Sorority Shopping?

[MBurden]

If you would review the message boards, and you clearly haven't, those seeking to join a sorority through AI don't "shop" on these boards...there is an unwritten rule that you don't mention the name of the sorority that you are seeking to join until AFTER you have been initiated. This is for alot of reasons, mainly, because it's an individual choice and isn't anyone else's business.

The other purpose of the board is to let people know that the process of AI exists and you are incorrectly ASSUMING that the only people that get to join through AI are those that are already affiliated with the organization in some way, and this is simply not true all of the time.

When I was in college, I couldn't tell you the number of women that pledged sororities, then complained weekly about all of the "work" that it took and the "hassle" of attending functions, doing required volunteer work, etc. Then when they graduate, they want something to put on their resume, and they never do anything with their alumni again.

I would wager that this is the MAJORITY of college-joiners, as Sorority Alumni organizations are often begging for others in their sorority to assist with volunteer efforts for college rushes, advisement, etc.

AI isn't easy, and it isn't a picnic...if we are permitted to join a sorority through AI, we don't have the connection that many of our new sisters will have since their freshman or sophomore years of college. It's the longest "rush" possible and can take months or years to complete.

I have been looking at only two sororities for AI...these are the SAME TWO that I would have joined in college.

If I am choosen to join through AI I don't want a badge in my jewelry drawer, or a couple of cute pictures on my wall. I want to be an ACTIVE member and not a wallflower.

Things tend to be valued more for those that have to work harder to earn it, and AI is work, it's alot of waiting, alot of hoping, and it doesn't work out for all of us.

The choice is ultimately up to the local chapter....if they don't want somoene to join AI, then they are completely within their rights not to.

Who are you to say the process should be stopped?