WTF she joined my sorority?!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by sdsuchelle

Okay, so I was wondering.. has anyone ever had someone you LOATHE join your org (either at your school or another)? How did you deal with it?

My ex and I dated for 4 years, until he cheated on me with this girl who is now a freshman in college. She is pretty much the reason we don't really talk anymore -- she won't let him call me, he denies my comments on myspace because "she might see them", etc. Basically she is a psycho.

Anyway, he just joined Sigma Nu, and one of her best friends joined ADPi. I am really worried that she'll rush too.

Is it irrational or mean of me to freak out with the thought that she might rush ADPi? She goes to a different school than I do.

Seriously I don't think I could handle it.

Too bad hazing is a felony now. If it wasn't you could really make her work REAL HARD for those letters, if you know what I mean.

[RU OX Alum]

see....that can back fire if they don't quit....then they get in and you're the jerk, and it's awkward (sp?) for everyone...that's why we have black ball, sometimes its just takes one, sometimes it takes 1/3 of chapter, but those votes can be gotten

[GVSU_SigPi_Gea]

i have a short attention span, so i didnt make it thru all 4 pages of replies, so if someone already said this, i apologize.

many chapters across the nation have ways of keeping members out of their organizations through the new member votes. depending on how presigious your organization is (im talking recognition within your national/international organization or on campus, not just how awsome you think your chapter is), you can take steps to developing much stricter means of member selection.

The privledges of being a greek is being selective. Some are moreso than others. A few chapters within my organization have chapters that turn away pledges if they receive as little as 3 no votes, maybe even less. My mind comes to a chapter we have down south with over 90 active members. Our chapter averages about 40 members, and if any pledge receives 5 no votes, they don't get in.

So, if this girl does end up rushing, make sure you come up with a tactful argument against this girl's character, and do it in such a way that it stirs up enough dissention that will fulfill your denial of membership requirement.

God i love being selective.

[irishpipes]

Grand Valley Sigma Pi-

Congratulations on your chapter's success!

Originally Posted by GVSU_SigPi_Gea

i have a short attention span, so i didnt make it thru all 4 pages of replies, so if someone already said this, i apologize.

many chapters across the nation have ways of keeping members out of their organizations through the new member votes. depending on how presigious your organization is (im talking recognition within your national/international organization or on campus, not just how awsome you think your chapter is), you can take steps to developing much stricter means of member selection.

The privledges of being a greek is being selective. Some are moreso than others. A few chapters within my organization have chapters that turn away pledges if they receive as little as 3 no votes, maybe even less. My mind comes to a chapter we have down south with over 90 active members. Our chapter averages about 40 members, and if any pledge receives 5 no votes, they don't get in.

So, if this girl does end up rushing, make sure you come up with a tactful argument against this girl's character, and do it in such a way that it stirs up enough dissention that will fulfill your denial of membership requirement.

God i love being selective.

Your signature:
Sigma Pi
Building a New Generation of Leaders

Founding Father,
Theta Rho Chapter,
Grand Valley State University

Since our founding day on 10/26/03, we went from awsome colony to a Top 3 Chapter in our region, and a top 12 chapter in the Sigma Pi Nation. What has your chapter done the last three years?

I believe.


I am an alumna, but I hope that my collegiate chapter has learned to type and spell in the past 3 years. (Hint: awEsome, not awsome)

That is great that you are proud of your chapter and I am sure you and your brothers have worked very hard. I am not one of the "snarky" posters on GC, but when you have a signature and a post as arrogant as these, and you bait other greeks with "what has your chapter done...", you open yourself up to criticism.

And, very uncool to be so indiscreet about membership selection and voting. Obviously I am not an IFC member nor am I a Sigma Pi, so I don't know if that is considered ritual or not, but it seems improper.

Sorry to be such a downer.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

And, very uncool to be so indiscreet about membership selection and voting. Obviously I am not an IFC member nor am I a Sigma Pi, so I don't know if that is considered ritual or not, but it seems improper.

I get the impression that in many IFCs, info about MS, such as how many votes it takes to pledge/depledge someone is not ritual-type info. We had an advisor in my college chapter that was a Kappa Alpha Order, and he stated many times that most KA Orders are "one ball chapters"...meaning one "no" vote, and you don't get a bid.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I get the impression that in many IFCs, info about MS, such as how many votes it takes to pledge/depledge someone is not ritual-type info. We had an advisor in my college chapter that was a Kappa Alpha Order, and he stated many times that most KA Orders are "one ball chapters"...meaning one "no" vote, and you don't get a bid.

I was always very happy to have been among those who was involved in a major "clean sweep" of our storage area - and was the one who got to throw out the Black Ball Box! Had ebay been around then, I'm sure that it would have fetched a great price!

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I get the impression that in many IFCs, info about MS, such as how many votes it takes to pledge/depledge someone is not ritual-type info. We had an advisor in my college chapter that was a Kappa Alpha Order, and he stated many times that most KA Orders are "one ball chapters"...meaning one "no" vote, and you don't get a bid.

This type of information could be (maybe still) found on some fraternity's inter/national websites.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

We had an advisor in my college chapter that was a Kappa Alpha Order, and he stated many times that most KA Orders are "one ball chapters"...meaning one "no" vote, and you don't get a bid.

That's what he wanted you to think. LOL. Sorry, but that one was too easy.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

And, very uncool to be so indiscreet about membership selection and voting. Obviously I am not an IFC member nor am I a Sigma Pi, so I don't know if that is considered ritual or not, but it seems improper.

Sorry to be such a downer.

Just curious. GLOs have the prerogative to make this known. So why shouldn't they be up front with this type information? Other than the usual "membership selection is ritual, should not be public, blah blah blah", why would this be uncool and improper?

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That's what he wanted you to think. LOL. Sorry, but that one was too easy.

some chapters at my school were like that, a lot were actually

[trideltapeach]

I agree with SenusretI that you should ignore it for now. Nothing to worry about until she rushes, and even after that, she's at another school. It might be time to put some of the blame on your ex, too.

[sdsuchelle]

I decided not to send a no-rec. Yeah, I'll be pissed if she does join ADPi, but whatever.. I don't even know for sure if she will rush.

And again, I do put the blame on my ex. I don't speak to him anymore. My problem with her is not the fact that she's dating my ex, but that she harrassed me for months after the cheating incident.

[Tom Earp]

If that is the case, then report her.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

If that is the case, then report her.

To who? Blueangel? The internet stalking police?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by sdsuchelle

I decided not to send a no-rec. Yeah, I'll be pissed if she does join ADPi, but whatever.. I don't even know for sure if she will rush.

And again, I do put the blame on my ex. I don't speak to him anymore. My problem with her is not the fact that she's dating my ex, but that she harrassed me for months after the cheating incident.

Yes, harassment would be a good reason for giving a bad rec for her.