Depledging (HELP!!)

[susan314]

Originally Posted by nymbels

Actually I wasn't initiated. The sorority I was in waits a little over 2 months because they never fill all of their open spots through formal rush. I was never initiated. I am glad to hear that I can rush again. Though I don't know what I will do when I have to go back to that sorority through formal rush. (My school forces you to go to all sororities) Thanks for the help!!

As long as you are courteous, respectful, and polite when you leave the chapter, they should extend the same treatment to you when you go through recruitment again.

I had a pledge sister drop out, and then go through formal recruitment again the following fall. Of course, she had to attend a party at our house during round one as part of formal recruitment. It was mildly awkward, but not what I would call terrible. When she and I spoke at the recruitment party, I simply made small talk asking how her summer was, how school was going, etc. Then I wished her good luck with the rest of recruitment.

No one should be outwardly unpleasant to you while you're at the recruitment party, because they certainly wouldn't want other PNM's picking up on that negative vibe.

As I mentioned above, you should be courteous, polite, and respectful when you go through the de-pledging process. Not only will this make things less awkward when you have to attend that first round recruitment party, but it will also preserve your chances for joining other groups. Bear in mind that with some groups, having de-pledged another group may give you a bit of a stigma. (In my former pledge sister's case, I know she was cut hard in the first round. She did ultimately receive a bid through formal recruitment - she just wasn't invited back to a wide variety of chapters throughout the whole process. I think she ended up being happy in her new group, but I know it wasn't where she was expecting to end up when she left us either.) Many people have friends in other chapters and people do talk. It will certainly reflect better on you to be the person who left with dignity intact vs. being the person who left and caused a lot of trouble on her way out.