Depledging (HELP!!)

[SkiingSister]

As I said of in my previous post on another thread. There are ways to get around deactivating without losing your membership. As I post this, I am probably ruining it for future members who may feel the same way.

I fully believed in my organization's ritual. However, I didn't believe in all of the women at my chapter. I found them, those that were on in "the IN crowd in the house", to be more judgmental than I, jealous, petty and pretentious. Most of my friends in the house were older than me by two years at least. They were not this way. So, by my junior year, I had a few friends in the house mostly acquaintance type. My little sister was traveling abroad for a year. Looking back, I had more friends that I realized.

Anyways, as I said, my mom got cancer, I used it to my advantage, said that I was going to half load of courses, locked my grades from anyone being able to check without my signature and the rest is history. FYI, my mom was fully aware of what I was doing and had no problem. They could not serve me the papers that KSUViolet said because they had no proof that I was taking a full load.

Sure, I lied to them. I had to do what I had to do. There were a lot of lies and bullshet told in my chapter.

The three semesters that I had left of active status, were spent living pretty happily. Granted, for a long time I was pretty angry at the house. There was still a lot of pain involved. I never returned to the house. I ran into girls on campus, no biggie. I think that only thing that was surprising to me was how many people missed me. I never left a forwarding address for my mail or phone number. People who know me well, knew how to find me. My little sis and I connected after her year of traveling. The same girls "IN Crowd" were the same ones that scared so many to leave the house and membership decline. I think the silent majority just never said anything.

Looking back, I don't regret what I had to do. I think it is sad. As much as I am responsible for my own actions, I still feel that those involved in house relations, exec, ect. never really looked at why things were going the way they were until it was too late and even then, it was only a glimpse. They were oblivious.

Today, I am somewhat active in my alumnae chapter. Girls from the house have found me on the national site. One of my old roomies contacted me. I even saw an old sister that I hadn't seen in 13 years last weekend. My friends know that I was Greek in school. No biggie. I am proud of my affiliation. I have always thought that I would prevent what happened to me, happen to anyone else. So, far, I haven't but had to but, I will fully stand up for someone should it happen again.