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AlphaFrog · #1 05-02-2007, 08:00 AM

There are a few of us who have posted on this thread who are married or otherwise in successful relationships. Then you have those who are posting who meet people on the internet and/or constantly whine about their love life (or lack thereof) on GC. Whose advice do you think she should take?

It's like Rob said about the bumperstickers, for some people, giving advice about D&R is just useless.

cheerfulgreek · #2 05-02-2007, 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

There are a few of us who have posted on this thread who are married or otherwise in successful relationships. Then you have those who are posting who meet people on the internet and/or constantly whine about their love life (or lack thereof) on GC. Whose advice do you think she should take?

It's like Rob said about the bumperstickers, for some people, giving advice about D&R is just useless.

Would you just let it go already? Can we just stay on the subject before other members start blaming me for something you started. Geez.

AlphaFrog · #3 05-02-2007, 08:08 AM

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Would you just let it go already? Can we just stay on the subject before other members start blaming me for something you started. Geez.

Did I say you specifically? I missed that.

cheerfulgreek · #4 05-02-2007, 08:10 AM

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Did I say you specifically? I missed that.

You didn't have to for me to know you were referring to me.

AlphaFrog · #5 05-02-2007, 08:14 AM

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You didn't have to for me to know you were referring to me.

Actually, I wasn't. Thanks for playing though.

cheerfulgreek · #6 05-02-2007, 08:16 AM

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Actually, I wasn't. Thanks for playing though.

Whatever.

cheerfulgreek · #7 05-02-2007, 08:26 AM

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how about you two stupid fucks stay on the topic. who said members had to take advice from anyone on here? this site is for everyone to post. now get back on the subject or go fuck yourselves.

Tell her that, not me.

kddani · #8 05-05-2007, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

There are a few of us who have posted on this thread who are married or otherwise in successful relationships. Then you have those who are posting who meet people on the internet and/or constantly whine about their love life (or lack thereof) on GC. Whose advice do you think she should take?

It's like Rob said about the bumperstickers, for some people, giving advice about D&R is just useless.

While I agree with you in regards to some posters (one or two in particular), just because someone is married does not mean that they are in a "successful" relationship and thus are the only ones who should give dating advice. a) if you're married, you've been out of the dating pool for awhile and b) a married person could be in a miserable, dysfunctional marriage and thus may not exactly be qualified in advising other people how to find good relationships

JWithers · #9 05-05-2007, 02:16 PM

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While I agree with you in regards to some posters (one or two in particular), just because someone is married does not mean that they are in a "successful" relationship and thus are the only ones who should give dating advice. a) if you're married, you've been out of the dating pool for awhile and b) a married person could be in a miserable, dysfunctional marriage and thus may not exactly be qualified in advising other people how to find good relationships

ITA. I am in a happy marriage, but have been out of the 'pool' long enough that I would be kind of lost if I had to get back in.

I agree with PP that she should she go, (after all, it's only coffee) and if she senses any vibes, she could very kindly let him know how glad she is to have a friend like him. It isn't leading him on, since she really doesn't know his true intentions anyway. And if he is interested in more and is disappointed, that is sad, but at least she will have done the honest and kind thing.

(BTW, that's how I met my husband, and ended up falling in love with him anyway!

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cheerfulgreek · #10 05-05-2007, 11:26 PM

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While I agree with you in regards to some posters (one or two in particular), just because someone is married does not mean that they are in a "successful" relationship and thus are the only ones who should give dating advice. a) if you're married, you've been out of the dating pool for awhile and b) a married person could be in a miserable, dysfunctional marriage and thus may not exactly be qualified in advising other people how to find good relationships

I agree.

Scandia · #11 05-06-2007, 08:13 AM

James- well, that was ONE case a very long time ago what I am referring to. Most other people I have met have been fine per se and respectful. I am just highlighting that case in order to make a point.

You are right in that everyone needs to keep his or her standards high. Lowering them just to have somebody is NOT worth it.

AlphaFrog · #12 05-06-2007, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

While I agree with you in regards to some posters (one or two in particular), just because someone is married does not mean that they are in a "successful" relationship and thus are the only ones who should give dating advice. a) if you're married, you've been out of the dating pool for awhile and b) a married person could be in a miserable, dysfunctional marriage and thus may not exactly be qualified in advising other people how to find good relationships

I totally agree, and I was really just making the point that if you self-admittedly have a horrible time at relationships, you shouldn't be giving others advice. There were already plenty of people who replied to this thread who are in successful relationships, be it married or otherwise.