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Old 05-16-2007, 10:43 AM
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Today's the day we find out which of the chapters we visited in Phase A invited us back for Phase B. I don't know what to expect, and I'm a little nervous - we were only at each house for 25 minutes, so that's not a whole lot of time to learn about each other. How are we supposed to make decisions based on such little info so far? In Phase A we visited 16 chapters, and in Phase B we only get to visit 12.


Post Office

We met with the Rho Chis to get our invitation lists. I have fairly good news:

15 out of the 16 chapters have invited me back. I did not get asked back to Troy McClure.

I know that I should be excited to have 15 houses who asked me back, but I can't help fixating a little on why Troy McClure was the only one who didn't want me back. As crazy as it sounds, it might have been a little easier to understand if several chapters hadn't invited me back, rather than just that one. Makes you wonder what you said/did there to keep them from inviting you back - its not like they are the "most" exclusive group on campus (at least, not according to Steph and her ramblings about the sorority hierarchy).

But, I bounce back from the minor disappointment, and focus on the task at hand: I have 15 party invitations to 12 parties. I need to decline invitations from 3 houses. Guess Troy McClure did me a bit of a favor in that regard...if they had invited me back, then I'd need to come up with 4 invitations to decline. 3 is going to be hard enough!

There aren't any houses that I truly disliked enough to be unwilling to attend a Phase B party. Unlike some people in my rush group, who already have pretty strong feelings about all the chapters already. (Guess its because I live in a primarily upperclassmen dorm - everyone else has preconceived notions about all the groups, where as I know nothing about any of the groups. Other than what my rush group and Steph have all tried to tell me, of course.)

Even though its hard, I have to make a decision one way or the other, so I decide to decline with regret the following invitations:

Waylon Smithers
I just couldn't get past the fact that the very first question I was ever asked in this house was what my father did for a living.

Monty Burns
I didn't dislike this house, but it didn't stand out to me either. I wouldn't have minded going back there, but unfortunately I just couldn't go back everywhere I was invited.

Barney Gumble I still feel terrible about dozing off there during Phase A. When the parties are only 25 minutes each, every minute counts, and I missed out on the opportunity to have as much conversation with their members as I did with all the other groups. I wish I had a little more to go on to see how I felt about this house. After all, they were kind enough to invite me back for another chance despite what happened. But, I can't justify keeping them for Phase B just to see if I might like them, when I have 12 other groups that I already do like.


I was the last person in my rush group to sit down with our Rho Chis to go over everything. (Like I said, the decision was tough for me!) I told them which chapters I had decided to cut. When I mentioned that I wanted to cut Waylon Smithers, they shot each other a funny look. One of them asked me "Are you sure you want to do that?" I thought that was a little odd for them to say - got the impression that they were very surprised that someone would decline an invitation to Waylon Smithers. But I confirmed that I was absolutely positive about my decision, and they collected my paperwork. I did the "decline with regret" option, because I wouldn't object to going back to any of those houses again if I ended up not having a full schedule of parties later.
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Old 05-16-2007, 03:57 PM
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this is so exciting-can't wait for another update tonight!!
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Old 05-17-2007, 12:36 AM
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this is so entertaining and well-written, you took excellent notes!
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Old 05-17-2007, 01:01 PM
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I was the last person in my rush group to sit down with our Rho Chis to go over everything. (Like I said, the decision was tough for me!) I told them which chapters I had decided to cut. When I mentioned that I wanted to cut Waylon Smithers, they shot each other a funny look. One of them asked me "Are you sure you want to do that?" I thought that was a little odd for them to say - got the impression that they were very surprised that someone would decline an invitation to Waylon Smithers. But I confirmed that I was absolutely positive about my decision, and they collected my paperwork. I did the "decline with regret" option, because I wouldn't object to going back to any of those houses again if I ended up not having a full schedule of parties later.
that was kinda crappy for your Rho Chis to say that - putting a little doubt in your head like that.

question: with the "decline with regret" part, is that a nicer way of say "sorry guys, if things worked out differently i wouldve come to your next rounds" and this way you stay in their good graces? i wonder why you would have to stay in good graces if from that point on you would not receive a bid from them.

if that's correct, is there a "decline without regret" option, which would mean "no way in hell i'd come back, it just wasnt for me?"
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Old 05-17-2007, 06:43 PM
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Exactly. We called it "regret with interest". "Regret with interest" meant "I do like your sorority, but I have to cut someone because I got too many invitations." "Regret" means "NFWIH would I join your sorority."
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Old 05-17-2007, 11:01 PM
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Exactly. We called it "regret with interest". "Regret with interest" meant "I do like your sorority, but I have to cut someone because I got too many invitations." "Regret" means "NFWIH would I join your sorority."
If you just "regret" instead of "regretting w/interest" are you still considered to have "maximized your options?"
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Old 05-18-2007, 10:05 AM
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okay, i know that you are busy going to the fraternity parties and picking out your next days rush outfit, but we need an update!!
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Old 05-18-2007, 10:17 AM
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If you just "regret" instead of "regretting w/interest" are you still considered to have "maximized your options?"
Good question. I believe that a PNM would still be considered as maximizing options even if they didn't "regret with interest." At the time they declined the invitation, they were still going to be returning to a full schedule of parties for that phase. Also, not every chapter is able and/or willing to re-invite someone who previously "declined with regret."

I just flipped through my copy of the Green Book, but it doesn't address that issue. (Didn't really expect it to, but thought I'd check anyhow. )
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Old 05-18-2007, 10:35 AM
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After Post Office...

I head back to my dorm room. I'm looking forward to Phase B and going back to the houses! On my way to the dorm room, I bumped into Steph. She asked me how things went...I filled her in on my invitations and who I decided to cut. She looked at me somewhat dumbfounded and said "you cut Waylon Smithers?" I could tell that she disapproved. I shrugged and said that I liked the other houses I was invited back to better. She shook her head and told me that I was crazy for cutting one of the houses on sorority row - said I'd probably regret it later.

When I get back to my room, I start to wonder if I know what I'm doing. Everyone keeps insisting that there are "good" houses and "bad" houses, but I don't really see it. I've met a lot of nice, interesting people the past couple of days, and all of the houses are big and gorgeous. (Well, I haven't seen Moe Szyslak's house yet since they did Phase A out of a fraternity house. But all of the other houses are nice.) I guess I've noticed a couple of houses that seem to have a lot of really pretty girls, but I didn't necessarily have any more fun at those houses than the others. There must be something I'm missing - everyone else knows more about sororities than I do, so maybe I'm just not picking up on something?
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