Would you date a guy that was not in a fraternity?

[elwoodpfiggs]

"So...What's up?? Isn't Greek life supposed to be about partying, not remembering the last time you were sober (like 1 guy i talked to), and getting girls (or atleast lying about it)."

Dear Soda, Kyle, and All Others:

I have been registered for a long time, and I have only posted once or twice. It is time to post again...

Soda's question is an absolutely legitimate one. What he's really asking is if the reputation of greek houses as portrayed in the media is correct. He can't be blamed for asking the question when so many greeks themselves (particuarly fraternity members, I think) perpetuate the mentality that greek houses are just places to drink and have sex.

I also understand EXACTLY what Kyle means when he writes about "deadweight" in a fraternity: people who do not join for the brotherhood and who will do as little as possible to maintain what they consider to be their ticket to unlimited partying. For many people, that is all a frat means. It is an real opportunity and honor to be given the chance to explain to somebody who is considering fraternity life what the word "fraternity" SHOULD mean...

Soda, if want to find a fraternity that will just be a place to meet girls and drink, there are certainly a lot of chapters you can go to that will be glad to have you. These guys, though, sometimes from the president right down to the pledges, have lost sight of (or maybe really never known) what the fraternity experience is all about. When I call a guy in my house "brother," I don't do it lightly. There is a bond, a trust, that comes along with a real commitment to greek life and to each other. It means 100 times more than all partying in the world. I like to think that, given the opportunity, I would lay down my life for another Kappa Sig without even thinking about it, and that he would do the same for me.

I pray that you will find a fraternity experience like this, and if you can't find one on your campus, don't pledge! Don't settle for anything less than real brotherhood. All the suprificial sex and drinking yourself into a stupor every night in the world can never begin to make up for the lack of it!

Phil
elwoodpfiggs@hotmail.com

[PhenomenalZTA]

Buttonz - weird about a GUY being obsessed with Strawberries. Are you still with him? If not I have a few sisters who might be interested!!!

Knoxstudent - To be lady like about it, G.D.I. stands for Gosh-Darned Independent, a title my husband takes pride in, for reasons unknown to me.

[kathykd2005]

I am also married to a non-Greek. While I was in college, I dated several Greeks and several non-Greeks. As long as the significant other is respectful of the organization one is involved in, who cares? My husband likes to joke around with me--for instance, he tells me Phi Mu is his favorite sorority, and every now and then begs me to tell him what AOT means (which of course is fun, because I will NEVER tell him)--but overall, he respects how much my organization means to me, and knows how much my organization has helped me through the years.