Cautiously dipping a toe in here...

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by Jen

It only takes one bad apple to ruin the whole bunch.

To the OP - to ignore your best contact and best opportunity in favour of seeking help here is very shortsighted.

I hope I didn't give you the impression of "shopping" around on GC for a sorority to join -- that's not my intention. My original question simply asked about the typical ages of women who AI versus those who join non-collegiate organizations.

And honestly, I don't believe XYZ sorority IS my best opportunity regardless of what my friend said at our college reunion. I can't, with a clear conscience, attempt to join a group where I know specific members did not wish me to belong. It's a matter of personal pride, I guess.