Convenient Relationship

[Boodleboy322]

I really don't want to stay with this person forever and want to find "The One". I could easily see us getting married in a few years out of convenience and then getting divorced a few years after.

Fraternally,

Boodleboy322

[Drolefille]

If you don't think this is the One, why go as far as marriage? I'd say you need to back out now before you do just get hitched for the hell of it. And that's expensive, so is divorce.

Plus, 3 more years with someone you don't really love and want to spend your life with is 3 years you could be missing out on with someone else.

[texas*princess]

If you don't think this is the one, cut your losses and move on.

I saw many many friends get married right out of college and even high school just because it was the next thing to do when they graduated.

Out of all of them who got married, most of them lasted maybe 2 years tops before they got the Big D.

My last boyfriend and I dated FOR-E-VER. Almost 5 years to be exact. And we were quasi-together for a year after that until I said enough was enough. If I hadn't cut the cord, it is very likely that we would have gotten married just because it was the next level to take it to, or I would have stayed with him forever waiting for marriage.

Either scenario wasn't appealing, so I left.. and left quickly.

[RU OX Alum]

dump her now, she's the reason taxes are so high

[f8nacn]

Originally Posted by Boodleboy322

I really don't want to stay with this person forever and want to find "The One". I could easily see us getting married in a few years out of convenience and then getting divorced a few years after.

Fraternally,

Boodleboy322

If you know now that you don't want to continue with this person "forever", then I believe that you should talk with her about it...tell her that you rather be "friends if at all possible". Explain to her that you are looking for more and why it isn't happening with her. Just be real...be honest! I would appreciate that more than going along for a ride (however long it is) to be hurt and confused in the end.