Can Men and Women Be Truly Just Friends?

[PhrozenGod01]

I'm not sure if it was mentioned earlier in the thread, but the only female friends who are seriously "just friends" are the sisters, cousins, and girlfriends of friends that I already have. And if my friends broke up with their girlfriends that I'm cool with, those females wouldn't be my friends any more. I'd be nice to them, but there wouldn't be much to talk about. It's a simple "man law" *looks at clock, gets more impatient for happy hour*

[ShamikaT]

I DO NOT allow my beaus to have female friends for the reasons mentioned in this thread. If I ever find out, I WILL chop him up and throw him down the garbage disposal! I do not play with that mess.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ShamikaT

I DO NOT allow my beaus to have female friends for the reasons mentioned in this thread. If I ever find out, I WILL chop him up and throw him down the garbage disposal! I do not play with that mess.

Geesh. Good luck on being able to control which gender a grown ass man's friends are. He'll still befriend women, he just won't tell YOU about it.

And while he's lying to you about not having platonic friendships with women, he'll just go ahead and cheat on you too since he's getting away with hiding something anyway and will be "chopped up" whether it's platonic or not.

[delph998]

I agree with DSTChaos.

You can't control what your significant other is doing when you all are not together. Trust is a huge component of a successful relationship. And if you have those ground rules before you get into the relationship, you may not need to be with him.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by ShamikaT

I DO NOT allow my beaus to have female friends for the reasons mentioned in this thread. If I ever find out, I WILL chop him up and throw him down the garbage disposal! I do not play with that mess.

Whooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go ahead girl!!!!!

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGod01

I'm not sure if it was mentioned earlier in the thread, but the only female friends who are seriously "just friends" are the sisters, cousins, and girlfriends of friends that I already have. And if my friends broke up with their girlfriends that I'm cool with, those females wouldn't be my friends any more. I'd be nice to them, but there wouldn't be much to talk about. It's a simple "man law" *looks at clock, gets more impatient for happy hour*

Are you married? Just asking...

























LADIES, THIS MAN IS READDDYYYY!!!!

[PhrozenGod01]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Are you married? Just asking...

























LADIES, THIS MAN IS READDDYYYY!!!!

I'm way too young to be married. Maybe not too young, but way too immature. Maybe in a few years, when I've worked longer and act more responsible.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGod01

I'm way too young to be married. Maybe not too young, but way too immature. Maybe in a few years, when I've worked longer and act more responsible.

Yeah... Whatever...

Homegirl plays her cards right with you, you'd go down on bended knee...

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGod01

I'm way too young to be married. Maybe not too young, but way too immature.

I figured you were too young and most men don't get mature enough until they are in their mid-20s to 30s.

I respect anyone who can admit to needing more life experiences before making a life commitment like that.

[PhrozenGod01]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Yeah... Whatever...

Homegirl plays her cards right with you, you'd go down on bended knee...

If by playing her cards right, you mean she bought me an XBox 360, I'd think about it. I am so kidding. She'd have to buy me some games too.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I figured you were too young and most men don't get mature enough until they are in their mid-20s to 30s.

I respect anyone who can admit to needing more life experiences before making a life commitment like that.

I don't know. I can be in a mature relationship, but marriage is probably less about love and more about business in my eyes. When I listen to people much older than me, and seemingly much more thorough, vent about marriage/family issues, I can only nod my head and pretend to understand.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGod01

If by playing her cards right, you mean she bought me an XBox 360, I'd think about it. I am so kidding. She'd have to buy me some games too.

I don't know. I can be in a mature relationship, but marriage is probably less about love and more about business in my eyes. When I listen to people much older than me, and seemingly much more thorough, vent about marriage/family issues, I can only nod my head and pretend to understand.

1) Plenty of women I know work for Microsoft and can hook you up on their discount for the XBox...

2) Just for your own knowledge, you need to know about the "reality" of marriage by reading books about. Most folks don't know about being married until they are. But that doesn't mean you should go in clueless.

Besides, the way I intepret DSTChaos' comment was that you ought to have lived a little in your life, whatever that may be... If you haven't had those experiences you think you need to have, then you will be stringing along another person in your life always in a "search", sometimes for something better... It's about being indecisive.

Being married myself, there are time that I am quite immature with my husband. But I regroup and rebuild. To me, IMO, that is how love builds on a relationship. If you love each other, then you can always build. But you havta know how to love each other.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGod01

I don't know. I can be in a mature relationship, but marriage is probably less about love and more about business in my eyes. When I listen to people much older than me, and seemingly much more thorough, vent about marriage/family issues, I can only nod my head and pretend to understand.

Hopefully a healthy balance of the two.