Exclusivity -- too soon?

33girl · #1 09-28-2006, 04:32 PM

A lot of people our age simply don't understand casual dating. I don't know why, but it's true. They go on more than one date with someone and it's automatically a relationship.

Unless there's an amazing connection, which there wasn't the way you describe it, it's way too soon. I'm guessing the woman is desperate for anything male and hooking on to the first thing that asks.

SydneyK · #2 09-28-2006, 04:43 PM

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I'm guessing the woman is desperate for anything male and hooking on to the first thing that asks.

Likewise, it sounds like the guy is desperate for anything female and leeching on to the first woman who makes it through date #2. And yes, I think that's creepy. (It also makes me wonder what date #3 must be like - it probably includes discussions about marriage and kids, and IMO date #3 is WAY too soon for that type of conversation.)

CutiePie2000 · #3 09-28-2006, 06:04 PM

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A lot of people our age simply don't understand casual dating.

Casual dating (i.e. dating multiple people)...hmm...I guess I've never met several good looking people within a short time span of each other, let alone good looking AVAILABLE people, to be able to date more than one at once. You just don't come across them that often, in my book.

I know valkyrie will appreciate where I am coming from, since she is attracted to TEH HOT.

valkyrie · #4 09-28-2006, 06:12 PM

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I know valkyrie will appreciate where I am coming from, since she is attracted to TEH HOT.

HAHA yes.

Anyway, I've decided to stay out of the situation because really, who am I to tell someone that I'd run like hell away from a guy who is socially retarded enough to want some sort of commitment after a trip to Target and a movie. If this works for them, cool -- and maybe it will, until she realizes that he greatly outweighs her on the needy scale, at which point she'll dump him to shack up with the dramariffic ex she will always want but can't really have OR some type of tattooed biker who wears a wallet chain and leaves a trail of knocked up women across the country before settling in a small apartment above a greasy spoon in Trenton, New Jersey. Ahhh, young love!

That said, let this be a lesson to you, people of GC -- don't talk about commitment after two dates.

DSTCHAOS · #5 09-28-2006, 06:14 PM

Are you drunk?

valkyrie · #6 09-28-2006, 06:42 PM

Not yet, but soon.

DSTCHAOS · #7 09-28-2006, 06:58 PM

The weekend has begun.

Scandia · #8 09-28-2006, 07:09 PM

Conversely, would wanting to start dating exclusively after a month with 4 dates that went well be considered too soon?

DSTCHAOS · #9 09-28-2006, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

A lot of people our age simply don't understand casual dating.

I've never met someone my age who didn't know what casual dating is. We seem to have that down to a T. But we're in the 29 to 32 age range so we've had enough dating and are ready to settle down. Not just with anyone and not just from a first date, though.

I have however noticed that older people don't know what casual dating is. They think it means that you two see each other when you have time, but that you don't see other people on the side.

It's like they want you all to themselves but only when they feel like being bothered with little to no expectations. But then they want you to cater to them and do things for them like you're all into them. BLAH to that.