Marrying Down?

[Still BLUTANG]

i can't read through this whole thing to see what (or IF) i responded, but i feel like this:

if i can take the time to go to school, get my degreeS, work, own a home, yadda yadda yadda, the brother who will marry me needs to have the same level of commitment to achieving goals and setting up a comfortable life for himself. So, I don't see it as a step down to marry someone who is, say, a credentialed professional or career military (not, i wound up in the military because of X Y or Z).

For example a good friend is marrying an electrician who has a HUGE government contract. My little income is laughable to him. He has no college, but he's a good man with a REAL PLAN. I'd marry a brother like that.

i don't think there's really such a thing as marrying down, i think to many people are trapped in playing games to keep UP with the joneses. I know the damn joneses, and their life really aint that sweet.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by Still BLUTANG

i don't think there's really such a thing as marrying down, i think to many people are trapped in playing games to keep UP with the joneses. I know the damn joneses, and their life really aint that sweet.

shoot i hear that!

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by Still BLUTANG

i don't think there's really such a thing as marrying down, i think to many people are trapped in playing games to keep UP with the joneses. I know the damn joneses, and their life really aint that sweet.

For me, it isn't so much about "keeping up with the joneses". I got almost everything I wanted as a child, in a material sense. I hated most of my childhood. So you're right that having a lot of material things=happiness is false.

With me it's more about lifestyle and mentality. However, when I posted earlier in this thread, that was like three years ago. Since then, I have interacted with so many people who have different backgrounds than me. Some of these people I have a lot of common with. I've learned that your financial/educational background, or the one you grew up in, doesn't always dictate preferences and attitudes.

So if they're open-minded, intelligent, have similar values, and like the same type of places/foods/movies/shows/music/whatever...it doesn't matter to me if they're a lawyer or a bartender.