Relationship w/o sex?

[delph998]

^^^If not worse. Women are something else.

But to to answer the question: Yes, do I believe that unmarried couples can have a relationship without marriage.

Now, the confession: I've been celibate for over two years and I am very sexual!! Don't get me wrong...it's hard out there for a sista. I've been single for a while and choose not to have casual sex, but aside from that, when I do get in a relationship, he and I will have a serious conversation about sex because I still don't want to just hop in the bed.

As someone said in a previous post, there are too many people loosely having sex with people and I want to make sure that this is a serious relationship before I give the goods. And my goods are good!

[QuietStorm1914]

Ok, maybe it's just me.. but doesn't a relationship without sex = friendship? What's the difference between the two? Does the title of having a relationship come with coochie coupons? The hope and/or promise of sex in the future?

Another thought, what if you and the person have decided to be celibate together, and you can't satisfy each other sexually once you are married. Then what? Based on that thought, I think it could be accomplished within a certain timeframe. There probably are a few out there that would wait until marriage without having sex. I just think that people would want to know what they are getting into in the sex department, b/c if you decide to wait or give it up on the first day... sex is an important part of a relationship. The friendship, communication, and all of that is cool... but I really believe that sex can and will make or break a relationship. (Whatever the definition of that is.)

These are just thoughts that made me go hmmmm as I was reading through the thread.

[laylo]

^ In my experience (a Christian one) dating/courting is a kind of friendship, but the purpose of it is to explore possible marriage partners or prepare people for doing that. A lot of people think that if you don't "test drive", you might end up married to a bad sex partner, but in reality sex is mostly mental and not about skill. Your feelings about someone are more likely to determine whether sex is good. And statistics show that those who are celibate before marriage have more satisfying sex lives than those who aren't.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by laylo

statistics show that those who are celibate before marriage have more satisfying sex lives than those who aren't.

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Yay for me!

On a serious note, I am doing this for spiritual reasons. Sex complicates relationships so much. And Quietstorm, if you really believe that relationships without sex is friendship, well...that concerns me a bit. But I believe that it will all work out in the end because I serve an awesome God.

[QuietStorm1914]

Originally Posted by delph998

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Yay for me!

On a serious note, I am doing this for spiritual reasons. Sex complicates relationships so much. And Quietstorm, if you really believe that relationships without sex is friendship, well...that concerns me a bit. But I believe that it will all work out in the end because I serve an awesome God.

Yes I know the difference, I was far from serious.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by QuietStorm1914

Yes I know the difference, I was far from serious.

Whew...that's what's up!

[Granny]

I don't think its impossible to have a relationship without sex. Its going to be hard if there is a physical attraction on both sides. You just have to not put yourself in "dangerous" situations.

[bejones]

It's possible...I think the key is to finding ways to be intimate without actually crossing the line to sex. That being said...it's extremely hard to even see there is a line...much less not cross it.

[James]

"Coochie coupons." Thats the funiest thing I have read all day

Originally Posted by QuietStorm1914

[COLOR="Blue" Does the title of having a relationship come with coochie coupons? [/COLOR]

[RoyalEmpress33]

Yes, it is possible, although very difficult. I'm in this exact situation right now where he wants sex and I don't... *sighs*

[James]

I do believe that many MARRIED couples have relationships without sex.

Originally Posted by delph998

^^^If not worse. Women are something else.

But to to answer the question: Yes, do I believe that unmarried couples can have a relationship without marriage.

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[cheerfulgreek]

Both people would have to agree not to. If one of them wants to wait until marriage and the other one doesn't then it may cause a problem. I think it all depends on how much they love each other. If you love someone enough, you'll wait, but it would be really hard to. It's hard to see it as a serious relationship without intamacy.

[lsucajun8]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Both people would have to agree not to. If one of them wants to wait until marriage and the other one doesn't then it may cause a problem. I think it all depends on how much they love each other. If you love someone enough, you'll wait, but it would be really hard to. It's hard to see it as a serious relationship without intamacy.

I agree with cheerful greek....I am in a new relationship and we have had the sex conversation and the guy I am seeing is really understanding and knows that I have my limits and he respects that. I feel kind of bad for him sometime because in the past he was used to intimacy in his other girlfriends, but I am still determined.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by lsucajun8

I agree with cheerful greek....I am in a new relationship and we have had the sex conversation and the guy I am seeing is really understanding and knows that I have my limits and he respects that. I feel kind of bad for him sometime because in the past he was used to intimacy in his other girlfriends, but I am still determined.

I hope you don't think intimacy and sex are the same thing.

[lsucajun8]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I hope you don't think intimacy and sex are the same thing.

No I know that they are two different things. When I said that in the past that he was used to intimacy I meant in a sexual manner.