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06-21-2007, 04:22 PM
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End of story
I'd still like to read it! It's kinda like when the car that goes speeding past you ACTUALLY gets pulled over by the police!
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06-21-2007, 05:32 PM
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Can alumni write negative recs or do we usually just try to concentrate on every PNM's positives attributes?  It would be nice knowing who we don’t want in our chapters without having to sacrifice not inviting back other great girls. I know this would probably never ever work but it would be nice.
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06-21-2007, 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted by ErinIsBadNews
Can alumni write negative recs or do we usually just try to concentrate on every PNM's positives attributes? It would be nice knowing who we don’t want in our chapters without having to sacrifice not inviting back other great girls. I know this would probably never ever work but it would be nice. |
I know that multiple NPC orgs have a spot on the form for recs to check whether the PNM is recommended. It is totally possible to write a "negative rec" if you check that the PNM is not recommended. Why concentrate on the positive if the PNM is someone you wouldn't want for a sister?
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06-21-2007, 06:12 PM
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Originally Posted by dgdramadawg
I know that multiple NPC orgs have a spot on the form for recs to check whether the PNM is recommended. It is totally possible to write a "negative rec" if you check that the PNM is not recommended. Why concentrate on the positive if the PNM is someone you wouldn't want for a sister?
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Really? I had no idea! Some people like to look on the bright side of things, personally, I'd rather no the truth.
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06-21-2007, 07:42 PM
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Really? I had no idea! Some people like to look on the bright side of things, personally, I'd rather no the truth.
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The Phi Mu rec form is available on the private side of the website. It should answer your question.
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06-21-2007, 11:02 PM
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The Phi Mu rec form is available on the private side of the website. It should answer your question.
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Woo! Thanks! 
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06-21-2007, 05:43 PM
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Oh, alumnae write "negative recs" ( a bit of an oxymoron, but you know what I mean). I feel they need to be factual - not just "I don't like her" but "She has had 3 DUI convictions", or "She is already wearing your letters", or "She has made a habit of collecting ritual".Stuff like that . . .
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06-21-2007, 05:58 PM
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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
"She has made a habit of collecting ritual".Stuff like that . . .
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Speaking of which......I'd really like to write a no-rec for the person described above. Though I have a feeling some of my sisters have done this already.
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06-21-2007, 10:15 PM
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Speaking of which......I'd really like to write a no-rec for the person described above. Though I have a feeling some of my sisters have done this already.
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I believe that 2 is better than 1.
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06-21-2007, 10:23 PM
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I believe that 2 is better than 1.
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Are you all sure enough of all the details that you're really doing this?
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06-21-2007, 11:08 PM
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Are you all sure enough of all the details that you're really doing this?
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Yes.
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06-22-2007, 08:10 AM
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I believe that 2 is better than 1.
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If someone PMs me the details, I'll put one in. As of right now, I know the gist of the story, but not enough to write one  .
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06-23-2007, 12:53 AM
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I think that I said this before, but on one of my daughter's future college facebook groups, one girl actually posted all the stereotypes of the sororities (as told to her by her boyfriend or brother or something). They have another group about going greek and many many girls have said "I'm rushing ABC" or "I'm looking at ABC and XYZ because they're supposed to be the best". I am thinking "shut up or you'll be GDI". And then there are the Facebook photos open for all the world (or anybody in your network) to see. For pete's sake, you don't have to take 60 pictures and post ALL of them everytime you get into a car or go to a party with your friends. I think that so many kids just always get everything they want that they can't imagine that they wouldn't be the one doing the choosing.
My daughter has so many friends going to UGA--I just pray that we do not have another disappointing year. I have tried to talk to their mothers about getting the recs together, not getting your heart set on a certain sorority before you even get there, etc. and these girls are very aware of what happened last year, but I don't think they really grasp what it is going to be like.
One thing they need to KNOW is that "mutual selection" is not quite as mutual as they imagine. I think most of them believe they are in the power position, when it most definitely is the opposite.
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06-21-2007, 11:25 PM
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I'll PM you.
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06-23-2007, 09:39 AM
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I'll PM you.
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Can you PM me with the details too?
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