nphc and anxiety

[quietriot]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

We have had our fair share of trolls and pseudos on this baord, so for some of us who have been here awhile we are naturally suspicious. That is why my first reaction was whether or not this was a legitimate post. We have also had a fair amount of discussions about step shows being what caused folx to pledge xyz org.

We have a lot of first generation college attendees on here and other boards. But they have also sought advice from teachers, mentors, etc. from the org. of their choice. The fact the OP talked about bids also indicating a general lack of knowledge about the NPHC. Which led to further suspicion, because she seemed to know about the NPC process, but not the NPHC process.

So I asked the question, why are you interested ina NPHC sorority, which was never answered. So now I will ask a follow up question to the OP. What is your ethnicity?

Oh and if she was really serious about an NPHC org, why not post the question on that forum rather than Greek Life? Maybe, she saw the disclaimers?

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

Sweetheart, how old are you? And do you have ANYONE in your extended family that can answer some of these questions? Like a cousin, uncle sister's brother's wife's cousin's great grandmother?

And I would start with this site:

The National Panhellenic Council: http://www.nphchq.org

It would help you give yourself a "clue" and some vital knowlege. And there's always Wikipedia...

You know there's a difference between SORORity and FRATERNity? Right?

And with anything else, the NPHC organizations are about grades and units.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

look...I am so not a bleeding heart most of the time, so maybe it's because I work in mental health and know how real these issues can be, but I believe that you really just asked a question that you were concerned about in your first post...unfortunately, alot of a$$wipes come around here just to start trouble so members of orgs are often skeptical of posters....now because your tone in your post has changed to frustation thats going to start a whole nother $hitstorm...thats just the "is what it is" of GC...there are a couple of people in the thread who said to PM them if you wanted to...use those invitations and you can add my name to that list....remember that your community service and academics are more important than anything else...good luck in your endeavors...

oh yeah, and if there is anyone who you can trust and have access to who is in a NPHC org i.e. teachers, ministers, neighbors, start your quest there...

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

I just think it was a dumb question to ask a bunch of strangers that hold no decision making weight on what a sorority on your campus may do. Also we're at the end of a school year so even if you were a freshman, something should have clicked. And if you are really doing research the only question or most important question you came up with was about probates/coming out shows? I'm not unsympathetic to anyone that has any type of illness physical or mental health, but had you been interacting with the chapter of interest and really researching this question most likely would have been answered by someone that can provide you with quality feedback because they know you and have a personal relationship with you.

[ejay286]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

Great post! I wish you luck in all your endeavors.

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by ejay286

Great post! I wish you luck in all your endeavors.

Stop lying Neo!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ejay286

Great post! I wish you luck in all your endeavors.

Boooo to you all for actually reading it.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by quietriot

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

Then the simple answer to your initial question is you being invited to membership and thus having a coming out show will depend on that chapter of your org of interest.

Oh and I did explain why I was skeptical. And I asked your ethnicity to further gauge in my mind your lack of exposure to and rudimentary knowledge of NPHCs.