What to tell overconfident PNMs

[SWTXBelle]

The first thing I'd do is direct them to read some recruitment stories here on good ol GC.

[33girl]

Tell them to talk to their older sister (if she had a similar social status in high school) or other women she knows who have gone through similar situations.

[FSUZeta]

unfortunately, for girls like that, i don't if anything one says will be listened to. they may just have to learn it the hard way.

[KSUViolet06]

Some PNMs are overconfident because they misunderstand how recruitment works. I've had girls tell me that recruitment was "like sorority shopping" and they just "pick the ones they want." Not true.They don't get the mutual selection part of the process. Those girls who think like that are in for a rude awakening.

You aren't just "looking for a sorority", the sororities are also looking for quality sisters (among hundreds of equally qualified girls).

Also, to a girl who only wants the "top sorority", my advice to her is to consider all sororities fairly because quite frankly the top one might not want her. The so-called top groups only have X number of spots. Also, those girls should ask themselves "What if the sorority only wanted what they considered to be the 'top PNMs'?"

If all else fails, tell her: "Get over yourself, this is *insert competitive school here* everybody is just as *insert adjective here* as you are."

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Tell them to talk to their older sister (if she had a similar social status in high school) or other women she knows who have gone through similar situations.

Dammit, S! I was going to say the same thing. Fight Club rocks!

[tinydancer]

33girl, I don't remember saying that line that you quoted, but damn, that was one of my better ones!

[cuteASAbug]

If they don't want to listen, don't tell them anything. Everyone's got to grow up sometime.

[fishie]

When I went through recruitment, I heard another PNM tell an overconfident girl to not "be so cocky...[because] you aren't guaranteed a bid from any of the houses."

[adpiucf]

The best you can offer is advice into how the process works, how to be successful and what to expect.

However, people have a way of hearing what they want to hear. Eventually, they learn.

Kind of like the auditions rounds on American Idol.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by tinydancer

33girl, I don't remember saying that line that you quoted, but damn, that was one of my better ones!

It was in the Mary Kay thread that got bumped