Cautiously dipping a toe in here...

dukemama · #1 04-25-2007, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by susan314

Are you still located in the South? (You don't have to reveal specifics - was just curious as to whether you were still in the south.)

Nope...in SE Pennsylvania where my hubby is from.

AlphaFrog · #2 04-25-2007, 10:09 AM

At this point, I think non-collegiate is your best option. (As far as I'm concerned) You don't have the right intentions to be a good NPC AI candidate.

twotimestalia · #3 04-25-2007, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

At this point, I think non-collegiate is your best option. (As far as I'm concerned) You don't have the right intentions to be a good NPC AI candidate.

I, for one, am GLAD I decided not to join a NPC group while in college. The selection process is a bunch of c***. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do Dukemama.

33girl · #4 04-25-2007, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by twotimestalia

I, for one, am GLAD I decided not to join a NPC group while in college. The selection process is a bunch of c***. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do Dukemama.

Please, let's not generalize. I'm sure if you had joined you would find nothing wrong w/ the "bunch of crap" selection process.

AlphaFrog · #5 04-25-2007, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by twotimestalia

I, for one, am GLAD I decided not to join a NPC group while in college. The selection process is a bunch of c***. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do Dukemama.

Are you sure you want to go there on GC, where 75% of the posters gained membership in their GLO through that "crappy" selection process???

susan314 · #6 04-25-2007, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by twotimestalia

I, for one, am GLAD I decided not to join a NPC group while in college. The selection process is a bunch of c***. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do Dukemama.

That's a pretty huge generalization. First of all, each group has their own membership criteria. Second of all, the "selection process" is very different for the different types of recruitment (formal, informal, COB, etc.). (I say different because you have more time to get to know people during some of the less structured forms of recruitment - of course, the standards/criteria should be consistent among each type.)

sageofages · #7 04-25-2007, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

At this point, I think non-collegiate is your best option. (As far as I'm concerned) You don't have the right intentions to be a good NPC AI candidate.

I absolutely disagree. I think her story is compelling. Things and people happen in our life that make being in a GLO not right at the time, but it doesn't mean we can't GROW and be a great member.

My newest "little sis" was initiated on her birthday. I won't say which one, but she was older than 30

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I am willing to talk with anyone interested in AI. (And those of you who were in a conversation with me before, please pm me....I had to drop off the face of the earth because of a family issue...which happily has improved so much...I am *back*)

#8 04-25-2007, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by sageofages

I absolutely disagree. I think her story is compelling. Things and people happen in our life that make being in a GLO not right at the time, but it doesn't mean we can't GROW and be a great member.

My newest "little sis" was initiated on her birthday. I won't say which one, but she was older than 30

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I am willing to talk with anyone interested in AI. (And those of you who were in a conversation with me before, please pm me....I had to drop off the face of the earth because of a family issue...which happily has improved so much...I am *back*)

We know who your little sister is.

You're the one who sponsors PNAMs you meet on GreekChat, right?

PenguinTrax · #9 04-25-2007, 02:20 PM

Let's not let this degrade into a discussion on membership selection practices. Please.

sageofages · #10 04-25-2007, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by OTW

We know who your little sister is.

You're the one who sponsors PNAMs you meet on GreekChat, right?

Not every...just one or two

silly goose!

dukemama · #11 04-25-2007, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Jen

It only takes one bad apple to ruin the whole bunch.

To the OP - to ignore your best contact and best opportunity in favour of seeking help here is very shortsighted.

I hope I didn't give you the impression of "shopping" around on GC for a sorority to join -- that's not my intention. My original question simply asked about the typical ages of women who AI versus those who join non-collegiate organizations.

And honestly, I don't believe XYZ sorority IS my best opportunity regardless of what my friend said at our college reunion. I can't, with a clear conscience, attempt to join a group where I know specific members did not wish me to belong. It's a matter of personal pride, I guess.

AChiOhSnap · #12 04-25-2007, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by dukemama

I hope I didn't give you the impression of "shopping" around on GC for a sorority to join -- that's not my intention. My original question simply asked about the typical ages of women who AI versus those who join non-collegiate organizations.

And honestly, I don't believe XYZ sorority IS my best opportunity regardless of what my friend said at our college reunion. I can't, with a clear conscience, attempt to join a group where I know specific members did not wish me to belong. It's a matter of personal pride, I guess.

Nope, you didn't give me that impression, especially since you said that you were only interested in one NPC sorority. XYZ only entered the picture because it seemed unusual that you would be interested in an NPC where you knew nobody versus XYZ, in which you had close friends. But you don't have to explain why you're not interested in XYZ.

Good luck in your pursuit of a non-collegiate sorority! Keep us updated.

33girl · #13 04-26-2007, 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by dukemama

And honestly, I don't believe XYZ sorority IS my best opportunity regardless of what my friend said at our college reunion. I can't, with a clear conscience, attempt to join a group where I know specific members did not wish me to belong. It's a matter of personal pride, I guess.

What if you had received a bid from XYZ, everything is going wonderful, and then had your ex-roomie tell you "I did everything I could to get you cut, I wish I didn't have to call you sister." Would you have terminated your membership? Or would you have tried to work it out or at the very least, agreed to coexist and stay out of each other's way?

I knew there were specific members who wished I wasn't a sister as a collegian. I know there are specific members who think the same of me as an alum. Am I going to let them chase me out of being involved? Hell no.

It just sounds like you are way too hung up on something that happened DECADES ago. Is this woman involved with your local alumnae chapter at all? Is she a national officer or volunteer of any sort? Is she an involved alumna of your school? If the answers are no, you're probably never going to cross her path again. So why would you let her opinion ruin something you want to go for in the here and now?

Sororities are not all roses and daisies. No one is going to like every single one of her sisters, every time every where, unless her chapter is very small or her brain is very small.

Don't let pride stand in the way of something that could make you happy.