Dirty Rush

[PeppyGPhiB]

It's pretty funny when I look back on it. I loved being on panhellenic, actually, and I preferred being on that side of rush. Disaffiliation was not fun, but on the other hand, the Rho Chis were basically our own little sorority. I also thought it was interesting getting to hear the comments from PNMs on all the sororities and seeing how releases, bid matching, etc. works from the panhellenic perspective.

The one year I was with my chapter during rush, I found it very stressful in comparison. Our rush advisor was from a southern univ. and was used to a totally different type of recruitment. Some of her tricks and tips made us giggle or roll our eyes, BUT I do have to say that our preference room looked like Heaven on Earth, and blew everyone else's away.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

The one year I was with my chapter during rush, I found it very stressful in comparison. Our rush advisor was from a southern univ. and was used to a totally different type of recruitment. Some of her tricks and tips made us giggle or roll our eyes, BUT I do have to say that our preference room looked like Heaven on Earth, and blew everyone else's away.

I've always wonder why aren't rush advisors and advisors in general pairs with schools that have similair systems that they are used to? If you rushed and spent all your time as an active in a large South system, and then as an advisor go up North, or out West, it's a totally differnet type of rush. Same with dorm schools vs. non-dorm schools, schools that everyone has a house vs. no one does, and the like. I have never understood this...

[adpiucf]

B/c advising is a volunteer position and people move.

[blackngoldengrl]

some of our consultants are paired with schools that had similar "greek culture." But i think a little diversity can add fresh air to a recruitment style. However, it was interesting talking with our consultant from a larger Washington state school, when I was at an east coast small private school!

[adpiucf]

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

Weeeeeeell, to avoid offending anyone she could be like "I'd love to! But wait-isn't that against rush rules or something?" and then go from there. Sort of playing dumb (which I NEVER advocate except in this particular type of situation) in order to avoid looking like the Rush Rules Enforcer Marshall or something.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

"Thank you for your kind invitation and for thinking of me. Unfortunately, I am unable to attend. Perhaps we can get together at a later date."

[OtterXO]

Originally Posted by TSteven

"Thank you for your kind invitation and for thinking of me. Unfortunately, I am unable to attend. Perhaps we can get together at a later date."

It seems a little formal for college aged conversation.... Plus, it sounds like a polite way to say "I'm not interested".

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Back to my original question-- what does the PNM say to such an invitation if she is asked and does not feel comfortable accepting, knowing it is against the rules and caring that it is against the rules?

Something like "That would be so fun! But isn't it against the rules? I don't want to get you guys in trouble..." That way it looks like she's looking out for them.

Once the sorority members realize that she knows it's against the rules and questioned them about it, I bet they would back off (if they're smart they would).

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

Something like "That would be so fun! But isn't it against the rules? I don't want to get you guys in trouble..." That way it looks like she's looking out for them.

Once the sorority members realize that she knows it's against the rules and questioned them about it, I bet they would back off (if they're smart they would).

I agree. This is an excellent way to reply.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

B/c advising is a volunteer position and people move.

True, but I think if at all possible, advisors should be paired up with similar systems that they are used to. We had the problem with my chapter, as a lot of people are unaware how a commuter school with a small greek system with locals that don't participate in FR have to go about doing things differnt from a non-commuter school/school that doesn't have the problem with locals, etc.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Buttonz

True, but I think if at all possible, advisors should be paired up with similar systems that they are used to. We had the problem with my chapter, as a lot of people are unaware how a commuter school with a small greek system with locals that don't participate in FR have to go about doing things differnt from a non-commuter school/school that doesn't have the problem with locals, etc.

Buttonz, volunteers don't grow on trees. You usually have to take what you can get.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Buttonz, volunteers don't grow on trees. You usually have to take what you can get.

That's why I said if it was possible to happen

I hate dirty rushing. I heard MANY times girls drop out because XYZ promised them they'd be in their sorority and they got cut by them after Round 2. My favorite was hearing girls come back later and tell us, "I really liked your chapter and would've joined but ABC (the group they joined) told me you guys were getting kicked off campus."