After being initiated, transfering and joining another soro

[Lilxcutie88]

i cant go all around the united states. i'm begging my mom to even let me apply to NIU. there are a bunch of large schools in louisanna(sp?) and some in missouri, and illinois. so mainly out west. I cant go to any school in north Carolina( i didnt take 4 yrs of HS math) which sucks, b/c they are such great schools. a lot of schools in VA which is where i live, dont have my program there...

and yes, any school that i look at i am going be very pickey about the education. that is why its so hard. like...I want to be a Communications major with a concentration in Media Studies(films, TV, etc etc) so far i've found a couple of schools. If i could go to penn state, dude i'd go there in a heart beat, but i dont have the grades for the school.
but the reason I am leaving is not b/c of the sorority if thats what you all are thinking..damn those girls are what made me survive my last semester at my school.

My school was just extremely unmotivating.it would basically accept all the druggies and people in HS who didnt give a shit. you would NOT believe how many people dropped out..its awful. I on the other-hand am not one of those people. I chose the school, b/c A) i didnt know that those kind of ppl were there an B) it was the largest school i was accepted to, so i wanted to take a challenge(it ending as not being one) my school consisted of 4,000 students and only 1,000 living on campus. So i basically knew everyone. saw the same people at parties, places on campus (or lack there of) were always empty. It just felt like HS to me b/c i come from such a large HS. plus everyone also went home on the weekends(including sorority sisters, so we never did nething on the weenkends) , it was just boring and depressing. and im not only one who thinks that about my school either.* im not going to say my school either**

I just feel like if i dont go to a school with my sorority that i'll be stuck. you know? not knowning anyone. everyone will be set in their ways that it seems like no one will want to make a new friend. but if i go into a school with my sorority and its a 50/50 that they'l accept me, then i at least have a base of people. I dont hae to get along with every single sister..ur not supposed to get along with everyone but see what I am saying. and i guess because my school didnt have any organizations i dont really know whats out there.

i hope everyone understands, and not attack me anymore.

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by Lilxcutie88

i cant go all around the united states. i'm begging my mom to even let me apply to NIU. there are a bunch of large schools in louisanna(sp?) and some in missouri, and illinois. so mainly out west. I cant go to any school in north Carolina( i didnt take 4 yrs of HS math) which sucks, b/c they are such great schools. a lot of schools in VA which is where i live, dont have my program there...

and yes, any school that i look at i am going be very pickey about the education. that is why its so hard. like...I want to be a Communications major with a concentration in Media Studies(films, TV, etc etc) so far i've found a couple of schools. If i could go to penn state, dude i'd go there in a heart beat, but i dont have the grades for the school.
but the reason I am leaving is not b/c of the sorority if thats what you all are thinking..damn those girls are what made me survive my last semester at my school.

My school was just extremely unmotivating.it would basically accept all the druggies and people in HS who didnt give a shit. you would NOT believe how many people dropped out..its awful. I on the other-hand am not one of those people. I chose the school, b/c A) i didnt know that those kind of ppl were there an B) it was the largest school i was accepted to, so i wanted to take a challenge(it ending as not being one) my school consisted of 4,000 students and only 1,000 living on campus. So i basically knew everyone. saw the same people at parties, places on campus (or lack there of) were always empty. It just felt like HS to me b/c i come from such a large HS. plus everyone also went home on the weekends(including sorority sisters, so we never did nething on the weenkends) , it was just boring and depressing. and im not only one who thinks that about my school either.* im not going to say my school either**

I just feel like if i dont go to a school with my sorority that i'll be stuck. you know? not knowning anyone. everyone will be set in their ways that it seems like no one will want to make a new friend. but if i go into a school with my sorority and its a 50/50 that they'l accept me, then i at least have a base of people. I dont hae to get along with every single sister..ur not supposed to get along with everyone but see what I am saying. and i guess because my school didnt have any organizations i dont really know whats out there.

i hope everyone understands, and not attack me anymore.

You feel you are limited with your school selection because you want to major in Communication? What exactly is it that you want to do for a career? As far as media/Comm careers, you could major in Chemistry or Basket Weaving for all they care-- you just have to have some internship experience under your belt to get that first job. Trust me-- I speak from experience here!!! Think about what you want to do POST-college and what you need to get there.

I understand your concerns about wanting to be able to transfer to a school and potentially transfer into another chapter of your sorority (which is not a guarantee). But keep in mind that chapters vary so much from school to school, and that there are so many opportunities to make friends through the many campus organizations offered by any college. Good luck.

[Lilxcutie88]

Originally Posted by 33girl

LOL, maybe not for long.

Your big is completely off base when she says transfers are known as legacies. That's like saying apples are known as shirts. They're two completely different things. The rules about accepting transfers may differ from group to group, but as someone said, even if the new chapter would HAVE to accept you, there's a chance you might not like them or vice versa.

The fact that "academics" comes up last in the list of things you're looking for at your new school doesn't bode well. If you DO go to a big school like UD or USC and you aren't doing well in your classes...it's quite likely you won't get the personal attention like you would have gotten at a smaller school. You'll be another student that flunks out, big deal.

If you wanted to be in a major that your school doesn't have, or were leaving to be closer to family, I think people might be a little more accepting of your situation, but your reasons for transferring at all (not even going into the sorority issue) seem really lame. If (as it seems) all you care about is how many parties the school has on the weekends, whether you can or cannot join another sorority is a moot point, since you'll probably flunk out anyway.

actually you are COMPELETLY wrong. im especially trying to go to a school that has MANY requirements for me to transfer there. so basically as of now i dont have a summer because all i've been doing for the past couple of weeks is going to summmer school and taking all these extra classes that are putting me way behind JUST to go to this one school. i'm in school MTWTH from 12pm-10pm. i dont think many people would waste their summer and do something like. that...they may take a class or 2 for their major, i on the other hand am not. im just simply taking classes that i dont need, but they satisify transfer requirements at that school. and i dont sound like a motivating person???? wooooowww.....
and ur right, my school doesnt really have my major..i thought it did when i first applied, but after being there a semester i realized that their program was just a joke and you cant get into any of the classes b/c they are SO tiny. and plus i found out more specifically what i want to do with my life, so i found some schools that has that subject.

Thats what i thought too, b.c i knew legacies dealt with relatives and stuff not transfer. but at the same time everyone else who go to different schools(like people at work who are in sororities) have been telling me that bunch of people get accepted. so i dont really know who to believe...

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Lilxcutie88

I just feel like if i dont go to a school with my sorority that i'll be stuck. you know? not knowning anyone. everyone will be set in their ways that it seems like no one will want to make a new friend. but if i go into a school with my sorority and its a 50/50 that they'l accept me, then i at least have a base of people. I dont hae to get along with every single sister..ur not supposed to get along with everyone but see what I am saying. and i guess because my school didnt have any organizations i dont really know whats out there.

i hope everyone understands, and not attack me anymore.

This isn't high school, it's college. Unless you get an apartment 5 miles off campus, go to class and go immediately home and don't talk to anyone, it's hard to NOT get to know people. You were outgoing enough to go through rush and join a sorority, just do it again except people won't be singing songs, ha ha. It isn't high school where people are going by what you were like in 9th grade and if you were a geek then you'll be a geek 4 years later, no matter how much you've changed. Most colleges aren't like that.

You made a bad choice with your college, and you probably should have left before you made a lifetime commitment to a sorority. But you didn't, and now it's done, so you have to deal w/ the consequences. That's called being a responsible adult.

could you get into a Penn State branch & then transfer to Main?

Regarding your above post, you didn't say any of those things at first and it honestly did make it look like academics was the last thing on your mind. You can't just give little pieces of info and expect us all to read your mind. All anyone has to go on is what you put on the page.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by Lilxcutie88

Personally, i think its really stupid that if you transfer to a different school that doesnt have ur sorority you cant rush another one. Its not like were going to tell the new sorority all of the secrets of the old one we were in. In fact why would anyone care to anyways? its really pointless. I think it should be allowed just as long as you really dont tell other people you were once part of another sorority or talk about the other sorority in general.

I am trying to transfer to a new school, but unfortunatly (with out knowning) my sorority doesnt like to colonize chapters at BIG schools which is what i am aimin to transfer to. So now basically, i have VERY limited choices of where i can transfer to and its down right not fair. I love being in a sorority, and i would never want to leave one, but i think its gay that i now cant join a new one. I was actually just thinking of not telling anyone and just go through rush again.

and if people in ur sorority are going to disown you because u went to a new one, then they are very low people, and they dont qualify as a true friend.

ok i vented my fustration

Oh please...do tell us which lucky group has you as a member.

[AlphaFrog]

I'm tripping that this chick wants to go into COMMUNICATIONS...

Little girl, this is a messageboard for those who are in, alumni of, or are bound for college. Please make your posts reflect that level of education. You sound like a 12 year old in an AOL chatroom.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

Oh please...do tell us which lucky group has you as a member.

She already said she's a Tri Sigma.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

She already said she's a Tri Sigma.

How lucky for our Farmville Four sisters...

[Lilxcutie88]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You made a bad choice with your college, and you probably should have left before you made a lifetime commitment to a sorority. But you didn't, and now it's done, so you have to deal w/ the consequences. That's called being a responsible adult.

could you get into a Penn State branch & then transfer to Main?

yeah i thought about depledging a lot..but everyone told me not too so i just stuck it out, b/c i just figured that i'd transfer to a different school with the same sorority. i was just initiated last semester and i didnt think everyone made such a big deal about everything. so i thought it would be ok.

i chose an awful school your right, but i didnt exactly have much choice in where i could go. I have a learning disability therefore many of my test scores were VERYY low.

we'll see

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

She already said she's a Tri Sigma.

Ahhh, thanks -- I read most of her posts, but was anxious to cut to the chase!

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by Lilxcutie88

i was just initiated last semester and i didnt think everyone made such a big deal about everything. so i thought it would be ok.

Kinda like changing health clubs, right?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

How lucky for our Farmville Four sisters...

I'm surprised one of them hasn't been here two throw in their 2 cents.

[AOII Angel]

I'm sure they don't want to touch this thread with a ten foot pole!

[KSUViolet06]

Hi there! I'm actually a national volunteer for Tri Sigma!

Our sorority has 110 chapters at tons of different schools. My chapter is actually at a school with over 26,000 undergrads.

I'm glad you're actually trying to find a school with Sigma. That does show that you see something in the sisterhood.

However, your options are as follows, transfer and afflilate with a new chapter or transfer to a new school that doesn't have Sigma and become an alumna.

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

...or transfer to a new school that doesn't have Sigma and become an alumna.

Which can be just as awesome as finding a school with an active chapter. Transfer to the school that will give you the best education for your major, and then look for a local alumnae group to join.