BID CARDS

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by navane

I think I might feel a little bit awkward if a bunch of sisters came to my dorm and started cheering and handing me gifts. What if I wasn't sure I wanted to accept their bid?

When I went through informal recruitment, on a visit to one sorority, I witnessed their bid process. They took one girl out into the hall of the student union and [apparently] offered her a bid. A sister then led her back in and announced to the many sisters and guests present that Rhonda Rushee has accepted an invitation to be an XYZ. Then, the girls started cheering. The new member looked so surprised, happy and overwhelmed.

As for me, I had spent a while visiting all of the party rooms that evening. About an hour or so after I got home, the President of ABC phoned me and said that the sisters would like to invite me to membership. Since I had only talked to them for like an hour at most, I wanted to get to know them better. The President thought that was ok and invited me around to additional events.

I think I kind of like what ZTA did for Blueangel. It was cute and fun, without making a big fuss and making anyone feel obligated. The same goes for "XYZ" I mentioned above. The PNM was offered a bid in private which is really good in case she has questions or is unsure. Then, the sisters could make a fuss after she had accepted.


.....Kelly

If you don't want to accept the bid then you don't call us by 12 on Friday or whatever we make the deadline - it's really not a big deal. Generally with my chapter if someone is at preference they will be joining. We also have a bid day but since we're such a commuter school many new members can't make it and the fuss at their dorm or apartment is the only fuss they will get.

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

If you don't want to accept the bid then you don't call us by 12 on Friday or whatever we make the deadline - it's really not a big deal. Generally with my chapter if someone is at preference they will be joining. We also have a bid day but since we're such a commuter school many new members can't make it and the fuss at their dorm or apartment is the only fuss they will get.

It's the same with my chapter. If the girl doesn't want to accept the bid, she doesn't show up to bid night. Simple as that. She doesn't have to give us her answer on the spot.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by OTW

It's the same with my chapter. If the girl doesn't want to accept the bid, she doesn't show up to bid night. Simple as that. She doesn't have to give us her answer on the spot.

Do you go back to pick up the gifts? I am dead serious about this question. How do handle someone having your letters on a shirt or something if they decide not to join?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Do you go back to pick up the gifts? I am dead serious about this question. How do handle someone having your letters on a shirt or something if they decide not to join?

We gave gifts at a bid day, but not with the bid. We wouldn't give our letters out before then. I'm not sure that we never gave anything else like flowers, etc. though.