"The First Dance" songs

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

WTH, choreography at weddings? The wedding I planned, there was no choreographed dancing, and any future weddings I may have, no choreographed dancing.

I must be an old fuddy duddy.

This was back before the kind of "trend" of choreographed dancing hit (with the show "Rock the Reception" coming out).

Now, when a couple breaks out in choreography I'm like "really?"

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Every wedding I've been to in the past few years has had "At Last" and I think it is over used and cliche for weddings now.

I have a standing wager of $100 that "At Last" will be played at any given wedding I attend. I'm up lifetime, and it's not even close.

You guys really need to expand your cheese repertoire - Lonestar? Celine Dion? D'Angelo? Get f-ed.

As I see it, you have three main options:

1 - You have "your song" with a significant other. You're probably 13 if you do, so I'll assume this isn't true. Note that this generally becomes "I WISH this was our song!" from the woman's point of view.

2 - You're doing something super cheesy because you think you should. This is by far the worst, as it is really a "I've dreamed of this FOREVER!"-type semi-Bridezilla move. Most of you fall into this category probably - sorry!

3 - You're a hipster douche and want to go for irony (such as "Mother" by Danzig for the mom's dance). This is an awkward move, to say the least, but at least you'll have PBR and shitty sideburns at the reception.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

3 - You're a hipster douche and want to go for irony (such as "Mother" by Danzig for the mom's dance). This is an awkward move, to say the least, but at least you'll have PBR and shitty sideburns at the reception.

HAHA. You kill me sometimes.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I have a standing wager of $100 that "At Last" will be played at any given wedding I attend. I'm up lifetime, and it's not even close.

You guys really need to expand your cheese repertoire - Lonestar? Celine Dion? D'Angelo? Get f-ed.

As I see it, you have three main options:

1 - You have "your song" with a significant other. You're probably 13 if you do, so I'll assume this isn't true. Note that this generally becomes "I WISH this was our song!" from the woman's point of view.

2 - You're doing something super cheesy because you think you should. This is by far the worst, as it is really a "I've dreamed of this FOREVER!"-type semi-Bridezilla move. Most of you fall into this category probably - sorry!

3 - You're a hipster douche and want to go for irony (such as "Mother" by Danzig for the mom's dance). This is an awkward move, to say the least, but at least you'll have PBR and shitty sideburns at the reception.

I'm scared we've been attending the same weddings.

I just don't understand why there has to be "a song" at all. I thought the truly hipster douches would wear Misfits t-shirts and all the bridesmaids would be channeling Bettie Page or show up in their roller derby outfits. I want to go to a wedding where someone plays Dr. Octagon or Too $hort.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

What if it's Vanilla Ice choreography? Still no?

[ZTABullwinkle]

Our first dance was "Feels Like Home" from How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days, the first move we watched together. Little did I know it is a popular ZTA from Preference.

[agzg]

I really don't want a wedding or a reception but if live-in's mother makes me have one (she gave me the evil eye the last time marriage was brought up because I told her I wasn't sold on the whole huge white wedding thing) I think I'd want karaoke at my reception, because eventually all my family weddings turn into that anyway.

So I suppose our first dance would be to my cousin's drunken rendition of "Bills Bills Bills."

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I really don't want a wedding or a reception but if live-in's mother makes me have one (she gave me the evil eye the last time marriage was brought up because I told her I wasn't sold on the whole huge white wedding thing) I think I'd want karaoke at my reception, because eventually all my family weddings turn into that anyway.

So I suppose our first dance would be to my cousin's drunken rendition of "Bills Bills Bills."

YES (on the drunken Destiny's Child rendition).

I'm not sold on the big white shindig myself to be honest. The idea of paying to feed like 200 of my relatives (half of whom don'treally know me) has never thrilled me.

My family has vacation property in Vegas and I have spent alot of time there growing up, so it goes without saying that should anyone ever be crazy enough to marry me, everybody knows the deal.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

YES (on the drunken Destiny's Child rendition).

I'm not sold on the big white shindig myself to be honest. The idea of paying to feed like 200 of my relatives (half of whom don'treally know me) has never thrilled me.

My family has vacation property in Vegas and I have spent alot of time there growing up, so it goes without saying that should anyone ever be crazy enough to marry me, everybody knows the deal.

My dad recommended Vegas, too. But I think he just wants an excuse to use his timeshare. I wonder how live-in would feel life I was like "No, we HAVE to get married this week in February because my dad won't be able to stay for free otherwise!!"

One of my sisters had a destination wedding in Jamaica. They had two attendants (MOH and Best man), then their immediate families were there. It looked BEAUTIFUL and they had a blast. Seems like the way to go.

I'd be happy with a Justice of the Peace though. If I end up regretting not having a big wedding down the line, that's what vow renewals/second husbands are for!

Live-in's mom is planning a huge wedding for her and her boyfriend. They're not engaged yet, but I'm sure they'll walk down the aisle before we do.

I suppose I should add that while she was giving me the evil eye for not wanting a big wedding shindig she also said "Oh but I would so love to take you wedding dress shopping, since your mom won't be with us."

Uh... talking about a potential wedding and/or during/before/after/around my wedding plans IS NOT THE TIME to remind me that my mom won't be there. You don't forget your mother passing ever. Thanks.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I suppose I should add that while she was giving me the evil eye for not wanting a big wedding shindig she also said "Oh but I would so love to take you wedding dress shopping, since your mom won't be with us."

Uh... talking about a potential wedding and/or during/before/after/around my wedding plans IS NOT THE TIME to remind me that my mom won't be there. You don't forget your mother passing ever. Thanks.

No kidding!

As if you don't EVER think about that and need a reminder.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

No kidding!

As if you don't EVER think about that and need a reminder.

Right. She didn't mean any harm by it but it's hard for some people to imagine getting married and having kids without their mom there. She was much older when her mom passed. She also doesn't realize that my mom and I were very close, so we'd already talked a lot about making relationships work before she passed. I'll probably take her up on the kids advice, though. All my mom ever said about that is that she and my dad made sure to have settled careers before kids so they could afford them.

She's ok, she just needs eveyone's attention on her all the time. We get along well but if live-in and I had a big wedding, she'd drive me bonkers during the planning. If I wasn't positive that she actually did like me a lot I would worry more about her doing the really crazy MIL things, like wearing white to the wedding and insisting that live-in sit with her instead of me during the reception.

ETA: Sorry for the hijack. My song is a few posts back. Drunken Destiny's Child. Bonus points for it being a song about a man who did you wrong.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm not sold on the big white shindig myself to be honest. The idea of paying to feed like 200 of my relatives (half of whom don'treally know me) has never thrilled me.

I so agree. DH and I wanted a small white shindig, and that's exactly what we had. We invited those family members we were close to, a few family friends on each side, and our friends. (MIL added a bunch of her friends to the guest list, but she paid for them.)

I once joked in front of MIL that DH and I were going to elope. MIL threw a tantrum worthy of a three-year-old.

To steer this thread slightly back onto topic... The fact that we were having a small wedding was a big factor in our choice of band. The band we chose was not only really good (they played at a friend's wedding and we all but booked them on the spot), they adjusted their volume to the size of the venue. If you have fewer than 100 guests, you don't need a band that makes Metallica sound like a bunch of monks observing a vow of silence. Our band played at just the right volume - loud enough for dancing but not so loud that you couldn't hold a conversation.

[KSig RC]

There's a not-at-all-startling lack of creativity in this thread so far.

You do have to dance to it, right? So why would "At Last" be a starkly better choice than, say, "Digital Love" by Daft Punk, which is actually a much more appropriate 'love song' for the occasion? It's like theknot.com has turned every f-ing wedding I go to into the exact same lame doppelganger party. I'll take the chicken, by the way.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I'll take the chicken, by the way.

You mean you don't want the beef?

Would you like mashed potatoes or roasted red skinned ones with green beans almondine?

[WVU alpha phi]

Funny this thread was bumped, I was thinking of first dance songs this morning (not sure why). I really like Tim McGraw's "All We Ever Find".. it might be my top choice now for the big day, whenever that happens!