Would you get seriously involved with a guy/girl if he/she......

christiangirl · #1 03-22-2007, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Honestly answering a question doesn't preclude being judgmental. There was an obvious value judgment in his post and he even admitted so by admitting to a double standard.

I never said honesty and judgements were related. IMO, the fact that he started the statement with "I think" instead of "It is" shows that he was expressing an opinion rather than passing a judgement. Unless the double standard is admitting that his values are different from others', then I didn't see one, but that's me.

KSig RC · #2 03-22-2007, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

I never said honesty and judgements were related. IMO, the fact that he started the statement with "I think" instead of "It is" shows that he was expressing an opinion rather than passing a judgement. Unless the double standard is admitting that his values are different from others', then I didn't see one, but that's me.

Nah, the reality is that statements that start with "I think" can be just as judgmental as those that start with "It is" - PrettyBoy is entitled to his own opinion and values, and he wasn't really being a dick about it, but it's still pretty plainly there.

christiangirl · #3 03-22-2007, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by KSig RC

Nah, the reality is that statements that start with "I think" can be just as judgmental as those that start with "It is" -

They can be--whether or not it was here is subjective. I guess my glasses have a different lens.

DSTCHAOS · #4 03-22-2007, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

They can be--whether or not it was here is subjective. I guess my glasses have a different lens.

Not subjective at all. We all have different lens. That doesn't make the truth any less apparent.

christiangirl · #5 03-23-2007, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Not subjective at all. We all have different lens. That doesn't make the truth any less apparent.

In certain matters, I believe even the truth itself is subjective, making an absolute, objective truth, not only less apparent, but downright nonexistent. This is one of those matters.

But like I said: that's just how I see it. That's the truth to me. If you see it differently and no one unjustly suffers from that difference, then that's

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PrettyBoy · #6 03-23-2007, 07:21 AM

I knew this was coming. Very funny. I always get picked on here at this site, but that's cool. Greeks started picking on me my 1st night on this site because of my screen name. Hey, its cool though. My fraternity brothers tease me all the time because I'm not like them. They still love me for me though. Besides, I never picked my screen name because I think I'm attractive. I picked it because women do, and I haven't met a woman yet who hasn't found me attractive, so it's not like I can't get with a lot of women sexually, I just choose not too. I want to see what she's about 1st. They always want more than friendship from me, so why not go with the flow.

DSTCHAOS hit it on the nose. 4 or more, and a woman is not PrettyBoy material. You don't have to have a lot of partners to know how to have good sex and please your partner. Why even have sex if you can't please your partner. I would get more satisfaction knowing she was pleased rather than being pleased myself.

I'm not being judgemental, I've dealt with women who have had several partners and I don't really care for women like that. I only dealt with them because they lied to me by telling me what I wanted to hear just so they could get involved with me. I never get along with women like this, so it's not like I didn't give them a chance. If I just shut them out, then that's being judgemental. Now, I'll be friends with them and that's it, and even then I would rather not even associate myself with them at all. You all can laugh at me if you want, it doesn't bother me, I actually found these post to be funny too. Well, I gotta finish my sketches.

Later.

JonInKC · #7 03-23-2007, 09:49 AM

That reminds me of that Thompson Twins song from the 80's.

"Doctor doctor,
when I pee it's burnin' burnin'
Oh doctor doctor,
is this gon-or-heeeeeeeeeeahhhhhhh"

DSTCHAOS · #8 03-26-2007, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

DSTCHAOS hit it on the nose. 4 or more, and a woman is not PrettyBoy material. You don't have to have a lot of partners to know how to have good sex and please your partner. Why even have sex if you can't please your partner. I would get more satisfaction knowing she was pleased rather than being pleased myself.

I'm not being judgemental, I've dealt with women who have had several partners and I don't really care for women like that. I only dealt with them because they lied to me by telling me what I wanted to hear just so they could get involved with me. I never get along with women like this, so it's not like I didn't give them a chance. If I just shut them out, then that's being judgemental. Now, I'll be friends with them and that's it, and even then I would rather not even associate myself with them at all. You all can laugh at me if you want, it doesn't bother me, I actually found these post to be funny too. Well, I gotta finish my sketches.

I never said you had to have ANY sexual partners to know (or be able to learn) how to please your mate. I'm just amused that the "how many" question is still asked and that there are people (usually men, since women know that sexual promiscuity is accepted from men) who formulate how many partners it's okay for their partner to have had.

I've known women, who have only had 1 sexual partner, refuse to answer such a question from their mate. Simply because the "how many" question was created to perpetuate a gendered double standard.