Are You Too Good For These Men?

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I don't understand why people see an issue with men being 30+ and never being married.

How many 30+ (black) women are there that we come across across everyday that aren't married? Plenty. There's nothing wrong with their sexuality or anything of that sort. People's lives just map out differently. There's no biological clock that tells people when they need to get married (or have children).

And many people will never get married. I don't assume there's something wrong with them, either.

I said 35+ for me. I will be 30 in August so I can see this but I have to be honest I can't name one male riend over 30 who either hasn't been married or has had a child by now. So to be 35+ yes its possible but I am going to say rare.

Plus 35+ black women is a different population than 35+ black men.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

So to be 35+ yes its possible but I am going to say rare.

Rare in the circles you're exposed to doesn't have to translate to something being wrong with the men who aren't.

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

Plus 35+ black women is a different population than 35+ black men.

On a surface level.

Beyond the surface we're talking about groups of people who are being judged for not being married. No one should be judged for that. And 35+ black PEOPLE tend to marry each other as opposed to marrying interracially. So the assessment of 35+ black women is connected to the assessment of 35+ black men.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Rare in the circles you're exposed to doesn't have to translate to something being wrong with the men who aren't.



On a surface level.

Beyond the surface we're talking about groups of people who are being judged for not being married. No one should be judged for that. And 35+ black PEOPLE tend to marry each other as opposed to marrying interracially. So the assessment of 35+ black women is connected to the assessment of 35+ black men.

I am not judging anyone and I am exposed to many circles and yes you are correct in my circles there are few if any men over 35 who have not been married or have a child. I am sure there are plenty of great men who have never been married or have children. I am sure that most people can name one man who fits in this group but I wonder if we polled people how many know many men over 35 who have never been married or have no children. As I said I really can't think of any.

Since I am married I also probably am not as exposed to this group as much as someone dating would be. I am also not 30 or 35 so I also may not be as exposed to that group as well.

I am going to have to disagee with the point that the assesment of 35+ black women is the same as black men. I think its safe today that the amount of black women 35+ with no children and never being married exceeds that of black men, for many reasons.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

I think its safe today that the amount of black women 35+ with no children and never being married exceeds that of black men, for many reasons.

Although that isn't remotely what my post was addressing, you are correct. Black women are the least likely in our society to get married. But there are more black women 35+ who have never been married than there are with no children.

[AKA_Monet]

I know a few 35+ men available, never been married and without children. Not a large number, though.

For instance, men who graduate from med school are ~27-29ish. They have residency for 2 years and a neurology surgical fellowship for many more years and they get out of that by 35ish...

I know, because my Sorors were all kinna pissed off because I invited this fione pediatrician who was 40 years old. But, when I met him, 4 years ago, he wasn't married... He had a girlfriend, then...

It's funny, because, why is it as a fully married woman I am meeting all kinna single brotha's my age--30-something, who don't have attachments and details, but then, I cannot find my single sistafriends anywhere to introduce them?

[BlessedOne04]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

It's funny, because, why is it as a fully married woman I am meeting all kinna single brotha's my age--30-something, who don't have attachments and details, but then, I cannot find my single sistafriends anywhere to introduce them?

Umm let me hand you my number and if you see anyone you can just send them my way!