Are You Too Good For These Men?

[1908Revelations]

I find nothing wrong with these guys initially, but to say there would be more would require me to know them. But I have a few reservations on Daniel b/c he is short as hell and I am 6 feet. Eventhough most of these particular guys are out of my age range, I actually fell head over heels for a teacher (not my own) who has a child. He was very smart, Verrrrry cute; but he eventually turned out to be an ass.

ETA
I read the article and Micheal 24, "I've got a son" (the guy on page 2) is really cute.....I'll holla! Ummmm.....somebody give him my #! J/K...I think

[UrbanizdSkillz]

I would date all of them except Daniel. Yes, I know I am prejudiced against short men. But I'm just trying to be real about it

ETA: I also have to question what type of women they are pursuing. Nine times out of ten, they are passing up equally nice women because of what they (unfortunately) look like.

[RedefinedDiva]

Essence needs to DO BETTER.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by RedefinedDiva

Essence needs to DO BETTER.

yeah for real.

hmm, id date (ages aside) the 2nd and 4th guy. im not attracted to any of them really, but the first guy is a hell naw. the 3rd, i dont do party folks, including promoters, DJs, album droppers, etc. i wanna go to the party with you. i dont want you to be the party.

[Blessed2bDST]

The bottom line is that people like what they like. Men are just as picky for all kinds of reasons. And men don't qualify why they don't like a certain type. I think women are always made to feel like they have to "explain" or apologize for whatever their preferences might be.

The first one and the short one -- I think it's funny that they didn't mention weight. A lot of women might be turned off by the fact that they are overweight.

The truck driver (business owner) is the only one I really thought was kind of cute.

[ladygreek]

This is an interesting discussion. My best friend, my daughter and I were having a discussion about why none of us were married or in a serious relationship. All three of us are attractive, have good jobs and own our own homes.

My daughter, with her wise self said: we could have all been married if that is all we wanted. But we wanted more and we wouldn't settle. It is not all about looks, income, etc. with a man, it is about how they treat us and respect us.

She went on to tell me she is so glad I did not marry her father, who is an alcoholic, because she would not have had the loving life she has had with just a single parent. I had to sit down on that one.

We know too many women who marry for the sake of being married and end up divorced with children five years later. Why? Because deep down inside all they really wanted was the wedding and the status that goes along with being Mrs. so and so.

So should we be judgemental? IMO no, because that implies judging the book by its cover. Should we be discerning? Absolutely. If you start reading the book and it does not appeal to you, then put it on the shelf and find a new book to read.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This is an interesting discussion. My best friend, my daughter and I were having a discussion about why none of us were married or in a serious relationship. All three of us are attractive, have good jobs and own our own homes.

My daughter, with her wise self said: we could have all been married if that is all we wanted. But we wanted more and we wouldn't settle. It is not all about looks, income, etc. with a man, it is about how they treat us and respect us.

She went on to tell me she is so glad I did not marry her father, who is an alcoholic, because she would not have had the loving life she has had with just a single parent. I had to sit down on that one.

We know too many women who marry for the sake of being married and end up divorced with children five years later. Why? Because deep down inside all they really wanted was the wedding and the status that goes along with being Mrs. so and so.

So should we be judgemental? IMO no, because that implies judging the book by its cover. Should we be discerning? Absolutely. If you start reading the book and it does not appeal to you, then put it on the shelf and find a new book to read.

This is intersting you say these things. Your daughter is truly wise and will probably be married soon than you think!

My now husband and I eloped to be married to my husband because of what our families would have done to our wedding: too big, too many people, gifts we would need or want. It would not be the event we have dreams about. And now, 4 years later, I am still proud to be with my husband...

My husband, if he was single, could have been one of those guys. Label himself as an animal technian--the one who cleans the cages and put his hand up cow's behinds... He was told that "he's a nice guy, but..."

Then he has truly enriched my life and treated me well...

Originally Posted by ladygreek

...We know too many women who marry for the sake of being married and end up divorced with children five years later. Why? Because deep down inside all they really wanted was the wedding and the status that goes along with being Mrs. so and so...

I have quite a few friends who are married but are so unhappy because they married for this reason. So sad...

But back to the original topic... I don't find any of those men physically attractive, so I wouldn't give either one of them a chance.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

So should we be judgemental? IMO no, because that implies judging the book by its cover. Should we be discerning? Absolutely. If you start reading the book and it does not appeal to you, then put it on the shelf and find a new book to read.

Yes, yes, yes.

Originally Posted by Blessed2bDST

The bottom line is that people like what they like.

That's what I say too. It is what it is.
ETA:
Keepin' it real, right? I wouldn't date any of them.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This is an interesting discussion. My best friend, my daughter and I were having a discussion about why none of us were married or in a serious relationship. All three of us are attractive, have good jobs and own our own homes.

My daughter, with her wise self said: we could have all been married if that is all we wanted. But we wanted more and we wouldn't settle. It is not all about looks, income, etc. with a man, it is about how they treat us and respect us.

She went on to tell me she is so glad I did not marry her father, who is an alcoholic, because she would not have had the loving life she has had with just a single parent. I had to sit down on that one.

We know too many women who marry for the sake of being married and end up divorced with children five years later. Why? Because deep down inside all they really wanted was the wedding and the status that goes along with being Mrs. so and so.

So should we be judgemental? IMO no, because that implies judging the book by its cover. Should we be discerning? Absolutely. If you start reading the book and it does not appeal to you, then put it on the shelf and find a new book to read.

This was so well said and profound Ladygreek! I also know tons of females that are willing to hook up or marry guys that are just shells. That's not me at all and I choose not go that route.

I also agree with the majority of the women here who say that these men probably like the wrong women.

Lastly, DSTChaos where do you live because I'm not surrounded by those "plethora of men" you were referring to!