What is a typical day for a sorority formal and how is it planned?

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You've disabled the PM feature on your account, so I'm going to ahead and bring this up here:

I looked at your MySpace (which is linked to your GreekChat profile). It says that you go to CSU Hayward (home of two sororities, Alpha Phi & Tri Sigma) and that you're "looking to join a sorority."

That's all well and good. Here's where I take issue:

I'm not a fan of the big huge purple text blinky that says "FUTURE SIGMA SISTER."

At this point, you don't know if you will be asked to join or not, so I think it's presumptuous of you (and disrespectful to us) to have something like that on your page.

As a national volunteer (a very well connected one at that), I have to tell you that if you are serious about rushing (and don't want to ruin your chances),you should remove that.

Thanks a bunch!

I HAD to go check this chick out on Myspace. She's part of the Epsilon Alpha Chapter (Sigma Sigma Sigma) group. But, what's interesting is the group's description:

"Hey guys Thanks for changing Groups!

This group is for the future sisters, current active sister and sisters of the past from the Epsilon Alpha Chapter at California State University, Hayward...Now East Bay"

future sisters? Maybe they're talking about new members?

[BabyPiNK_FL]

[the person asked me to remove the quote so this probably won't make sense but...]

Wow! Ours is always $60 or more and when you add on dress, makeup, gas, date costs, and alcohol ((if you're legal) WHOOSH! And I thought that that was slightly overpriced but not too much. I guess it all depends on the location/timing/etc.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I HAD to go check this chick out on Myspace. She's part of the Epsilon Alpha Chapter (Sigma Sigma Sigma) group. But, what's interesting is the group's description:

"Hey guys Thanks for changing Groups!

This group is for the future sisters, current active sister and sisters of the past from the Epsilon Alpha Chapter at California State University, Hayward...Now East Bay"

future sisters? Maybe they're talking about new members?

My chapter has a group and it includes alumnae, collegians, and new members. New members are new members, not future sisters.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

Wow! Ours is always $60 or more and when you add on dress, makeup, gas, date costs, and alcohol ((if you're legal) WHOOSH! And I thought that that was slightly overpriced but not too much. I guess it all depends on the location/timing/etc.

Yeah that wouldn't fly with most of our girls. That's the thing...there's the dress (as I discovered this year not many of us are the same sizes), and even drug store make up and shoes from Target add up...plus a shirt if you want one, plus the price of your date, and yeah plus alcohol if you're 21. (And I guess you could just not get any, but a lot of people end up getting one or two formals at legal age since there's constant scheduling conflicts so they take advantage of being able to.) Of course, we aren't renting out extremely expensive venues either...I've been to three and one was at a house specifically outfitted for parties/weddings, one was at a bar with an outdoor stage area, and one was at student retreat (ran out of money). Nothing TOO fancy.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I HAD to go check this chick out on Myspace. She's part of the Epsilon Alpha Chapter (Sigma Sigma Sigma) group. But, what's interesting is the group's description:

"Hey guys Thanks for changing Groups!

This group is for the future sisters, current active sister and sisters of the past from the Epsilon Alpha Chapter at California State University, Hayward...Now East Bay"

future sisters? Maybe they're talking about new members?

Sounds like they are talking about new members...but they really shouldn't call them future sisters. That opens them up to all kinds of speculation.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

Yeah that wouldn't fly with most of our girls. That's the thing...there's the dress (as I discovered this year not many of us are the same sizes), and even drug store make up and shoes from Target add up...plus a shirt if you want one, plus the price of your date, and yeah plus alcohol if you're 21. (And I guess you could just not get any, but a lot of people end up getting one or two formals at legal age since there's constant scheduling conflicts so they take advantage of being able to.) Of course, we aren't renting out extremely expensive venues either...I've been to three and one was at a house specifically outfitted for parties/weddings, one was at a bar with an outdoor stage area, and one was at student retreat (ran out of money). Nothing TOO fancy.

We always have our formal at a hotel and we're in a major metropolitan high-cost area so I guess that would explain the higher costs. Oh, btw-I was 21 before I was initiated, so I've always been able to drink (if I chose, cos I rarely do) at formal.

[Buttonz]

Formal for us was not included in dues at all and was usually $70-4\$80 per ticket for the meal, DJ, favors, and it covered the awards and special gifts (for the president, etc). We are in NYC so things are normally super expensive around here.

We made sure that if someone couldn't cover it, they had someone who would chip in so they could go (big, lil etc). I don't think we ever had someone not show up because of price. We all were working while going to school and stuff as well so it's not like any of us had tons of spare cash to throw around.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

We always have our formal at a hotel and we're in a major metropolitan high-cost area so I guess that would explain the higher costs. Oh, btw-I was 21 before I was initiated, so I've always been able to drink (if I chose, cos I rarely do) at formal.

Yeah we don't bother with all that...but we still aren't next to a truly high cost high class area lol so yeah...

[Xidelt]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I HAD to go check this chick out on Myspace. She's part of the Epsilon Alpha Chapter (Sigma Sigma Sigma) group. But, what's interesting is the group's description:

"Hey guys Thanks for changing Groups!

This group is for the future sisters, current active sister and sisters of the past from the Epsilon Alpha Chapter at California State University, Hayward...Now East Bay"

future sisters? Maybe they're talking about new members?

I checked out her myspace page too. (Out of curiosity, of course! ) If she were a PNM, she wouldn't be asking all these random questions about Greek Life. And wouldn't she have achieved her goal, as listed on her profile: Joining a sorority while in college. ?

She must REALLY REALLY want to be a Tri-Sig. Guess that's why she has all the purple stuff on her page, along with the Care Bear explosion. Didn't a Tri-Sig alum create Care Bears? (Nice subtle homage.)

[susan314]

Its so blatantly inappropriate that it almost makes you wonder if someone is impersonating the girl pictured on the MySpace page, in some deliberate attempt to prevent her from being able to join?

(My late night insomniac mind can cook up a good conspiracy theory, I guess... )

[SoCalGirl]

When I was an advisor I hated the buses! While OTW has good points and I understand the reasoning behind them I always felt that with my chapter it seemed to increase the drinking.

When I was a collegian we drove ourselves to the venue and we knew where the event would be weeks in advance. There'd usually be a group of girls that would get a room or two at the hotel or at least nearby if it wasn't at a hotel. Girls would pre party before arriving. Sober girls/dates would drive to the formal. Everyone drank in the rooms or in the formal if they snagged a wrist band. We were seriously lax on the id checks. During the party girls would go back to the rooms and drink some more. After the formal sober people would drive home and drunk people would stay in the rooms.

When I was advising they'd pre party before getting to the buses. They'd try to act as sober as possible around the advisors as they got checked in. They'd get alcohol on the bus and drink on the way to a location that was not disclosed to them until they're on the way. They'd continue drinking at the event; snagging sisters drinks or finding another way to get alcohol in. Usually the girls were so trashed from the pre partying that we had to send one or two girls home in a cab with her date and another sister. Then at the end of the night exhausted and drunk everyone piled back in the buses and were dispersed at a central location on campus. Then they would still have to get home! As an advisor I could not run around to over 100 people to figure out if they were safe enough to get home. I rathered they had stayed at the hotel!

[KSUViolet06]

CSUGreekGoddess,

I have confirmed (via an email to one of the chapter's officers and our directory) that you in fact are not a member of the Epsilon Alpha chapter of Sigma Sigma Sigma. I think you might want to alter your MySpace to reflect that, especially since one of their officers has now seen it and is not flattered.
Thank you.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm not a fan of the big huge purple text blinky that says "FUTURE SIGMA SISTER."

Gaaaah! If you want to limit the damage that may have been done, I would recommend that you take that down IMMEDIATELY.

[SigKapCoug]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

CSUGreekGoddess,

I have confirmed (via an email to one of the chapter's officers) that you in fact are not a member of the Epsilon Alpha chapter of Sigma Sigma Sigma. I think you might want to alter your MySpace to reflect that, especially since one of their officers has now seen it and is not flattered. I don't think I need to tell you what your chances of getting a bid are at this point.

Thank you.

And yes, I'm also the one who sent you the MySpace message.

Very nice detective work.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

CSUGreekGoddess,

I have confirmed (via an email to one of the chapter's officers and our directory) that you in fact are not a member of the Epsilon Alpha chapter of Sigma Sigma Sigma. I think you might want to alter your MySpace to reflect that, especially since one of their officers has now seen it and is not flattered.
Thank you.

Awwww CSUGreekGoddess... you busted!