Would you get seriously involved with a guy/girl if he/she......

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

So you've been burned before, at least figuratively.

That's the reason many people waste time conceptualizing such requirements for their mate's past. The rest of the people who waste time on that are usually whores who want to redeem themselves through their mate's chastity.

Yup, I've been burned before. I can't blame anyone but me though. Well, sometimes when we make mistakes, the best thing to do is to try not to make the same mistakes twice, which is why I've been single for so long because I've been running into the same women. I don't know why these women are attracted to me.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

....I've been running into the same women. I don't know why these women are attracted to me.

I don't know why I keep ending up around the same types of men. Pheromones? I need a new scent.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I don't know why these women are attracted to me.

It's something about you. Until you fix whatever it is, it could be the places you frequent or a vibe you give off, it's a good thing that you've been abstaining and single.

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't know why I keep ending up around the same types of men.

Same to you.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

It's something about you. Until you fix whatever it is, it could be the places you frequent or a vibe you give off, it's a good thing that you've been abstaining and single.



Same to you.

DSTCHAOS, that's funny how you pegged that because my brother already told me what it is. He said that since I'm very quiet and reserved, the more outgoing women are going to approach me. He said they've been with the wild guys. He said that after a while they get tired of that, so they eventually want a more reserved guy who doesn't hang out at the clubs and places like that. He said the more reserved women want to approach me, but since they're reserved like me then we don't approach each other, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't like the loud, fast women.

The only places I go are to the book store, work, and school, so I don't understand why I'm attracting the wrong kind of women. Actually I'm getting tired of it. Maybe I should start wearing my fraternity ring on my left finger.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

DSTCHAOS, that's funny how you pegged that because my brother already told me what it is. He said that since I'm very quiet and reserved, the more outgoing women are going to approach me. He said they've been with the wild guys. He said that after a while they get tired of that, so they eventually want a more reserved guy who doesn't hang out at the clubs and places like that. He said the more reserved women want to approach me, but since they're reserved like me then we don't approach each other, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't like the loud, fast women.

The only places I go are to the book store, work, and school, so I don't understand why I'm attracting the wrong kind of women. Actually I'm getting tired of it. Maybe I should start wearing my fraternity ring on my left finger.

To be honest with you, the women I know and I would probably find you very boring.

Not because we're loud and fast but because we like jokes and charismatic personalities--men who aren't loud but can light up a room even in their silence. Being quiet and reserved may not show your true personality. First impressions can determine whether a woman wants to give you her number and so forth. Also the book store, work, and school regiment is something for old professors to do. Those of us who are young professionals want some spice when we're "off the clock." That doesn't mean you have to be running the streets or having sex, but don't think you have to live the life of a monk, either. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you're a few years younger than I am. So if I find your routine BLAH then that says something.

Your brother's assessment may be accurate. Other possibilities are that you just have limited interactions with women due to your routine. That's basic probability statistics--if you are set to only meet 3 women per month, they are likely to not be what you're looking for and those negative encounters will stick out because you haven't had more positives encounters. Lastly, the women you encounter (the quiet ones, the louder ones, or whatever) may label your quiet reservation for insecurity or being an antisocial cornball.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

To be honest with you, the women I know and I would probably find you very boring.

Not because we're loud and fast but because we like jokes and charismatic personalities--men who aren't loud but can light up a room even in their silence. Being quiet and reserved may not show your true personality. First impressions can determine whether a woman wants to give you her number and so forth. Also the book store, work, and school regiment is something for old professors to do. Those of us who are young professionals want some spice when we're "off the clock." That doesn't mean you have to be running the streets or having sex, but don't think you have to live the life of a monk, either. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you're a few years younger than I am. So if I find your routine BLAH then that says something.

Your brother's assessment may be accurate. Other possibilities are that you just have limited interactions with women due to your routine. That's basic probability statistics--if you are set to only meet 3 women per month, they are likely to not be what you're looking for and those negative encounters will stick out because you haven't had more positives encounters. Lastly, the women you encounter (the quiet ones, the louder ones, or whatever) may label your quiet reservation for insecurity or being an antisocial cornball.

LOL. DSTCHAOS, you're killing me. You are something else. O.K. you and your friends probably would get bored of me, but I'm sure I'd get bored of you ladies too. I guess I'm just an old professor because I love Borders bookstore. If women think I'm a boring insecure cornball, hey there's nothing I can do about that, I gotta be me.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

[B][I][COLOR=red]I'm sure I'd get bored of you ladies too.

Nope. We're engaging women with great personalities.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I love Borders bookstore. If women think I'm a boring insecure cornball, hey there's nothing I can do about that, I gotta be me.

I love Borders too but my routine isn't just school, work, and bookstores.

Or maybe you're repressing your personality. Cheerfulgreek said you're not boring and you're funny. Is that not something you give to some people as a first impression?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

DSTCHAOS, that's funny how you pegged that because my brother already told me what it is. He said that since I'm very quiet and reserved, the more outgoing women are going to approach me. He said they've been with the wild guys. He said that after a while they get tired of that, so they eventually want a more reserved guy who doesn't hang out at the clubs and places like that. He said the more reserved women want to approach me, but since they're reserved like me then we don't approach each other, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't like the loud, fast women.

The only places I go are to the book store, work, and school, so I don't understand why I'm attracting the wrong kind of women. Actually I'm getting tired of it. Maybe I should start wearing my fraternity ring on my left finger.

If you're reserved then I really don't hear it when I'm talking to you on the phone. Maybe when I see you, it could all change. I think you're very funny and you make me laugh so hard. You and your jokes. I know about your last relationship and I think you're just attracting the wrong women that's all. Personally, I think the person you choose to get involved with on a serious level will cause 90% of your happiness or 90% of your pain. Like the last person you were with did. You sounded miserable to me. I'm surprised you stayed in it as long as you did.

One of the biggest things I look for in a guy is that he can be himself no matter what I think of him. Maybe I like him, maybe I don't but if a guy isn't himself then what's the point of going out with him. This is the problem I have. Guys are never themselves around me. They're too busy trying to impress me. I think DSTCHAOS is right. A guy can light up a room without saying a word. Based on you're personality I get that from you, but not all women are the same.

I have to agree with your brother. I'm very outgoing. I guess I can be considered a former party girl, and I like you a lot just based on our phone conversations. I can talk to you fo-eva! We never run out of things to talk about. I've never met you in person YET, but I already feel like you're a really good friend. You're a really cool guy PB. The wild guys, I'm not into so I think your brother hit this one on the nose. If you get bored call me, I have to tell you something funny.

One more thing. PB whatever you do, don't give up on relationships. It's no fun being alone. There are some good women out there that would love to be with a guy like you. The bookstore, work and school? LOL. Hey, some women would love this, because they would know you could only be at one of three places.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

If you're reserved then I really don't hear it when I'm talking to you on the phone. Maybe when I see you, it could all change. I think you're very funny and you make me laugh so hard. You and your jokes.

Scaaaaaaary......

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

If you're reserved then I really don't hear it when I'm talking to you on the phone. Maybe when I see you, it could all change. I think you're very funny and you make me laugh so hard. You and your jokes. I know about your last relationship and I think you're just attracting the wrong women that's all. Personally, I think the person you choose to get involved with on a serious level will cause 90% of your happiness or 90% of your pain. Like the last person you were with did. You sounded miserable to me. I'm surprised you stayed in it as long as you did.

One of the biggest things I look for in a guy is that he can be himself no matter what I think of him. Maybe I like him, maybe I don't but if a guy isn't himself then what's the point of going out with him. This is the problem I have. Guys are never themselves around me. They're too busy trying to impress me. I think DSTCHAOS is right. A guy can light up a room without saying a word. Based on you're personality I get that from you, but not all women are the same.

I have to agree with your brother. I'm very outgoing. I guess I can be considered a former party girl, and I like you a lot just based on our phone conversations. I can talk to you fo-eva! We never run out of things to talk about. I've never met you in person YET, but I already feel like you're a really good friend. You're a really cool guy PB. The wild guys, I'm not into so I think your brother hit this one on the nose. If you get bored call me, I have to tell you something funny.

One more thing. PB whatever you do, don't give up on relationships. It's no fun being alone. There are some good women out there that would love to be with a guy like you. The bookstore, work and school? LOL. Hey, some women would love this, because they would know you could only be at one of three places.

Thanks for the kind remarks.

I got your picture you e-mailed me. Hey you cheated. I thought we weren't going to send pictures? Well I don't have any recent pictures of me, so you'll just have to wait for the real me.

I did picture you to be attractive based on how your voice sounds but, I didn't know you looked like that. Is that a recent picture. You're a very attractive woman.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Thanks for the kind remarks.

I got your picture you e-mailed me. Hey you cheated. I thought we weren't going to send pictures? Well I don't have any recent pictures of me, so you'll just have to wait for the real me.

I did picture you to be attractive based on how your voice sounds but, I didn't know you looked like that. Is that a recent picture. You're a very attractive woman.

This is where the PM option is grrrrrrrrrreat.