Rush - What to NOT do or say

[LaurynZTA]

we dont talk about boyfriends alot, but theres sometime you dont have anything else to talk to the girl about. when i went through, i remember i was worried because my bf wasnt going to school with me so i asked one of the sisters if it was difficult with her bf and she told me sometimes but now always, and that really helped me alot.

but we do try to focus only on zta and not our personal lives, but if girls ask and its approapriate, we do answer them.

ALSO

My Rho Betas always told the PMNs, "if you left the __ house after a rush party and realized you left your purse inside, who you be embarrassed to walk back inside to get it?"
Also another good one is, "If you're in the middle of recruitment and you start your period, would you be scared to ask one of the girls for a tampon?"

They seem like silly questions, but during rush there were the houses I just didnt click with the girls and I would have been terrified to ask for a tampon or to go back and get my purse. But at the ZTA house, it was just a match. I felt at home there and it was like instant BFFs.

Maybe that might help if you have a girl torn between 2 houses or if youre a Rho Beta.

\^^^/
ZETA TAU ALPHA
Theta Eta Chapter - SFASU

[amiki246]

Hi. I read all the post on recruitment advice and what not to say. I rushed a sorority and I rushed more than once and I did not do a thing that would fall under the category of "don't say this or don't ask that" and I still did not get a bid. I am a nice and friendly person and I tried to get around and speak to all the girls. I remember one girl even asked me if I would ever want to live in the house or be on their executive board and that was only my second night there. Where did I go wrong? What could I have done differently. Not getting a bid made me really upset and I have gotten over it, but there are still days when I see girls wearing letters and I say to myself "what is wrong with me? how come I did not get a bid?"

And this is kind of a different subject, when rush was over, some of the girls I spoke to and that were nice to me, will either not even look at me or give me a "haha you did not get a bid" or a "I am better than you" look. Why is this?

Originally Posted by amiki246

Hi. I read all the post on recruitment advice and what not to say. I rushed a sorority and I rushed more than once and I did not do a thing that would fall under the category of "don't say this or don't ask that" and I still did not get a bid. I am a nice and friendly person and I tried to get around and speak to all the girls. I remember one girl even asked me if I would ever want to live in the house or be on their executive board and that was only my second night there. Where did I go wrong? What could I have done differently. Not getting a bid made me really upset and I have gotten over it, but there are still days when I see girls wearing letters and I say to myself "what is wrong with me? how come I did not get a bid?"

And this is kind of a different subject, when rush was over, some of the girls I spoke to and that were nice to me, will either not even look at me or give me a "haha you did not get a bid" or a "I am better than you" look. Why is this?

Unfortunately, no one here will be able to give you the answers you seek because we weren't the ones who rushed you.

Did you go through NPC rush? I find it weird that someone would ask you such questions during rush.

At the same time, the reasons why someone was cut/did not receive a bid are not disclosed to non-members as the membership selection process is private.

The things listed here are not the be-all, end-all of recruitment. Just because a PNM follows the advice here it won't guarantee her a bid.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by amiki246

Hi. I read all the post on recruitment advice and what not to say. I rushed a sorority and I rushed more than once and I did not do a thing that would fall under the category of "don't say this or don't ask that" and I still did not get a bid. I am a nice and friendly person and I tried to get around and speak to all the girls. I remember one girl even asked me if I would ever want to live in the house or be on their executive board and that was only my second night there. Where did I go wrong? What could I have done differently. Not getting a bid made me really upset and I have gotten over it, but there are still days when I see girls wearing letters and I say to myself "what is wrong with me? how come I did not get a bid?"

Not that this makes it any easier to handle, but honestly, not getting a bid to sorority does not mean that something is "wrong with you." You are not less of a person or somehow flawed because of it.

It's best not to worry yourself thinking about why you weren't extended a bid. Membership decisions are private so, you'll never know why. All you can do is speculate, and that will just make you upset when you start thinking of possible reasons.

Originally Posted by amiki246

And this is kind of a different subject, when rush was over, some of the girls I spoke to and that were nice to me, will either not even look at me or give me a "haha you did not get a bid" or a "I am better than you" look. Why is this?

I'm willing to bet that most of them don't think less of you for not receiving a bid. If they do give you dirty looks, that's just being immature. Girls can be immature sometimes.

[Mapple]

I am going through recruitment in the fall as a sophomore & I have a few concerns.

I rushed last year but was cut by round 3 from the sororities that I felt a connection with. I went to prefs to give the two I had left a chance, but I knew they weren't for me. I dropped the day before bid day. What do I say about this experience during this year's rush?

Is wearing the same outfit for both days of round 1 or 2, even though you go to different houses, a faux pas?

Kind of weird question, but what are everyone's thoughts on perfume? I feel like I read somewhere not to wear it for rush, but that sounds off to me...

Thanks

[howtheSunrose]

I'm sure this has been said many times but....

please please don't post what GLO you want to join on the internet. And definitely not on facebook. I came across a Global group (I imagine the students thought current students wouldn't see it..or were just not thinking in general) on facebook for my college's upcoming freshman class. In a thread, entitled "Rush", girls were proclaiming which sorority they were "rushing" and saying things such as, "I'm going to join the sorority that drinks the most". While I'm all for giving people a chance, I'm going to have to remember these names. Also, it's probably not the wisest idea to be writing words such as "s**t", "b*tch", and "wh**e" all over people's facebook walls but hey, that's just my personal view point.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by howtheSunrose

I'm sure this has been said many times but....

please please don't post what GLO you want to join on the internet. And definitely not on facebook. I came across a Global group (I imagine the students thought current students wouldn't see it..or were just not thinking in general) on facebook for my college's upcoming freshman class. In a thread, entitled "Rush", girls were proclaiming which sorority they were "rushing" and saying things such as, "I'm going to join the sorority that drinks the most". While I'm all for giving people a chance, I'm going to have to remember these names. Also, it's probably not the wisest idea to be writing words such as "slut", "bitch", and "whore" all over people's facebook walls but hey, that's just my personal view point.

Ahhh...Fraternal Darwinism....

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Mapple

I am going through recruitment in the fall as a sophomore & I have a few concerns.

I rushed last year but was cut by round 3 from the sororities that I felt a connection with. I went to prefs to give the two I had left a chance, but I knew they weren't for me. I dropped the day before bid day. What do I say about this experience during this year's rush?

Is wearing the same outfit for both days of round 1 or 2, even though you go to different houses, a faux pas?

Kind of weird question, but what are everyone's thoughts on perfume? I feel like I read somewhere not to wear it for rush, but that sounds off to me...

Thanks

It depends on the campus culture. At some schools, chapters may not bat an eye on a sophomore going through again, but at others, you will be one of a few sophomores going through. If asked, I think you can politely say that you just didn't find your home. I doubt an active would grill you about it much longer than that.

As for wearing the same outfit for both days of a round, while it's true that you won't be seeing the same chapters on each day, your outfit might smell. I mean, assuming your recruitment is in August or September, it will probably be hot or at least warm, so I of course am not implying that you're a smelly person, but when it's hot, people sweat.

I'd say use perfume sparingly. It depends how strong it is. You definitely don't want a chapter to remember you as the girl who smelled like perfume from 10 feet away, or still smell your perfume when you leave a room. Maybe use a body splash instead if you're concerned about it coming off too strong.