Boyfriends and Crushes

[James]

Thats just silly.

ITs like saying you should find the most busted up person with some annoying personality disorder to date, just so you can feel safe because no other sane, non-busted-up, non-angst-ridden human being would ever want them.

Someone shouldn't be with you just because they have no other choice. It doesn't say much about them and it certainly doesn't say much about those that pick their mates that way.

Originally Posted by Scandia

What would you do if the person you had a crush on (assume both of you are single and the person can return your love) also has a lot of other people crushing on him or her? Should you even bother pursuing the person? Or are you setting yourself up for heartache?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by James

Thats just silly.

ITs like saying you should find the most busted up person with some annoying personality disorder to date, just so you can feel safe because no other sane, non-busted-up, non-angst-ridden human being would ever want them.

Someone shouldn't be with you just because they have no other choice. It doesn't say much about them and it certainly doesn't say much about those that pick their mates that way.

10 points for James

[Scandia]

ITs like saying you should find the most busted up person with some annoying personality disorder to date, just so you can feel safe because no other sane, non-busted-up, non-angst-ridden human being would ever want them.

Sadly, I have been told that about a person's looks (NOT personality or inner qualities). That it was good if he was ugly because that way nobody would want to steal him away from you. I understand where the persons were coming from- one had faced adultery, the other ones were close to the person who had been cheated on, so they wanted to make sure that there were no opportunities for the person to stray- but that is still not right.

I am glad they have changed their minds.

And I am not concerned about "ruining the friendship", since after all, he does not even live in my town and we only see each other a few times a year (though we talk online much more often than that).

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Sadly, I have been told that about a person's looks (NOT personality or inner qualities). That it was good if he was ugly because that way nobody would want to steal him away from you. I understand where the persons were coming from- one had faced adultery, the other ones were close to the person who had been cheated on, so they wanted to make sure that there were no opportunities for the person to stray- but that is still not right.

I am glad they have changed their minds.

And I am not concerned about "ruining the friendship", since after all, he does not even live in my town and we only see each other a few times a year (though we talk online much more often than that).

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