i am sorry that you have had to endure this. just remember that you have the GREATEST job in the world. you are a mother. you are molding someone that you carried in your belly, talked to, cried for and almost died for.
there is nothing wrong with wanting to help someone, but if it is at the cost of you--your self-worth, sanity and safety, it is not worth it.
you must starting walking a different path. you have a responsibility to your child. you can't afford to give anyone the time of day except those who are about enhancing your family's life.
seek God's counsel. talk to him and ask him to guide you and give you a more discerning eye.
parenthood changes a person. for me i have cut out family and friends because i choose to gatekeep and protect my family from other people's b-s.
as i said before, good luck to you!
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Originally Posted by sexybrownmocha
Ladies thank you for responding to my post.
As far as the men I am referring to I broke up with him in September after he hit me. It was a "clean" break no lingering no continued communication what-so-ever. I wasn't with him because I felt powerful by helping him. I simply believed as I do with everyone that he good would EVENTUALLY lead him to do better. One of the things I have struggled with is making allowances with peoples problems. I have always known that more than likely if the situation is reversed where I am struggling and in need most people tend to go their own way. I tend to always try to give someone a chance to get it together because I feel like I was afforded the chance to correct some of my mistakes. I do realize that basically you can try to help a person all you want but until they really azquire the drive to "really" want to change nothing happens.
Yes I have exhausted myself emotionally and here recently financially with a friend, but honestly I thought I was helping him until he recently told me the "rest" of how his situation was. Basically he lied by omission of important facts. I thought I was helping him get out of a bad situation and move on to better himself and his son , but in truth what happened was basically a girl played him. She made him believe she had set up some things for him in the music industry then when the day to perform came he not only found out it was a lie but that the young lady was with another man. I was under the impression that he was only involved with the lady for business purposes and that they had only known each other a few months. He actually had been sleeping with the girl on and off for a year and a half. Him and I were not intimate , we were friends, the guy that hit me was his best friend and when that situation occurred he was just there trying to support me and motivate me to move on.
I apologize if this offended you AKA_Monet. I was simply wanting to hopefully spark a conversation about something that I have struggled with for a long time and I was wondering how many/ if any other women had this problem and how did they deal with it. Thanks for everyone that responded.
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