Exclusivity -- too soon?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Conversely, would wanting to start dating exclusively after a month with 4 dates that went well be considered too soon?

Nope. I assume they talk in between dates and get to know each other that way.

However, that's kind of funny to literally do a date per week. I opt to do more lunch and dinner dates during the week, in addition to seeing what's up for the weekend. But if you're dating more than one person you can get very busy and tired juggling all of that. So I guess a date per week for one guy makes sense afterall.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

Like anything, it's up to the individuals in question. However, in my experience, if you start dating someone and you're both really into each other, you have waaaaay more than four dates in a month.

Originally Posted by amycat412

yes I agree. More like 4 dates in a week or week and a half.

I definitely agree.

The only exceptions would be if both people are super busy (or they are buying into that crap about playing hard to get and acting unavailable ).

[Sistermadly]

These days, exclusivity = "I don't want to wear a condom, so I'll tell you I'm not sleeping with anyone else."

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Nope. I assume they talk in between dates and get to know each other that way.

However, that's kind of funny to literally do a date per week. I opt to do more lunch and dinner dates during the week, in addition to seeing what's up for the weekend. But if you're dating more than one person you can get very busy and tired juggling all of that. So I guess a date per week for one guy makes sense afterall.

I thought the date per week thing was normal. Two maximum. That's the way it's always been with me.

When I read these dating/relationship/sex threads I feel like I live in a different universe. Or, maybe it isn't me, it's the people I used to hang with live in another universe.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

I thought the date per week thing was normal. Two maximum. That's the way it's always been with me.

When I read these dating/relationship/sex threads I feel like I live in a different universe. Or, maybe it isn't me, it's the people I used to hang with live in another universe.

Probably because you wanted it that way and/or your schedule called for it. If you and another person couldn't get enough of each other and were more spontaneous, maybe you'd do more than 2 dates a week.

[RU OX Alum]

what is considered a date? out to dinner? spending any time anywhere? I don't think going to Target is a "real" date. And a movie, yeah, I'd need to talk to you before you are my girlfriend, you can't just butter the popcorn in the dark.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

what is considered a date? out to dinner? spending any time anywhere? I don't think going to Target is a "real" date. And a movie, yeah, I'd need to talk to you before you are my girlfriend, you can't just butter the popcorn in the dark.

A "date" doesn't have to be something formal. It could just be any form of quality time. But having a formal date is still very necessary to win someone over and keep their interest.

I also think exclusive couples should schedule dates so they can keep the charm, romance, and excitement going.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

A "date" doesn't have to be something formal. It could just be any form of quality time. But having a formal date is still very necessary to win someone over and keep their interest.

I also think exclusive couples should schedule dates so they can keep the charm, romance, and excitement going.

okay, yeah i get that, but target? come on now.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

okay, yeah i get that, but target? come on now.

I was trying to think of reasons why a guy who wants to win me over would want to hang out with me at Target. Perhaps Target would be a quick stop before or after our REAL date.

[valkyrie]

Hee.

I think the people from my original post went out to dinner and then stopped at Target for something she had to get. I do think it qualifies as a "date," but I wouldn't find it appealing at all -- I'd never want to spend my first date with someone running an errand, even as part of a date. That doesn't bode well for any sense of excitement or romance, in my opinion.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

Hee.

I think the people from my original post went out to dinner and then stopped at Target for something she had to get. I do think it qualifies as a "date," but I wouldn't find it appealing at all -- I'd never want to spend my first date with someone running an errand, even as part of a date. That doesn't bode well for any sense of excitement or romance, in my opinion.

I wouldn't mind if it didn't take long, especially if he was buying snacks to smuggle into the movie theater.

[RU OX Alum]

well if she needed to stop that is one thing, i thought that was his idea of a date and i thought "wow, valkyrie has some strange friends" but now it makes a little more sense

[CutiePie2000]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

Hee.
I think the people from my original post went out to dinner and then stopped at Target for something she had to get.

Maybe she was stopping off at TARGET to buy her wedding dress, since you know, they were all exclusive and all dat. She sounded like classaaaaay folk, after all.

HEE.

[KAY10]

If I were him, I would just have fun with her. Too little time and too many women.