"Why Did You Decide to Join ...That?"

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

I didn't make it sound like anything. That's just the way you chose to interpret what I wrote. But, that's fine. Now, in the context in which I was speaking, I would understand why a woman in this situation would feel as if she were being punished or penalized for not being a full-time student...

I gave you some advice many posts ago about leaving this thread alone because all of the negative back and forth communication is not helpful to you and what you hoped to accomplish by coming to gc. Sometimes regardless of what others are doing (right or wrong), we have to be accountable for our own actions. I looked back thru these posts to see where things went wrong. I wanted to see what ticked everybody off and I found it...it was your ATTITUDE Roz! You didn't come here like someone who was humble (and being humble is not weak or passive) and just wanted to learn more. From the very beginning, you got DEFENSIVE about what others were saying when they were only voicing their opinions...and you have a smart mouth and I'm sure you know it. Go back to post #108 and see for yourself and see the bolded text above (your response to ladygreek). You were going toe to toe with people instead of accepting what they had to say and like one big NPHC family who wasn't going to let their sisters and brothers be "attacked," everybody jumped on you. And that's really what happened because I was reading thru these posts thinking why in the he** don't people care for Roz...what set them off? I mean we've had many threads with conversations about the topic of new orgs that didn't end up like this. As a matter of fact, this thread started out positive with new org members just expressing their opinions back and forth but you came in and changed the entire tone of the thread because you were so DEFENSIVE from the very beginning. And if you know anything about working with people, you know that NO ONE responds well to defensiveness. So when you got defensive, they got defensive. I urge you to go back and review the posts and you'll see.

Understand that I'm not trying to jump on you and act like you're the only one at fault here but usually when someone feels attacked by many, it's because they also had a hand in planning their own "attack," whether they recognize it or not. Just start over Roz. Leave this thread alone and leave the history behind this thread alone and introduce yourself in a new thread without getting DEFENSIVE. While we may get sarcastic and "snarky" at times, the NPHC members on greekchat (from what I've observed) are good peeps who only want to learn, challenge, explore, and help, but you have to approach and respond to them in the correct manner or the manner in which their accustomed. That's why it's best for new people to observe a little before jumping in and starting to post. Again, I wish you all the best with your org.