Has there been anyone who has never been in a relationship?

Rollergirl2001 · #1 11-12-2004, 12:38 AM

I'm one of them.

I haven't dated in almost 3 years. The last (and only) guy that I have been out was too quiet for my speed. My friend got me to meet a guy last week, but the guy was not my type. He's not a party person, and he doesn't drink at all. You see, I'm picky about guys. For example, I like older guys and a guy who is a little wild. So there.

Also, I'm full figured, so that explained why I'm not having any luck in the love department. I feel left out because all of my friends have boyfriends. When I started college, I was like guys are not a big deal to me. But in my sophomore year, I started to get interested in dating guys. I wanted to date my childhood friend, but he has a girlfriend. I know that school is my priority, but it doesn't hurt to look for a guy.

Taualumna · #2 11-12-2004, 01:10 AM

Ashley,

I'm 25 and I haven't had an official date in over a year. These days, I'm just going with my normal routine. I get up, do some homework, look for jobs, go to parties, just like everything's normal. If you act like you want a boyfriend badly, you're not going to get one. It works that way with anything. Best of luck!

-Cynthia

polarpi · #3 11-12-2004, 03:10 AM

Ashley,

I know where you're coming from. I'm a 24 (and a half

) year old who has YET to go on a date, let alone be in a relationship...the right time will come along for you, though I know it's hard to wait until that time occurs. There are times I question why I haven't been blessed with someone to even just "hang out with", but then I figure that he just isn't ready for me yet

It doesn't "hurt" to look for a guy, but at the same time, I don't think you're going to college to get your degree in a relationship, are you? Enjoy this time of getting to meet so many people that may not be relationship-material (in a "romantic" sense), but may become the people who mean more to you than any short-term relationship!

Dionysus · #4 11-12-2004, 12:33 PM

I've casually dated several guys, but I have never been in a serious relationship. I guess I'm too picky, none of the guys seemed to be serious relationship material.

cashmoney · #5 11-12-2004, 02:42 PM

All of you are loosers.

XOMichelle · #6 11-12-2004, 03:26 PM

No they aren't. It's good not to be boy crazy like me.

adpiucf · #7 11-12-2004, 03:31 PM

Relationships are really not all they are cracked up to be. If you've never been in one, I can understand where the grass seems greener on the other side, but I think that until you grow to know yourself more fully-- be it through travel, learning, being around other people and trying new things-- you really don't know what you're looking for in a partner. It's ok to have casual dates and relationships.... life is a banquet, so eat up!

And for the record, I'm taking a break from relationships. I'm a little tired of it all... not quite jaded, not at all bitter... but if a guy wants to be with me... he's going to have make a considerable effort to show he's interested.

WCUgirl · #8 11-12-2004, 04:23 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
All of you are loosers.

Only losers don't know how to spell the word correctly.

GeekyPenguin · #9 11-12-2004, 04:47 PM

You can't blame your figure for your lack of boyfriend. Plenty of overweight girls have boyfriends, husbands, girlfriends, whatever floats their boat.

Try not being so picky. In my ideal GP world, I'd only date ice Irish Catholic boys. I never end up doing it but that doesn't prevent me from being in a relationship.

Happiness doesn't revolve around a man. Some of the happiest times of my life were when I was single and didn't have anybody else to care about besides myself.

chideltjen · #10 11-12-2004, 05:04 PM

I was in the same boat for a long time. My last real long term relationship ended almost 3 years ago. After that I dated guys that wanted something casual when I wanted something serious. I did this multiple times. It was unnecessary stress.

Up until now, I hadn't had a date in almost a year. But I also didn't care. I just went on with my life and enjoyed being single. And suddenly this great guy showed up in my life.

My secret? I stopped looking.

I figure at 23, I have my whole life to be married/in a serious relationship. Why spend my single years tied down? It's not me anymore. I may be dating now, but whether or not anything serious comes out of it, I'm not pushing now.

PhoenixAzul · #11 11-12-2004, 06:01 PM

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Originally posted by GeekyPenguin

In my ideal GP world, I'd only date nice Irish Catholic boys. I never end up doing it but that doesn't prevent me from being in a relationship.

HAHA, oddly enough, the only guy I've ever dated (and am still dating) is a nice Irish Catholic boy. I'm talking red hair, born on St. Patrick's day. He was also my sponsor when I decided to beocome catholic. Just goes to show kids...you CAN find a decent man on the internet!

PhoenixAzul · #12 11-12-2004, 09:39 PM

Also, coming from a girl who is size 14+, you can't pidgeonhole yourself as "full figured". Pidgeonhole yourself as a confident college woman with plenty to offer anyone who is smart enough to take interest in you. When you walk into a room, walk in there like someone just played the Miss America victory song. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like your percieved size is unnatractive, that's how people hold power over others, by making them feel inadequate/separate/unequal because of some percieved flaw.

AKA_Monet · #13 11-12-2004, 10:05 PM

Hey nothin' wrong with having a dry spell every now and then...

Also the male "Seasonal Affective Disorder" starts about this time--from Thanksgiving in November to Valentine's Day in February... All the Holidays are coming up and they have to have "family time"... They only want to be with the serious girls around that time. And if they don't have a serious girl, most men will NOT be bringing what they think is a stank ho in front of their mommas'... Besides, playerz don't buy their women any real gifts--which means that Christmas and Valentine's Day knocked outta the box...

However, men do want a "funky time" on New Year's Eve, so they be hookin' it up with freakiest, then dump her by MLK Day weekend--just before VD...

The time to have the ultimate serious boyfriend connection was in May or June...

So ladies, if you do hook up with a man during this time, just know that your odds of being with that boy beyond fling stage could be minimal... Unless your boy is a "nice guy" and wants a woman around this time...

And if you think I am wrong in my thinking, just as all the jewelry stores what products are sold in the highest amounts during the "season" and I am willing to guarentee they are engagement rings or diamond containing products...

cashmoney · #14 11-13-2004, 01:35 PM

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Originally posted by AXiD670
Only losers don't know how to spell the word correctly.

cash78mere · #15 11-14-2004, 11:40 AM

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Originally posted by Rollergirl2001

Also, I'm full figured, so that explained why I'm not having any luck in the love department. I feel left out because all of my friends have boyfriends.

being full figured shouldn't have anything to do with boyfriends. there are MANY guys who will only date plus-sized women.

although i had boyfriends through high school and college, the relationship that i'm in now (i'm 26) is really my only "true" relationship where i love him dearly and can't wait to see him every day. every other relationship i never really cared about.

my suggestion----go on match.com. allow men to see your picture and read about you and then THEY can approach you safely by writing. you don't even have to write to anyone if you're afraid of rejection. i know so many people who have had success with it, me included. i know 2 people who are engaged to the boyfriend they met on it.

i think you'll have success because YOU'LL be in control. you can search for your older, wilder man. and you don't have to tell anyone where you met. it can be your little secret

good luck to you.