Rush - What to NOT do or say

[grkfuture10]

Wow, this is so helpful to me! I'm glad that there are greek ladies who are so helpful to young ladies like me trying to learn all they can to be a prospective addition to a sisterhood!

[pssgirl83]

One on the biggest don't do's we had is do not ever under any circumstances is to not say anything that has to do with legacy, esp. if the PNM is a younger sibling of an active. We had one of the girls do this. they were twins and one had joined in the fall and the other did spring informal, she did not get a bid just for the fact that she thought we "owed" it to her because her sister was already a member.

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by pssgirl83

One on the biggest don't do's we had is do not ever under any circumstances is to not say anything that has to do with legacy, esp. if the PNM is a younger sibling of an active. We had one of the girls do this. they were twins and one had joined in the fall and the other did spring informal, she did not get a bid just for the fact that she thought we "owed" it to her because her sister was already a member.

This is good advice. Even though we had a fairly competitive recruitment at my school, girls would always go through that didn't know better and assumed they would get a bid to XXX sorority for whatever reason. Acting as if you're owed a bid to a certain house is a great way to get yourself cut from ALL the sororities after the first round.

[KSUViolet06]

I agree. If you are an "in house" legacy to a chapter (meaning your sister or other relative is currently in that specific chapter), chances are good that the entire sorority already knows that you are a legacy. You don't need to remind them. It sounds presumptuous.

There is also no need to let EVERY OTHER sorority know that you have a sister in XYZ. The more you mention it, the more sororities might think you're not interested in them and drop you. If your legacy sorority cuts you, that puts you in a tough spot.

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There is also no need to let EVERY OTHER sorority know that you have a sister in XYZ. The more you mention it, the more sororities might think you're not interested in them and drop you. If your legacy sorority cuts you, that puts you in a tough spot.

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

[Jill1228]

so was she dropped like a bad habit? It woulda served her ass right!

Originally Posted by tunatartare

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

[adpiucf]

Don't ask if your GPA, age or class rank will hurt you in membership selection. That's an awkward question that puts your rusher on the spot. It is ok to ask about scholarship and membership requirements for GPA, however. It is also ok to ask about the general make-up of the chapter (approx. how much of the sorority is currently made up of sophomores, etc.).

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by Jill1228

so was she dropped like a bad habit? It woulda served her ass right!

No she got in, albeit by a technicality that prevented the girls from dropping her. They were not happy about it.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by tunatartare

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

She should've been dropped for that! And it's so bad for her too...what if she in the end decides she wants to join another chapter after all? They won't want her.

[tunatartare]

No one could drop her. At my school we weren't allowed to cut anyone before pref.