Are You Too Good For These Men?

[Infamous12]

Originally Posted by Little32

My most recent relationship (or person that I dated, it wasn't really a relationship) was with someone who might be termed a blue collar worker, and I am (in terms of education) considered to be at the opposite end of the spectrum.

I didn't and don't have a problem with what he does, what I found is that he operates from the assumption that I do. ( I don't know if that is because he has encountered women that have had an issue with his profession in the past or what.) But essentially, he brought his preconceived notions about what I wanted and who I was (based on my profession and my education), and that colors the way that he interacts with me.

So, I think that that just reinforces the idea that these men may be part of the reason as to why they find it difficult to date.

I just got out of practically the same situation. I have a degree and a job with power options. (Can easily move up in company) He's 3 years my senior, with a pretty good finance type of job (insurance something or other) but still had not received his degree and so he felt like I was 'too much for him'. He had some security issues, as I NEVER even cared about his degree or lack thereof, honestly. But he did....and figured one day I would too. Oh well...

I think the Baby Daddy & MBA Thug are pretty cute.

[Little32]

It is pretty frustrating because, unless I get with another Ph.D., there is always going to be at least that difference (even if financial issues are non-existent--and you academics out there know how underpaid we are). I'm not necessarily interested in dating another academic, but even if I were there just aren't a lot of single, heterosexual men of color with Ph.Ds out there, at least not were I am.

[SoEnchanting]

Originally Posted by Little32

It is pretty frustrating because, unless I get with another Ph.D., there is always going to be at least that difference (even if financial issues are non-existent--and you academics out there know how underpaid we are). I'm not necessarily interested in dating another academic, but even if I were there just aren't a lot of single, heterosexual men of color with Ph.Ds out there, at least not were I am.

Not where I am, either!

[DSTCHAOS]

1. I've dated a truck driver. He had a college degree, which is my minimum educational requirement (I typically date men with more than a bachelors, though). He used to be white collar and switched to blue collar. It was fine with me at first but then I realize that, no matter how much you make, I don't want to date a man who works long, odd hours. They are more than likely good men...for some other woman. I never felt the need to attach myself to every good man who comes around. There isn't a shortage of good men who fit MY wants and needs.

2. Finding a man with my same degree level doesn't matter to me. A PhD means a lot in my field but not in every field. Plus, a PhD doesn't translate to higher pay or a certain type of lifestyle for many academicians. So it is only middle class based on a loose categorization of middle class.