Facebook... "Dirty Rushing"?

Senusret I · #1 01-17-2007, 05:15 PM

Thanks ladies!

<------ So glad I'm a man sometimes.

texas*princess · #2 01-17-2007, 08:24 PM

do the college panhellenics police facebook & myspace? How would they be able to enforce those and/or police those if the pages are private?

I'm so glad I had just graduated when the whole facebook thing started in my area.

FSUZeta · #3 01-17-2007, 08:40 PM

dirty rushing can occur anytime up to and including the actual recruitment. as soon as the pnm gets her facebook notification from her (soon-to-be) college, she can go on and start accepting people as friends.

it is not "illegal" for a sorority member to be in contact with a pnm until the designated "silence period", when sorority members and pnms are not to converse with or contact one another. often this occurs at the end of the spring semester and carries thru to bid day in the fall(or thru fall until the actual bid day spring semester for those with deferred rush).

one problem that can occur is when either the member or the pnm contact the other during the silence period. a virtual friendship can develop, which might give that sorority an edge with the pnm. it might also backfire on the pnm-she might feel that her "friendship" with the sorority member might give her an edge over the other pnms. pin all her hopes on joining that group and then might not receive a bid from them.

quite a few sororities ask their members to make their profiles inaccessible during the silence period to safeguard against this.

FSUZeta · #4 01-17-2007, 08:41 PM

you would be surprised how many times a sorority member gets caught contacting a pnm during recruitment-some people don't think to make it private!!

PhiMuLady150 · #5 01-17-2007, 09:03 PM

I know a lot of the girls who have rushed since Facebook has existed have either a)have very high privacy settings b)waited until rush is over to add friends that were already in sororities (and vice versa) c)not change privacy settings but "cleaned up" their profiles and pics before rush in case sorority members were looking. I have had several friends who are now new members or were in Fall of '06 tell me that they knew hands down that current sorority members were looking them up on Facebook.

GtownGirl98 · #6 01-17-2007, 09:49 PM

I'm thinking about the campus' with spring rush... these girls have had a full semester to get to know people and befriend them. I would think that it would be easy to dirty rush now a days (not to say it wasn't totally easy to do before the internet) to drop a note of "great to see you tonight, there was great buzz about you." OR "great time with you tonight, see you tomorrow". And these things don't always show up in the feeds and headlines.

I'm also thankful I am not in college, going through rush, now. It would be very hard.

ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl · #7 01-18-2007, 12:57 AM

We had to make our profiles on Facebook AND Myspace friends only and if we were friends with any PNM (excepting those that were already students at the school the semester before, I think) we had to de-friend them. You can actually still send messages, though...there's probably no good way to avoid all that. If people really want to make contact online and dirty rush they will. You just have to hope that both the other GLOs and your own girls will step up to the plate and be honest. We mostly do it just to keep the identity of Rho Chis private. I went through Fall 2005 and we figured out affiliations based on what was written on peoples' facebook walls.

33girl · #8 01-18-2007, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by GtownGirl98

I'm thinking about the campus' with spring rush... these girls have had a full semester to get to know people and befriend them. I would think that it would be easy to dirty rush now a days (not to say it wasn't totally easy to do before the internet) to drop a note of "great to see you tonight, there was great buzz about you." OR "great time with you tonight, see you tomorrow". And these things don't always show up in the feeds and headlines.

I'm also thankful I am not in college, going through rush, now. It would be very hard.

That's just a technologically updated version of telling a rushee the same thing when you see her in the dorm. It happened then, it's going to happen now.

Also I think there's something now that silence/disaffiliation for Rho Chis isn't supposed to be more than 30 days? So you couldn't say someone is "off limits" from spring until rush week, or all of the fall if you have spring rush.

FSUZeta · #9 01-19-2007, 02:33 PM

panhellenics can make whatever rules they want-if they want to make silence from the last day of the spring semester until bid day in the fall, they can do it. some panhellenic rules get veryspecific about suitable contact between a pnm and a sorority member.

ChildoftheHorn · #10 03-24-2007, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

you would be surprised how many times a sorority member gets caught contacting a pnm during recruitment-some people don't think to make it private!!

Yeah, at my school, they even have it that the day before bid night that no sorority members can even talk to or acknowledge any PNM. That even goes for previous friends and people in the same class. My best friend couldn't even talk to me for a day, even though I wasn't going to join her group, because of this rule. ( I was a sophmore at the time).

There are also a lot of rules on facebook stuff that applies to everyone on campus. PNM's are not allowed to message/comment/friend any affiliated members and the same goes for the reverse - even if you are good friends.

I will say that I know a friend got a "snap" bid after dropping recruitment early and she got her bid the night before everyone else found out who was in the process - mainly because they found out that day that they would be short quota by one no matter what. I am pretty sure that it is dirty, but it is what it is and it isn't really my friend's fault. She got her bid through a facebook message because it was private and could not be accessed by university members like the emails can.....

FSUZeta · #11 03-25-2007, 11:15 AM

ordinarily snap bids happen during the bid matching process and are handled by the greek life advisor-phoning the pnm and saying that the pnm did not match, but that abc would love to have her as a new member and were offering her a bid. noone but the greek life advisor, the alumnae present at the bid matching and the pnm would know that she received a snap bid, if it is handled the way npc suggests.

dgdramadawg · #12 03-25-2007, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

ordinarily snap bids happen during the bid matching process and are handled by the greek life advisor-phoning the pnm and saying that the pnm did not match, but that abc would love to have her as a new member and were offering her a bid. noone but the greek life advisor, the alumnae present at the bid matching and the pnm would know that she received a snap bid, if it is handled the way npc suggests.

At UGA, the houses themselves make the phone calls for snap bids. As I recall, there was a certain time that houses could start doing so, like maybe 7 or 8 in the morning? I didn't realize that other schools had Greek Life doing the snap bidding. Maybe this is to avoid what happens at UGA... certain PNMs getting calls from several houses if they have mismatched.