A question for the Pretty Boys from a Pretty Girl.....

[cheerfulgreek]

I can understand the baggage part. I mean who would want someone with a ton of baggage? Some of my friends say I'm really picky. After I broke up with my x, I started dating again a couple of months later. I met this guy that I liked, but I really wanted to get to know him more. We dated a few more times until he started talking about his myspace account, and that totally lifted a red flag. I dunno, I just won't get serious with a guy who has a myspace account. I knew a married couple at my old job, and they are going through a divorce because of myspace. For some, there's nothing wrong with it, I just find it rather creepy and I think it would cause a bunch of problems for me in a relationship.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I knew a married couple at my old job, and they are going through a divorce because of myspace.

Nobody gets divorced strictly because of Myspace. Myspace is like Jamaica--it's not where you are that's the problem, but what you do when you get there.

Anywho, I don't think I could ever put a cap on past sexual partners because everyone is different. But, I look around at my friends who've had 3, 5, and 10+ partners and can't help but think "Who the hell would want that? That's past previously owned or even gently worn, YOU ARE USED." I just can't believe people would have such little respect for their health, their body, their reputation, etc. I can't hold the world to my standards, but common sense should tell you something. There's no such thing as "safe" sex anymore...were ALL those men worth the risk? All of them?

This whole thread is making me hum old-school TLC in my head: "Cuz to impress is not to undress me, that's only unless we agree--ya down wit OPP?!?"

[cheerfulgreek]

Well, he met someone on myspace and he also had women calling and hanging up when his wife would answer the phone. This is all according to her. She told me the girls were from his myspace site. Even before I started working with her, I never liked myspace and I never had any interest in it. Some of my sisters have it and everytime I look over their shoulders to see, it just looks so creepy to me. I think it just eliminates a ton of problems that would cause an unhealthy relationship. I don't think I'm that picky of a girl, and I don't have a ton of ridiculous red flags that PB has, but it's just something about myspace that would drive me away from a guy.

christiangirl, I understand totally what you mean about the high number of sexual partners some guys have. Yeah, I totally would perfer a guy who wasn't "USED" but if I was with a guy who had been with multiple partners, then I guess I would be o.k. with it as long as he was nice and faithful to me, but still in the back of my mind I would still want that innocent guy.

I think women who sleep around are just looking for love the wrong way. I really can't speak for the guys. They just like having sex.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Well, he met someone on myspace and he also had women calling and hanging up when his wife would answer the phone. This is all according to her. She told me the girls were from his myspace site. Even before I started working with her, I never liked myspace and I never had any interest in it. Some of my sisters have it and everytime I look over their shoulders to see, it just looks so creepy to me. I think it just eliminates a ton of problems that would cause an unhealthy relationship. I don't think I'm that picky of a girl, and I don't have a ton of ridiculous red flags that PB has, but it's just something about myspace that would drive me away from a guy.

christiangirl, I understand totally what you mean about the high number of sexual partners some guys have. Yeah, I totally would perfer a guy who wasn't "USED" but if I was with a guy who had been with multiple partners, then I guess I would be o.k. with it as long as he was nice and faithful to me, but still in the back of my mind I would still want that innocent guy.

I think women who sleep around are just looking for love the wrong way. I really can't speak for the guys. They just like having sex.

This is a shame, here I am checking GC before work.

Anyway.... this is the 1st time I've heard you mention this.

I feel ya on the myspace thing though. It's cool for those who like it, but for me it's just not my thing either. LOL, wait a minute, so that's why you asked me if I had myspace. You slick joker.

My red flags aren't ridiculous. I just have them to protect ME.