Legacy

So_Sweet720 · #1 05-09-2007, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by eli_the_chopper

from a guy's perspective:

I'd disown my son if he didn't join Lambda Chi. Doesn't even matter if his school doesn't have a chapter. Maybe he should've thought of that before applying.

I never understood this perspective or line of reasoning. I would never disown my child because they chose to go a different route than I did. For me it's all about what makes my child happy. My husband is a Sigma (Phi Beta Sigma) and I am a Zeta (Zeta Phi Beta). If any of our daughters or son don't decide to become a Zeta or Sigma there will be no love lost. My Godmom and aunt are both Delta's and while I love them dearly, I had to do what was best for me, not what I thought would make them happy.

DSTRen13 · #2 05-09-2007, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by So_Sweet720

I never understood this perspective or line of reasoning. I would never disown my child because they chose to go a different route than I did. For me it's all about what makes my child happy. My husband is a Sigma (Phi Beta Sigma) and I am a Zeta (Zeta Phi Beta). If any of our daughters or son don't decide to become a Zeta or Sigma there will be no love lost. My Godmom and aunt are both Delta's and while I love them dearly, I had to do what was best for me, not what I thought would make them happy.

I wouldn't disown anybody, but I will be definitely be very happy if I have a daughter who goes Delta

I would be happy if she chose another NPHC sorority, but not quite as happy. I don't know how I would feel if she chose a group outside the NPHC - it would depend on the group. I'd deal with it as long as she had good reasons for her decision. (No matter what I'm not paying for it.) I know my fiance would like it if we had a son that went Phi Kap, but I don't think he would be upset if he didn't. Neither of us would be crushed or anything if our hypothetical future children chose not to go Greek at all.

ErinIsBadNews · #3 05-09-2007, 01:40 PM

A Dad came into the store I work at looking for a gift for his daughter. I don't remember how many times she was a legacy, but he mentioned everyone in her direct line of family, but her mother was an ADPi. He told me she was a descendent of one of ADPi’s Founders. Not going to lie, I got goose bumps.

I know that many years ago, my chapter initiated one of the direct descendant’s of one of our founders. I can’t tell you off the top of my head, which founder.

I’ve always wondered how much more pressure you would feel to join an organization if you had a long line of family members in an org, especially a founder. Do you think you could have joined another GLO? I’m not sure I could.

honeychile · #4 05-09-2007, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ErinIsBadNews

A Dad came into the store I work at looking for a gift for his daughter. I don't remember how many times she was a legacy, but he mentioned everyone in her direct line of family, but her mother was an ADPi. He told me she was a descendent of one of ADPi’s Founders. Not going to lie, I got goose bumps.

I know that many years ago, my chapter initiated one of the direct descendant’s of one of our founders. I can’t tell you off the top of my head, which founder.

I’ve always wondered how much more pressure you would feel to join an organization if you had a long line of family members in an org, especially a founder. Do you think you could have joined another GLO? I’m not sure I could.

Are you in Texas? Our Delta Chapter (our oldest) just initiated yet another descendant of a founder (Ella Pierce Turner), but I think it would be nigh on impossible to choose another GLO over such a long-standing legacy. But, as I said with the 5-generation legacy, not everyone is cut out to be in a sorority, and I have my doubts that someone should be forced into it.

Of course, if she went to a different GLO after 156 years, she should be written out of the will!

Buttonz · #5 05-09-2007, 02:35 PM

When my sister decided to go to a school with an SDT chapter I told her that as much as I'd love for her to join SDT, but if she recruitment and wound up somewhere else it would be okay with me...

I wish I was able to talk her into going through recruitment.

ErinIsBadNews · #6 05-09-2007, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

Are you in Texas? Our Delta Chapter (our oldest) just initiated yet another descendant of a founder (darned if I can remember which one!), but I think it would be nigh on impossible to choose another GLO over such a long-standing legacy. But, as I said with the 5-generation legacy, not everyone is cut out to be in a sorority, and I have my doubts that someone should be forced into it.

Of course, if she went to a different GLO after 156 years, she should be written out of the will!

Nope, I'm in Florida. She went to some school in the state, I don't remember which one, but I know it's not FSU.

Tom Earp · #7 05-09-2007, 04:40 PM

Funny thing about legacys!

They can be offered bids or not.

While we all would love to have our Daughters and Sons join our GLOs, it is still their decission isn't it?

As many times it has been said each Chapter is different then why should a Legacy be saddled with a GLO that they do not feel comfortable with!

Granted, a GLO will be good nation wide but not local.

I have seen many cross overs on GC and I figure as long as they go with a GLO, that is a big step !!

sarahanne · #8 05-09-2007, 05:32 PM

I'm a Phi Mu legacy, my Grandmother was a Phi Mu at Penn State, and played a major part in chartering the chapter on my campus. My Aunt, her daughter, was a charter member of this chapter, and my other aunt was also a member of this chapter. Throughout my senior year in high school I had lunches with my grandmothers friends (who I later found out were Phi Mu alums) and met ladies from the campus. I went through rush, went to all of Phi Mu's rush parties, and put them at the top of my bid list.on bid day, I opened my bid, in the room full of other PNMs and my rush buddy got Phi Mu, and I didn't. I was heart broken, and a little part of me still wonders what life would be like if I were a Phi Mu. I know I'll never know why they didn't bid for me. I accepted my bid from AOII, and fell in love with them. I realize now, that in AOII, I have more leadership opportunities, and that I rather have a smaller group of close friends, than a larger group of ladies that I know. My motto in life: everything has a reason for happening, nothing is a coincidence.

BlueNYC2 · #9 05-10-2007, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

One of my chapter sisters was a descendant of a founder of another sorority and pretty much everyone in her family was part of that same sorority. I don't know that I could have pledged elsewhere if I was in her shoes, but I am glad she did!

why not??? you got to do what YOU want to do, not what ya family wants you to do. i never understood why people feel the need to want to pledge/join a particular GLO just cuz they have a number of relatives that did.

but then again, i'm the first greek in my fam...
thats just my $19.14 on this matter...

deeznutz · #10 05-10-2007, 10:29 AM

Simply,
Legacy may gain you a "place" but, it doesnt mean that you will cross for that particular organization.

bejazd · #11 05-11-2007, 10:38 AM

Huge difference between a legacy whose mom/sis went to Cucumonga State and was an AB whenever...and when the PNM's sister is right there, active in the chapter, right now. I didn't click with everyone in the chapter all the time, but I could find something positive about each person and make an effort to be sisterly....with just about anyone just for the sake of world peace (or chapter peace, as it might be.) Couldn't you?

Does anyone think that maybe the title "legacy" should only apply after you pledge (for example, being initiated first among your class, or having the special privilege of wearing a relative's badge) vs. before you become a new member? Maybe if we did that, families would back off the pressure and celebrate the individual's choice...and chapters wouldn't be in such an awkward position.

fantASTic · #12 05-09-2007, 01:08 PM

Oh man..one of my sisters is a triple SK legacy. Her mom, sister, and aunt are all Sigma Kappas. They cut her first rounds [and this is not a competitive school, for GLO's]. Shit really hit the fan.

Now, however, she LOVES AST and told me she's glad she got cut..or else she would have joined, and she didnt fit in there.