won't be honest with the next joker. Lies have to be told and games have to be played 1st, then they can attempt marriage. Keep dreamin' though.