Good Hair Bad Hair????

[christiangirl]

Hmmmm.....I debated on not telling on myself, but I think that this is something that needs to be said.

I was in the school cafe today and saw my friend's friend, who wears her hair "natural". But today, it looked a little rough, like she hadn't combed it at all. And the first thing I thought was, "That's not cute, she looks a little nappy." :eek. As soon as I thought it, I caught myself and tried to figure out why on earth I'd say something like that, even in my head. And I came up with.....nothing. I honestly can't think of a single reason why I thought that other than it's engrained in me to feel negatively toward that word. While her hair was "nappy," that wasn't really the problem--the style itself looked bad. It was very unkempt (if that's a word) as thought she'd just rolled out of bed. But why I chose the word "nappy" to sufficiently describe an ugly hairstyle, I don't know. I honestly don't know. Whether that tendency came from society, culture, family, etc., it's so psychologically engrained that I can't even put my finger on it. And the things that we do without even thinking about it are the habits that are hardest to change.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Hmmmm.....I debated on not telling on myself, but I think that this is something that needs to be said.

I was in the school cafe today and saw my friend's friend, who wears her hair "natural". But today, it looked a little rough, like she hadn't combed it at all. And the first thing I thought was, "That's not cute, she looks a little nappy." :eek. As soon as I thought it, I caught myself and tried to figure out why on earth I'd say something like that, even in my head. And I came up with.....nothing. I honestly can't think of a single reason why I thought that other than it's engrained in me to feel negatively toward that word. While her hair was "nappy," that wasn't really the problem--the style itself looked bad. It was very unkempt (if that's a word) as thought she'd just rolled out of bed. But why I chose the word "nappy" to sufficiently describe an ugly hairstyle, I don't know. I honestly don't know. Whether that tendency came from society, culture, family, etc., it's so psychologically engrained that I can't even put my finger on it. And the things that we do without even thinking about it are the habits that are hardest to change.

Thanks for sharing this.

[NinjaPoodle]

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[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Hairstyles & Maintenance Tips for my Happily Nappy Sistas --Delta Ave

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SoRHOr you know you are the bomb!! Thanks for this link.

[ladygreek]

I have good, nappy hair that has loced beautifully

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

I have good, nappy hair that has loced beautifully

Ladygreek, are your locs considered sisterlocs? I've been trying to figure out the real difference between locs and sisterlocs.

[SeriousSigma22]

Why is our culture so stressed over the texture of hair? I'm just curious because I don't think other cultures point out that difference.

Serioussigma22

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

Ladygreek, are your locs considered sisterlocs? I've been trying to figure out the real difference between locs and sisterlocs.

I don't know what sisterlocs are. I am just loced, and did not use a loctitian. I go now maybe twice a year to get the head massage, and to feel papmpered. But othewise I do my own maintenance.

Funny story: While growing up my mother always commented about nappy hair. I think that was because of the three siblings whe was the one who did not get "good" hair. I took my hair after her and that dismayed her. So from an early age she pressed my hair and then took me to get get perms. My hair broke off easily and would not grow long.

When I went natural with a fro in the late 60s she was not pleased. But the funny thigs is she saw the real texture of my hair, which was mixed. What she used to call my nappy kitchen was indeed very soft and fine.

Fast forward to me locing. It took me two years of daily twisting to fully loc, because the texture of my natural in places was so fine and soft. And even now the hardest part of new growth to loc is that nappy kitchen. LOL

Now seven years later my hair is down my back and still growing strong.

[Luckie1922]

I can only be me...Natural