Just Wondering

[darling1]

this is just my opinion. i also preface by saying that i have children and have been married for 5 yrs.

as a single parent who is young and working to excel professionally and personally, you have no business giving ANYONE money except your landlord, yourself, your child, your church and your creditors (this is in no particular order).

a man or anybody for that matter needs to be in your life to enhance not to hinder. personally, i dont see how u have time to date, since you emphasized that you are still in school. that says to me that you desire to finish sooner than later. with your child in kindergarten, her activities and your school activities, job and other personal business you should be too busy to entertain foolishness.

i had similiar struggles. i have a big heart and let men walk over me. but, i learned and i also didnt have the reponsibility that being a parent entails.

i view you helping a grown ass man foolish and maybe you need to stop now. you have a daughter and if for no other reason, dump this fool. you are teaching your child that it is ok to except less than her worth and it is ok to be irresponsible. continue this relationship is irresponsible because i bet if the roles are reversed and YOU needed help, this man would not be around.

this scenario is about you and your esteem.

again, just my humble opinion.

good luck to you!!

Originally Posted by sexybrownmocha

I recently turned 26 my daughter is now five, I am STILL in school in Texas and I just figured out my dating pattern. I tend to date men that make ME feel like they NEED me. I constantly help them sometimes to the detriment of myself. I was wondering if anyone else has struggled with this somewhat in dating... I feel so bad I have a huge heart and LOVE to help everyone but it's like I go overboard with the man I am interested/involved with. How do you ladies view "helping" a man by giving him money and helping with his responsibilities? I don't have low self esteem or anything , I am somewhat shy.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by darling1

this is just my opinion. i also preface by saying that i have children and have been married for 5 yrs.

as a single parent who is young and working to excel professionally and personally, you have no business giving ANYONE money except your landlord, yourself, your child, your church and your creditors (this is in no particular order).

a man or anybody for that matter needs to be in your life to enhance not to hinder. personally, i dont see how u have time to date, since you emphasized that you are still in school. that says to me that you desire to finish sooner than later. with your child in kindergarten, her activities and your school activities, job and other personal business you should be too busy to entertain foolishness.

i had similiar struggles. i have a big heart and let men walk over me. but, i learned and i also didnt have the reponsibility that being a parent entails.

i view you helping a grown ass man foolish and maybe you need to stop now. you have a daughter and if for no other reason, dump this fool. you are teaching your child that it is ok to except less than her worth and it is ok to be irresponsible. continue this relationship is irresponsible because i bet if the roles are reversed and YOU needed help, this man would not be around.

this scenario is about you and your esteem.

again, just my humble opinion.

good luck to you!!

Good post filled with some harsh truths.