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06-06-2006, 05:30 PM
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I had a co-worker who had to deliver her stillborn baby on mothers day last year
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Talk about tough. She will have that reminder every year, and it will be stronger because of the day it happened.
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06-06-2006, 11:36 PM
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It's definitely a very personal experience for anybody that's been through it but I have always thought that the hardest part of a miscarriage is the loss of the unknown. You'll always wonder what kind of person the child would have been, what he/she would have looked like, etc. I think it compounds the emotions.
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06-07-2006, 06:40 AM
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I think it greatly depends on the circumstances. I had a miscarriage after just a few weeks, after getting pregnant while on the pill. I was more stressed than happy about that pregnancy, so I didn't mourn. Had I been trying for years to get pregnant and gone through all kinds of fertility steps to get pregnant, then I would have felt differently, I'm sure. With my two healthy pregnancies, I can honestly say that I didn't really feel connected to those babies until I started feeling them move.. around 22 or 23 weeks. That's when I felt like there were living things inside of me and started really interacting with them. Before that point, I pretty much just felt like I had the flu. It's impossible to figure out how I would have reacted if I had miscarried either of them. They weren't planned, but they were very wanted, so my mind set was definitely different with them than with the first pregnancy.
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06-13-2006, 04:05 AM
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I've had 3 miscarriages, all within the first trimester. I mourned all 3 of them when they happened, and since they've been rather recent, I still remember the time of year (though I can't recall the exact dates) that they occurred. The only time I mention my miscarriages is when discussion calls for it (much to the dismay of some people who apparently prefer to keep pregnancy loss a secret).
IMO, what adds to the emotions is the d&c procedure - done @ a hospital, under anesthesia... I can only describe it as very sorrowful. I don't like to think about those times..waking up after it's all over, it's very devastating.
Anyway, I've had friends who have miscarried AFTER the first trimester (around 20 weeks) and had to go through labor. (When this happens, usually the parents have a burial, as did my friends.) I can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster they went through.
The way people choose to mourn is very personal. Why criticize them?
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06-13-2006, 06:22 AM
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It's disgusting to make fun of someone for something like this.
No matter what your problem with someone on this board is, it's sick. All over something on a FRIGGIN' INTERNET MESSAGE BOARD.
This is such a personal and tragic thing. I hope that it never happens to any of you that are making fun of this sort of situation.
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06-13-2006, 07:42 AM
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If my wife were to have a miscarriage, there would be a mourning period immediately after it happened. I'm sure it would continue to be a sad memory after that, but I wouldn't necessarily say we'd continue to mourn.
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06-13-2006, 09:00 AM
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To me, it depends on how late in the pregnancy was the baby miscarried.
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06-13-2006, 10:39 AM
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Make fun of who?? What even suggests that the discussion is about making fun of someone.
You need to stop harassing us Dani. It's so sickening.
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It's disgusting to make fun of someone for something like this.
No matter what your problem with someone on this board is, it's sick. All over something on a FRIGGIN' INTERNET MESSAGE BOARD.
This is such a personal and tragic thing. I hope that it never happens to any of you that are making fun of this sort of situation.
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06-13-2006, 12:51 PM
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Let's turn it up a notch...
1000's may be millions of cryo-preserved embryos will have to thrown away as human biohazard medical waste this year because they've been frozen for too long...
If you all know what "blastula stage" is, and the size of it is 1/100th of that of a head of pin under an electron microscope, then should be mourn the clidoxing, autoclaved thawed out human biohazard wasted blastulas because they never got implanted into a uterus?
Mind you, only a few actually do become implanted into the uterine horn if injected properly...
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06-13-2006, 12:55 PM
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Let's turn it up a notch...
1000's may be millions of cryo-preserved embryos will have to thrown away as human biohazard medical waste this year because they've been frozen for too long...
If you all know what "blastula stage" is, and the size of it is 1/100th of that of a head of pin under an electron microscope, then should be mourn the clidoxing, autoclaved thawed out human biohazard wasted blastulas because they never got implanted into a uterus?
Mind you, only a few actually do become implanted into the uterine horn if injected properly...
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True. It's like whenever guys shake hands with the unemployed, you know you should be mourning a loss right there.
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06-13-2006, 12:59 PM
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True. It's like whenever guys shake hands with the unemployed, you know you should be mourning a loss right there.
-Rudey
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Dude, you totally lost me... Huh? 
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06-13-2006, 01:09 PM
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Okey... You went there...
Now why would you be wasting your "spunk"? Like into outer space...
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06-13-2006, 01:11 PM
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Okey... You went there...
Now why would you be wasting your "spunk"? Like into outer space...
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Sometimes I watch the weather channel and it turns me on. But every guy is different.
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06-13-2006, 01:15 PM
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Sometimes I watch the weather channel and it turns me on. But every guy is different.
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Like DAT? Whenever winds blowing? Wow!!! Sez much for your accomplishments for the day...
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