Rush - What to NOT do or say

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by VeniceIsSinking

I just really don't want to spend $40 on rush if I'm not going to get a bid because I will be a sophmore during '07 fall rush.

I think above all else this bothers me...there is no guarantee that anyone will get a bid no matter how fabulous they are during recruitment, no matter what school they are at. Even if you weren't married, it might be a "waste" of $40, because you might not get a bid. Lots of fantastic people go bidless every year. It's not like Panhellenic refunds the money of all women who go through recruitment and don't get bids, or at least I've never heard of that being done. That's part of the risk involved with recruitment. Recruitment is not a guarantee. It might be the best $40 you've ever spent, or it could be a total "waste" if you don't get a bid.

Being as how I don't know you, your school, or the organizations on your campus, they may very well be cool with you or your non-trad. status, but they may not be. Before you do anything else, maybe you should contact the greek life office about the being married aspect and if recruitment is a possibility after that time, see if there are informal events you can attend this spring to get to know the organizations better.

[VeniceIsSinking]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

I think above all else this bothers me...there is no guarantee that anyone will get a bid no matter how fabulous they are during recruitment, no matter what school they are at. Even if you weren't married, it might be a "waste" of $40, because you might not get a bid. Lots of fantastic people go bidless every year. It's not like Panhellenic refunds the money of all women who go through recruitment and don't get bids, or at least I've never heard of that being done. That's part of the risk involved with recruitment. Recruitment is not a guarantee. It might be the best $40 you've ever spent, or it could be a total "waste" if you don't get a bid.

Being as how I don't know you, your school, or the organizations on your campus, they may very well be cool with you or your non-trad. status, but they may not be. Before you do anything else, maybe you should contact the greek life office about the being married aspect and if recruitment is a possibility after that time, see if there are informal events you can attend this spring to get to know the organizations better.

I'm sorry, I think you may have misunderstood that. I suppose I should have worded it better. Anyway, I don't mind dropping the money and not getting a bid because things wouldnt work out. If for some reason I got the impression I didn't get a bid because of what class I'm in, I would be rather disappointed. Hence the feeling of "wasting" money.

Thanks for your advice though.

[33girl]

No NPC has rules against extending a bid solely because of class status. Any NPC group can pledge a second semester senior if they like.

However, some NPC groups DO have rules against married students being active members. It may not have a thing to do with whether the women in the chapter like you - it's a national rule that the chapter members must follow - the same as the rules regarding grades. Contact the Panhellenic at your school, explain your situation, say you would like to know if any of the groups have national or local bylaws regarding married women being active members, and then go from there.