Frustrations with Rec's

OrangeJuice · #1 06-03-2007, 02:17 PM

In fact, I remember what one of my gamma chis said when someone in my group asked about recs:
"Sometimes they can help, but you really don't need one." I was one of only a few in my rush group that came in with recs.

As for sororities that have a national rule that they can only pledge women who have recs... I don't know. I'm not sure of any of the official rules. But I know people (some in large, prestigious houses) who came in knowing nothing about the Greek system, much less about getting recs. I know people in these houses here who didn't have recs for the house they ended up in:
1. Pi Beta Phi
2. Alpha Omicron Pi
3. Delta Gamma
4. Kappa Alpha Theta
5. Sigma Kappa
6. Phi Mu
7. AE Phi
8. SDT
9. Delta Zeta
10. ADPi
11. Alpha Phi
12. Tridelts

There are probably more. Those are just the ones I know for sure. I'm really not trying to start a fight or anything. I'm just saying what happens at my school. Or course, this sort of thing varies from school to school. And of course, it wouldn't hurt. I'm just saying recs may not be the be all and end all of recruitment at her school.

AlphaFrog · #2 06-03-2007, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by OrangeJuice

In fact, I remember what one of my gamma chis said when someone in my group asked about recs:
"Sometimes they can help, but you really don't need one." I was one of only a few in my rush group that came in with recs.

As for sororities that have a national rule that they can only pledge women who have recs... I don't know. I'm not sure of any of the official rules. But I know people (some in large, prestigious houses) who came in knowing nothing about the Greek system, much less about getting recs. I know people in these houses here who didn't have recs for the house they ended up in:
1. Pi Beta Phi
2. Alpha Omicron Pi
3. Delta Gamma
4. Kappa Alpha Theta
5. Sigma Kappa
6. Phi Mu
7. AE Phi
8. SDT
9. Delta Zeta
10. ADPi
11. Alpha Phi
12. Tridelts

There are probably more. Those are just the ones I know for sure. I'm really not trying to start a fight or anything. I'm just saying what happens at my school. Or course, this sort of thing varies from school to school. And of course, it wouldn't hurt. I'm just saying recs may not be the be all and end all of recruitment at her school.

ILLINOIS =/= ARKANSAS

There are people here FROM Arkansas telling her that YES, SHE NEEDS RECS.

Once again, Illinois is different from the rest of the country.

And, yes, there probably IS a girl or two that got into top houses at AK-F without a rec. But, I still wouldn't recommend going in without one, if people from that school are saying to get them.

SWTXBelle · #3 06-03-2007, 02:27 PM

Also, you don't always know if you HAVE a rec or not. Once you register with your college Panhellenic, those chapters which have to have recs often have alumnae who solicit them - and they can get them without the rushee's (PNM) knowledge. So, your friends (or you, f or that matter) may well have had an information only rec that you didn't know about.

AlphaFrog · #4 06-03-2007, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Also, you don't always know if you HAVE a rec or not. Once you register with your college Panhellenic, those chapters which have to have recs often have alumnae who solicit them - and they can get them without the rushee's (PNM) knowledge. So, your friends (or you, f or that matter) may well have had an information only rec that you didn't know about.

Good point.

Like I've said before in this situation - if you end up preffing at one of those sororities that HAS to have a rec to bid a girl, and you and another girl come up equal on all other counts, but the other girl has a rec, guess who gets the spot?

UGAalum94 · #5 06-03-2007, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by OrangeJuice

In fact, I remember what one of my gamma chis said when someone in my group asked about recs:
"Sometimes they can help, but you really don't need one." I was one of only a few in my rush group that came in with recs.

As for sororities that have a national rule that they can only pledge women who have recs... I don't know. I'm not sure of any of the official rules. But I know people (some in large, prestigious houses) who came in knowing nothing about the Greek system, much less about getting recs. I know people in these houses here who didn't have recs for the house they ended up in:
1. Pi Beta Phi
2. Alpha Omicron Pi
3. Delta Gamma
4. Kappa Alpha Theta
5. Sigma Kappa
6. Phi Mu
7. AE Phi
8. SDT
9. Delta Zeta
10. ADPi
11. Alpha Phi
12. Tridelts

There are probably more. Those are just the ones I know for sure. I'm really not trying to start a fight or anything. I'm just saying what happens at my school. Or course, this sort of thing varies from school to school. And of course, it wouldn't hurt. I'm just saying recs may not be the be all and end all of recruitment at her school.

You are drawing a conclusion that you really can't draw. Just because the girl didn't line up her rec for those houses doesn't mean she didn't have one.

A lot of groups have people who they requests recs from based on sharing a home town with the PNM.

Sure, it points out that the group really will secure a rec for you if they want you bad enough, but it also means that you can't conclude that just because the girl didn't ask for a rec that she didn't have one.