Letters of Ref,help needed

First, let me start off by saying that this is in no way directed to you, katestar. This is something I've noticed over a period of time.

I have to throw out a word of caution to PNMs who come onto GC asking for rec help, especially PNMs who cop a snarky attitude with "seasoned" GCers or those who leave questionable posts.

You're basically giving up your anonymity when you give your information out to someone you don't know on GC. You might think "Awesome! I secured an info-only rec!" But how do you know for sure that the woman didn't really write you a "NO REC" and check off the "I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS WOMAN FOR MEMBERSHIP" box?

A lot has changed ever since adpiucf started her Recommendations thread. GC's evolved into something like no other -- and some GCers will stop at nothing to make sure you don't stand a chance at their house if they didn't like something you said on GC.

My advice? If you want a successful rush...lurk for a while and try to remain as anonymous as possible until after rush. Try to get a feel of GC so you know who the "nice people" are. People love rush threads, but you don't have to post just to feed them.

For every "nice" person on GC there are two more snarky ones. JMHO.

This post isn't meant to scare PNMs. I'm just throwing reality out there.

[katestar]

Wow.Alright, I might just not try to find those last letters from here.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by OTW

First, let me start off by saying that this is in no way directed to you, katestar. This is something I've noticed over a period of time.

I have to throw out a word of caution to PNMs who come onto GC asking for rec help, especially PNMs who cop a snarky attitude with "seasoned" GCers or those who leave questionable posts.

You're basically giving up your anonymity when you give your information out to someone you don't know on GC. You might think "Awesome! I secured an info-only rec!" But how do you know for sure that the woman didn't really write you a "NO REC" and check off the "I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS WOMAN FOR MEMBERSHIP" box?

A lot has changed ever since adpiucf started her Recommendations thread. GC's evolved into something like no other -- and some GCers will stop at nothing to make sure you don't stand a chance at their house if they didn't like something you said on GC.

My advice? If you want a successful rush...lurk for a while and try to remain as anonymous as possible until after rush. Try to get a feel of GC so you know who the "nice people" are. People love rush threads, but you don't have to post just to feed them.

For every "nice" person on GC there are two more snarky ones. JMHO.

This post isn't meant to scare PNMs. I'm just throwing reality out there.

Not to mention the great amount of sorority members who think trying to get recs off the internet is a HUGE no-no