Playas till the day we die...

[pinkies up]

Different strokes for different folks.
All I know is that I was already a complete person before I met my husband. We COMPLEMENT one another and I have learned (and am still learning) how to allow him to lead the household and the decisions. This doesn't mean that we don't discuss it first, but the thing is he has the final decision whether it be right or wrong. I have learned to trust him and the fact that he would not put the family in a bad situation. We do walk together, but I still know my place in the relationship. We support one another and we do have the right to disagree and speak our peace equally. I know how to handle business if he were to every get sick or leave. I'm not weak by any means. I am enjoying being spoiled at it's nothing wrong with it. Just my opinion.

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Different strokes for different folks.
All I know is that I was already a complete person before I met my husband. We COMPLEMENT one another and I have learned (and am still learning) how to allow him to lead the household and the decisions. This doesn't mean that we don't discuss it first, but the thing is he has the final decision whether it be right or wrong. I have learned to trust him and the fact that he would not put the family in a bad situation. We do walk together, but I still know my place in the relationship. We support one another and we do have the right to disagree and speak our peace equally. I know how to handle business if he were to every get sick or leave. I'm not weak by any means. I am enjoying being spoiled at it's nothing wrong with it. Just my opinion.

I was wondering when that word was gonna come up.

I'll just say that men say "I want a woman who is willing submit and let me lead". Well, women can't walk around submitting to every random man, you've got to prove that you are worth her submitting to you. You've got to prove that you have both of your best interests at heart.

[OneTimeSBX]

whoo lord, i went home last night and called my DADDY about this thread.
i explained the several differing views on here, and this is what he had to say...

the biblical stand point is this. the definition in the bible of a wife being submissive includes him heading the household and making THE BEST CHRISTIAN DECISIONS, and also dying for his wife. now, going by that definition, a lot of christian women wouldnt mind that set up. my dad said that he never does anything without my mom's input. ever. BUT there come times when he backs down because he knows how she feels, and vice versa. this all depends on one key element: A GOOD CHRISTIAN MAN.

Daddy also agreed with what i said earlier in this thread: part of heading a household (or as PrettyBoy compared it to a company) is prepping a substitute or successor. Dad may run the house, but mom can step up as well, ive seen her do it many times if he was away for work. in this case, he feels comfortable letting her do her thing without interfering in certain areas.

ALSO...he said that YES a lot of men take advantage of this role. men who dont even go to church feel that they should head a household in a biblical sense. in this case (not that they are bad husbands) he said he would be reluctant to be anything less than equals with him. Submission is probably where a lot of us women have the problem...the word sounds domineering. in the right situation, it truly is a walk together with a "speaker of the house" if you will.

BlueReign: i hope you find that prince! you deserve a break mama!

PrettyBoy: i respect your honesty on this thread...it has given me a lot to think about as far as my relationship goes, so whatever works for you, keep it up!

NinjaPoodle: giiiirl, i feel you on so many levels. it is definately refreshing to see women who can hold their own. if you feel certain parts dont affect you, then do you! my daddy said just to make sure you are equally yolked...i hope you find that man who is so on point, you can sit back and enjoy the ride!!

Dionysus: i think you found the solution. there wont be a power struggle if us women all get girlfriends!

[Senusret I]

Wow...... I'm glad I stay out of the heterocentric threads..... y'all be having voodoo curses and everything up and through here!

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Wow...... I'm glad I stay out of the heterocentric threads..... y'all be having voodoo curses and everything up and through here!

Dayum.

I think the point that everyone needs to remember is that you must first LOVE YOURSELF!!! Be your own best friend, provider, etc. When you are ready to be in a relationship, then all of these things will help you when you are with someone else. Both parties have to learn from one another and respect one another. It's a mutual thing. Everyone will not fit a mold of how to work your relationship and the key is finding what works for the both of you.

Like I have stated over and over, I did not wake up with the idea of being "led" by my husband. He had to prove that I could trust him and he did that with ACTIONS and not WORDS.
To each is own and the goal is for everyone to find their soul mate.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by jubilance1922

I was wondering when that word was gonna come up.

I'll just say that men say "I want a woman who is willing submit and let me lead". Well, women can't walk around submitting to every random man, you've got to prove that you are worth her submitting to you. You've got to prove that you have both of your best interests at heart.

I agree!

Originally Posted by 357Nupe

bossy a$$ AKA's.

Say what!

[357Nupe]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

I agree!


Say what!

Not saying that all AKA's are bossy just all the AKA's I know are bossy.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Wow...... I'm glad I stay out of the heterocentric threads..... y'all be having voodoo curses and everything up and through here!

lol!

[raggann03]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

whoo lord, i went home last night and called my DADDY about this thread.
i explained the several differing views on here, and this is what he had to say...

the biblical stand point is this. the definition in the bible of a wife being submissive includes him heading the household and making THE BEST CHRISTIAN DECISIONS, and also dying for his wife. now, going by that definition, a lot of christian women wouldnt mind that set up. my dad said that he never does anything without my mom's input. ever. BUT there come times when he backs down because he knows how she feels, and vice versa. this all depends on one key element: A GOOD CHRISTIAN MAN.

Daddy also agreed with what i said earlier in this thread: part of heading a household (or as PrettyBoy compared it to a company) is prepping a substitute or successor. Dad may run the house, but mom can step up as well, ive seen her do it many times if he was away for work. in this case, he feels comfortable letting her do her thing without interfering in certain areas.

ALSO...he said that YES a lot of men take advantage of this role. men who dont even go to church feel that they should head a household in a biblical sense. in this case (not that they are bad husbands) he said he would be reluctant to be anything less than equals with him. Submission is probably where a lot of us women have the problem...the word sounds domineering. in the right situation, it truly is a walk together with a "speaker of the house" if you will.

Exactly!!

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

NinjaPoodle: giiiirl, i feel you on so many levels. it is definately refreshing to see women who can hold their own. if you feel certain parts dont affect you, then do you! my daddy said just to make sure you are equally yolked...i hope you find that man who is so on point, you can sit back and enjoy the ride!!

Thanks, me too.