D9 stereotyping..

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

whats interesting, and maybe this is only because i associate with more black people, is the fact that the caucasian stereotypes usually involve drinking/partying/taking tops off, etc. the D9 stereotypes i hear about are mostly looks/personality/intelligence. it is a shame that the D9 stereotypes are not things that can be "outgrown", but personality and physical traits...

I'm not sure I understand you on this one. Can you please explain?

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I'm not sure I understand you on this one. Can you please explain?

i am going to go on and use black and non-black to differentiate between the sororities...

well, when you hear about the non-black sororities, like the girls on the "girls gone wild" video, we pretty much all think of the same "type" of girl. there may be some black girls on there, ive never really felt the need to watch...but from what i hear my non-black coworkers say about the non-black sorority girls, its she is a lush/freak/takes her top off/sleeps around. later, these same girls clean up nice and have a tea party. eventually, nobody mentions the fact that "Barbara" who is in her 40's now used to be that same alcoholic topless wonder. she "outgrew" her sorority ways, settled down, had some kids and bought a house.

now, my godmother, who is an XYZ, is still being considered stuck up/prissy/etc. even though she pledged XYZ back in '77. she is a professional educated woman with a family now...why should she still be stereotyped because of the type of sorority she pledged? im not talking about the stereotypes that could be considered positive, please group me with smart/pretty/popular people anytime!

why is it that the D9 stereotypes that stick and that people remember are the negative ones? shouldnt it be the same all across the board?

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i am going to go on and use black and non-black to differentiate between the sororities...

well, when you hear about the non-black sororities, like the girls on the "girls gone wild" video, we pretty much all think of the same "type" of girl. there may be some black girls on there, ive never really felt the need to watch...but from what i hear my non-black coworkers say about the non-black sorority girls, its she is a lush/freak/takes her top off/sleeps around. later, these same girls clean up nice and have a tea party. eventually, nobody mentions the fact that "Barbara" who is in her 40's now used to be that same alcoholic topless wonder. she "outgrew" her sorority ways, settled down, had some kids and bought a house.

now, my godmother, who is an XYZ, is still being considered stuck up/prissy/etc. even though she pledged XYZ back in '77. she is a professional educated woman with a family now...why should she still be stereotyped because of the type of sorority she pledged? im not talking about the stereotypes that could be considered positive, please group me with smart/pretty/popular people anytime!

why is it that the D9 stereotypes that stick and that people remember are the negative ones? shouldnt it be the same all across the board?

I see what you're saying now. I think this is because of our longevity and the seriousness in which we take our organizations. Since people who know anything about NPHC greeks know that our membership is for life (whether you remain active and join a grad chapter or not), the stereotypes keep following us because the sorority/fraternity life for us is limitless. On the other hand, many people (including all types of greeks) associate predominently Caucasian organizations with not taking things as seriously (because their purpose for existing isn't as serious) and being done with their organizations after college. It's just like the many people who did wild and crazy things in college who were able to shed those not so desirable acts and traits once they "grew up" and left college behind. Even though some of the predominently Caucasian organizations do have alumni chapters, they don't accept new membership at that level, each alumni chapter is specifically for the former members of a particular school chapter, and you NEVER hear (or at least I've never heard) them say anything about being active in their organizations until the day they die.

Also, I have heard many members of predominently Caucasian organizations say that they "used" to be a member of XYZ when they were in college. This is something that a NPHC greek would never say (unless they denounced their organization for some reason).

[OneTimeSBX]

i think thats it Rhoyal...the longevity. My godmother is almost as active now as she was in the 70's. for us it can become more of a lifestyle, or a addition to our lifestyle. for them (not to sound insulting) it comes across as a "club" that was just a crazy phase...

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i think thats it Rhoyal...the longevity. My godmother is almost as active now as she was in the 70's. for us it can become more of a lifestyle, or a addition to our lifestyle. for them (not to sound insulting) it comes across as a "club" that was just a crazy phase...

That's right and many of them (the fraternities more so than the sororities) will tell you that those were their crazy days and many didn't intend for it to be anything more. As for us, because of our African heritage and African American history we feel like we HAVE to do the work we do and we HAVE to keep the sister/brotherhood alive to enhance our lives in a country and world that we all know can be (and has been) less than kind to Black people (all over the world).

[blackngoldengrl]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I see what you're saying now. I think this is because of our longevity and the seriousness in which we take our organizations. Since people who know anything about NPHC greeks know that our membership is for life (whether you remain active and join a grad chapter or not), the stereotypes keep following us because the sorority/fraternity life for us is limitless. On the other hand, many people (including all types of greeks) associate predominently Caucasian organizations with not taking things as seriously (because their purpose for existing isn't as serious) and being done with their organizations after college. It's just like the many people who did wild and crazy things in college who were able to shed those not so desirable acts and traits once they "grew up" and left college behind. Even though some of the predominently Caucasian organizations do have alumni chapters, they don't accept new membership at that level, each alumni chapter is specifically for the former members of a particular school chapter, and you NEVER hear (or at least I've never heard) them say anything about being active in their organizations until the day they die.

Also, I have heard many members of predominently Caucasian organizations say that they "used" to be a member of XYZ when they were in college. This is something that a NPHC greek would never say (unless they denounced their organization for some reason).

ouch.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by blackngoldengrl

ouch.

Let me make a correction here because I don't want anyone taking this the wrong way. I made this statement given the history, heritage, and legacy of NPHC greeks and the reason our orgs were created in the first place. Of course sisterhood and brotherhood are purposes serious enough to build a great organization.

[OneTimeSBX]

i second that Rhoyal. its not meant to be insulting at all to nonBGLO's. i know i was speaking from personal experiences, and i do have non-black friends who are in sororities and seemed to kinda let it go after a while. its just an observation. i am SURE there are plenty of women who continue with the work they started in college...

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Let me make a correction here because I don't want anyone taking this the wrong way. I made this statement given the history, heritage, and legacy of NPHC greeks and the reason our orgs were created in the first place. Of course sisterhood and brotherhood are purposes serious enough to build a great organization.

Also take into consideration that sororities were often founded also as a support system for women in universities that were almost entirely male. It's great that now women aren't the minority in university anymore and so our focus has broadened.

(I know the previous comment wasn't meant as a slam, but it did come off as one)

[Animate]

I can't count the number of times people have told me I look like a Kappa. Like only Kappas can be fresh than a mug. Funny though, once people have gotten to know me then they gave me Alpha stereotype.

I can be fresher than any Kappa I'll ever come across.